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Post by YouNeedLove on Dec 19, 2015 1:05:26 GMT -5
Most women seem to think badly of men who watch porn and they may even see porn as immoral. I'm always taken by surprise by this reaction. Why would it be better if a guy sleeps around in the real world and potentially gathers a few STD:s rather than just him masturbating in front of a monitor to coloured geometrical shapes we call porn?
It can not be out of some sisterly compassion with the porn actresses because there's porn where it's not only voluntary from the woman's side but also non-profit material.
If a girl masturbates and fantasizes about men and even googles for pictures of penises that wouldn’t bother me the slightest, rather I see it as positive that she is into sexual stimulation. But if a guy does it then its bad? Do they think they are competing with the porn actresses or what? :S
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Post by ura on Dec 19, 2015 16:43:58 GMT -5
That's a lovely way to phrase looking at porn.  How many women have you encountered that have problems with porn? |
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Post by YouNeedLove on Dec 19, 2015 21:22:44 GMT -5
That's a lovely way to phrase looking at porn. How many women have you encountered that have problems with porn? I don't go polling everyone but I've met at least 3 being disgusted by it or a reaction of similar kind. |
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Post by Scotty on Dec 20, 2015 2:05:19 GMT -5
That's a lovely way to phrase looking at porn. How many women have you encountered that have problems with porn? I don't go polling everyone but I've met at least 3 being disgusted by it or a reaction of similar kind. Eh, you're just talking to the wrong women. There are plenty out there who would go "well of course you watch porn, you are a guy after all  " There are also lots of women who watch porn themselves. It just depends on what kind of background you're from I guess. |
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Post by ura on Dec 24, 2015 8:41:47 GMT -5
Yep, I agree with Scotty, different strokes for different folks (no pun intended ) but if some women don't like porn I guess that's there thing, I don't see porn as a big deal at all, I can't imagine many women would have problems with watching porn but I wouldn't really talk about it with some women. |
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Post by silence on Dec 26, 2015 17:09:01 GMT -5
I'm interested you said "most women".
Depends on the circumstances I would be disturbed if a random guy started talking to me about his porn habits, honestly unless there's a good reason I'm not really interested. There's some social stigma about women enjoying porn so they might just be responding negativity due to that.
"Why would it be better if a guy sleeps around in the real world and potentially gathers a few STD:s rather than just him masturbating in front of a monitor to coloured geometrical shapes we call porn?"
Personally I wouldn't have a good reaction if a man said this to me. If a guy I was dating said that to me I would feel totally worthless and cry myself to sleep every night. I'd hope we could find something to watch together and enjoy. I mean what's wrong with you if you think that's the other option to watching porn. Maybe try relating to these women a bit more maybe show them some relaxed amateur videos, help them open up about their sexuality a bit more, take the shame away. Of course not everyone's going to be into it and that's fine.
Women will compare themselves to the actresses and will probably end up feeling insecure and inadequate about it I think that's perfectly normal, unless it's just me... Maybe they're worried men who watch a lot of porn have unreal expectations. Not liking porn because of how the industry treats the actors is totally justifiable, unless you're specifying you only watch consensual amateur videos.
But I'm not really sure why you are going into such detail about your porn habits in the first place. idk just trying to look at it from a female perspective.
As long as you're not supporting the abusive industry, addicted or watching anything illegal carry on.
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Post by YouNeedLove on Jan 1, 2016 18:02:10 GMT -5
I'm interested you said "most women". Depends on the circumstances I would be disturbed if a random guy started talking to me about his porn habits, honestly unless there's a good reason I'm not really interested. There's some social stigma about women enjoying porn so they might just be responding negativity due to that. "Why would it be better if a guy sleeps around in the real world and potentially gathers a few STD:s rather than just him masturbating in front of a monitor to coloured geometrical shapes we call porn?" Personally I wouldn't have a good reaction if a man said this to me. If a guy I was dating said that to me I would feel totally worthless and cry myself to sleep every night. I'd hope we could find something to watch together and enjoy. I mean what's wrong with you if you think that's the other option to watching porn. Maybe try relating to these women a bit more maybe show them some relaxed amateur videos, help them open up about their sexuality a bit more, take the shame away. Of course not everyone's going to be into it and that's fine. Women will compare themselves to the actresses and will probably end up feeling insecure and inadequate about it I think that's perfectly normal, unless it's just me... Maybe they're worried men who watch a lot of porn have unreal expectations. Not liking porn because of how the industry treats the actors is totally justifiable, unless you're specifying you only watch consensual amateur videos. But I'm not really sure why you are going into such detail about your porn habits in the first place. idk just trying to look at it from a female perspective. As long as you're not supporting the abusive industry, addicted or watching anything illegal carry on. Thanks for your thoughtful reply  . I guess the thing comes into a different light if you are actually in a relationship/dating. When I say watching porn, I mainly refer to doing it while being single. In a relationship, I see it as more problematic for the reasons you stated. I agree that porn can contribute to unreal expectations. Therefore it might be important that men (and women) are exposed to diversity in terms of body types and personalities in pornographic material. Thankfully, the porn material accessible is extremely varied for those who want to culture their appreciation of all "types". Going into porn habits feels like something you need to do if you are opening up to another person to 100%. I wouldn't do it any longer, due to these bad experiences, however. From this conversation and my life experience, I think a good rule of thumb is "don't ask, don't tell". |
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" There are also lots of women who watch porn themselves. It just depends on what kind of background you're from I guess.
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