Post by jhicks1987 on Sept 15, 2015 23:32:19 GMT -5
Hi guys can you advise on whether i should send the girl i love flowers or something, she ended up dumping me and breaking my heart. she won't communicate with me after we split up last in July. The last conversation i had with her was way back in july but I steadily facebook her and texted her until September, I do really love this girl, she has ignored every text. I flew down too sweden to see her at the end of march and stayed til June, so i have developed feelings for her. She broke up due to wanting space than told me she didn't love me anymore afterwards, followed by telling me i harassed her too often. i live in canada, she lives in sweden. When i told her I loved her she asked for space. She broke up due to wanting space than told me she didn't love me anymore afterwards, followed by telling me i harassed her too often. She told me she didn't want to fix anything and it was both of our faults and to leave her alone. She told me she isn't looking for another guy or that it wasn't about a guy, I feel bad cause one day she mentioned her weight when i was down in sweden and i was surprised about it, so i told her you can lose weight if you want too, and she was very upset, i cried as well, we did forgive eachother though, but she kept bringing it up before we went to sleep together. I planned on seeing her in febuary her turn to come down here and live with me when I move out I'm 28 and she's 22. Any advice? Please, I do love this girl and perhaps want to make a future or even have her talk to me again.
Last Edit: Sept 16, 2015 0:54:37 GMT -5 by jhicks1987
I'm sorry to say, you need to let her go. If she has told you she doesn't love you and that you are harassing her, then you need to back off and let her have her space. Harassing her further is just going to make things worse.
In the meantime, concentrate on living your life, and making yourself happy. Time will make things easier.
Post by jhicks1987 on Sept 16, 2015 14:14:04 GMT -5
I know you're right. Is there any chance she will talk to me again? I know I fucked up and she knows that too, she feels she also made some mistakes. If I give it time, can I call her after 30 days or something? Like I do love this girl. I think she was looking for a way out. She told me she felt it was too serious so she's obviously not serious. I guess her parents are right. But please let me know if I can do anything, even if we can be friends.
Last Edit: Sept 16, 2015 14:44:30 GMT -5 by jhicks1987
There is always the possibility that she'll talk to you again, but it has to be her choice. Right now, you need to prove that you can do what she asks of you, which is to give her some space. As much space as she needs.
IF you absolutely need to talk to her after a certain time (try giving her longer than 30 days) then email her or text her. Don't call her unless she says it's okay.
from everything you've posted Jhicks1987 it sounds like this girl does not want a relationship with you. I know that can be very painful when you care about someone so much. But if you've been facebooking and texting her since July with few or no replies. And she's specifically asked you to give her space and said that she feels you're harassing her, it's not a good idea to continue to email or text her.
I would try to wait more than 30 days. It would be better to let her get in contact with you first.
Good luck and welcome to SU
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It just wasn't meant to be. In the end, we can't really force someone to like us. All we can do is have the courage to try again somehow. But i know it's easier said than done. Don't take it too much to heart or think about it too much.
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I feel for you man, I've been there so many times and got a wardrobe of t-shirts for my troubles. Anybody ending a relationship can always make the other person feel like they are the problem. From the sound of things you are better off out. If she did take you back, on what basis would your relationship be formed? It would surely be one way traffic in the love and affection department. You should hold your head high, draw a line under this chapter and remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea, plenty of better, more compatible fish in the sea and putting in my unique way, it is normal to catch a bad fish once in a while. You just learn from your mistakes and become a better person from the experience.
Last Edit: Jan 9, 2016 18:36:47 GMT -5 by spfreely