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Post by ShyBorg on Aug 18, 2018 20:38:04 GMT -5
Since “practice makes perfect”, I figured these sites would be good to try and make some friends online. •Slowly This is an app that emulates the experience of writing to a penpal. It pairs you with random people based on your interests. www.getslowly.com•Friend-making subreddits: www.reddit.com/r/Needafriend/www.reddit.com/r/MakeNewFriendsHere•Meetup.com For social gatherings in real life. Only for the most confident shy person.  They have just about any topic, including shyness meetups. www.meetup.com/topics/Can anybody find more? |
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Post by ura on Aug 19, 2018 9:16:41 GMT -5
I've gone to about two meetup groups and have made some friends out of it, it can be daunting to begin with but they can be useful. I would just advise you go to a meetup group with an interest or a point like an anime meetup, rock climbing meetup, LARP meetup or football meetup. Something were the primary objective is something other than meeting people. It sounds silly I know but it can be a bit easier on you to meet people while focusing on something other than meeting people. I went once to a 20s meetup for people and everyone or most people just seemed like they were there to meet the opposite sex and there was this kind of desperate vibe given off.
I've made online friends by joining forums and eventually you begin to talk to random people online, I've found that works quite well.
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Aug 19, 2018 17:54:56 GMT -5
Those look like some good sites, sometimes if I just go into a communities of something that I'm interested in and interest with the people on it I can make freinds. Something I tried recently was an app called called skout. The idea was that you could see people on the app near you or be connected with a random person, I did find this too much as foe a start half of the profiles looked fake and secondly within a few minuetes people were messaging me on it. It was all a bit crazy for me, but maybe it'd work for some of you??? |
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Post by Outcast on Aug 20, 2018 2:02:15 GMT -5
When i think about trying those sites, i feel i'm just not confident that other people will like me. I don't think i know the right words to say. Hopefully others here can find them helpful.
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Aug 20, 2018 17:01:06 GMT -5
Another one I found yesterday is called bottled, it's an app where the basic idea is that you write a message that's sent to a random person on the app and if they like the message they keep your bottle and message you and if not they throw it away and it goes to someone else. The people seem pretty deccent on here and you can togle the ages of the people you send bottles to and recive bottles from so it's pretty good. bottledapp.com |
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Post by ShyBorg on Aug 22, 2018 0:01:33 GMT -5
Maybe don’t try the ones where it connects you randomly, you might end up talking to some weird people.
You should try, it couldn’t hurt. (Really, what’s not to like?)
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Post by Outcast on Aug 22, 2018 3:01:18 GMT -5
You should try, it couldn’t hurt. (Really, what’s not to like?) I've tried the bottled app, and it notified me that my message was received. It also notified me that the one who received my message passed it on to another person.... I guess you have the option to either reply to a message or pass it on to another. I've also tried the app SKOUT. I get very intimidated when i see all kinds of people there online. I've tried reaching out to someone from another country but i guess there is a language barrier. People check me sometimes there. Especially when i check out their profile first. But, its hard. I feel really uncomfortable if i post my picture there. So having no picture only sets me back more naturally. I did get one or two messages from other people. But i do feel guilty when i don't respond to them. That's why i do understand when people reject me. Because i'm guilty of doing it as well. |
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Post by matthewtheshyperson on Aug 22, 2018 18:19:42 GMT -5
You should try, it couldn’t hurt. (Really, what’s not to like?) I've tried the bottled app, and it notified me that my message was received. It also notified me that the one who received my message passed it on to another person.... I guess you have the option to either reply to a message or pass it on to another. I've also tried the app SKOUT. I get very intimidated when i see all kinds of people there online. I've tried reaching out to someone from another country but i guess there is a language barrier. People check me sometimes there. Especially when i check out their profile first. But, its hard. I feel really uncomfortable if i post my picture there. So having no picture only sets me back more naturally. I did get one or two messages from other people. But i do feel guilty when i don't respond to them. That's why i do understand when people reject me. Because i'm guilty of doing it as well. Yeah the person either rejects your message and it just goes to another person or they accept and you have the option to message then. That's the problem I had with SKOUT it showed me pictures of people who were apprantley near me and then some of those people started messaging me, which lead to me deleting my account within 20 minuetes. |
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Post by Outcast on Aug 27, 2018 23:40:08 GMT -5
That's the problem I had with SKOUT it showed me pictures of people who were apprantley near me and then some of those people started messaging me, which lead to me deleting my account within 20 minuetes. Well, i don't get that problem anymore. Ever since i posted my picture in my profile in SKOUT. No one's been messaging me anymore. Problem solved. I tried Slowly for a bit. But eventually i realized i just don't have the patience anymore to wait for letters that take days to come. I dunno. Maybe it's the influence of the technology of the times. People tend to get what they want a bit faster nowadays. I think i've also lost my patience with Bottled. Sorry its probably just me. I've been feeling down more often these days. (Did something bold and fool hardy and ended up embarrassing myself.) I think other people might still enjoy them and get something from it. |
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Post by ShyBorg on Aug 28, 2018 16:37:56 GMT -5
You should try, it couldn’t hurt. (Really, what’s not to like?) I've tried the bottled app, and it notified me that my message was received. It also notified me that the one who received my message passed it on to another person.... I guess you have the option to either reply to a message or pass it on to another. I've also tried the app SKOUT. I get very intimidated when i see all kinds of people there online. I've tried reaching out to someone from another country but i guess there is a language barrier. People check me sometimes there. Especially when i check out their profile first. But, its hard. I feel really uncomfortable if i post my picture there. So having no picture only sets me back more naturally. I did get one or two messages from other people. But i do feel guilty when i don't respond to them. That's why i do understand when people reject me. Because i'm guilty of doing it as well. I guess it is a little easier said than done. There was another app called Whisper that I tried once, where you would basically type whatever is on your mind onto an image you selected, and anyone could read it and either reply or send you a private message. I tried messaging a few people and got nervous when I didn’t have anything to say. But if you get used to it it’ll get easier. (I’m still not too good at that yet... but I know I’ll get better.) Just remember, conversation is an equal exchange - you share something and then they share something back. (I’m going to have to make a seperate post about that too.) 🙂 |
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Post by Outcast on Sept 7, 2018 23:31:17 GMT -5
Whisper? Maybe i'll try that too. Still have the Bottled app and Slowly. It's nice when you do get a bottle or message mail. You still get a chance to reply to people from all over the world. I would like to get a chance to exchange letters with people from another country despite the language barrier. I want to use a foreign language app so i can both understand them and write to them in their language. That's what gets me excited sometimes. If that could work, i think it would be great. Language apps nowadays seems very accurate and reliable.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 21, 2018 5:32:53 GMT -5
Well. I've managed to gain one or two penpals at least in Slowly. I've also met and chatted with at least two more people in a different app called HelloTalk. It's an app aimed to those who want to learn a new language and meet native speakers.
Then, i'm also trying to form friendships from a few people i've met via a dating site.
It can turn quite busy when i have to talk to more than one of them at the same time. So sometimes i find myself trying to spare some time for all of them.
So yeah, having to do that. It does eat some of my free time for myself. But i think i'm learning a little bit how to talk to people. Just a little bit. Sometimes i still run out of things to talk about. (Maybe i have to come back to this site often to check the tips ShyBorg gave me.
Anyways. That's my small update. I don't have much luck talking with people in Bottled. I don't think most people there are in it for chatting long?
Oh and i haven't tried Whisper yet. Since i think i've met quite a handful of people already.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 25, 2018 22:01:16 GMT -5
Things are slowing down now. As i kind of expected them to be. Some people just don't reply to me anymore. When this happens, all that "online bravado" quickly disappears. There are times that i feel i shouldn't give up and continue to TRY and get a reply from them. But i don't want to force a reply from them, since that what i feel when they take some time to get back to you or just don't reply to you at all.
I guess i'm stubborn in trying to force myself to think of things to say on my own. Then end up having thought of anything good. When i force myself to say/write something to them, sometimes i end up showing all my negativity about myself. I think that's when things start falling apart, and i give off a pitiful or weird vibe or something. I think this is what i should really try to avoid doing.
Anyways, i guess getting no replies gives some time to rest for awhile.
Well maybe i'll try reaching out to them after a time. I could be just overdoing it since i really unsure about how to go about things "socially".
But i have to take the "hint" sometime if people just don't want to talk to me anymore.
That's that for now. Just letting things out.
EDIT: Oh. I think it kinda helps if i don't make a big deal out of friends/having friends. Media maybe putting too much importance on friends and putting them on a pedestal. If i lower my standards of what friends are/for, i can expect less of them and won't have to feel too bad or take things too seriously. Then still go on about trying to meet new people.
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