signs that woman are coming onto you

[{T}meister]

i'm not very good when woman try to come on to me i must be so stupid coz i don't know..

so what are the signs that i need to look out for when i'm out?

[zaab]

A steamy gaze coupled by a full lick lip, like a cat licking its chops, is a pretty good sign, but I wouldn't count on this happening every day.


Touch is a reliable sign, especially if they don't touch any old person and they're not a salesperson by trade. If they are fully facing you and their body language is open, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are into you, but they do like you in some capacity. If they gaze into your eyes a little long there could be some mojo happening. If they subconsciously mimic your movements, speech patterns, or posture, this is a very strong sign of affinity.

A shy girl may blush and avoid eye contact to prevent blushing. Laughing in unison is a sign that you are in synch. If she genuinely laughs at something you said that was meant in humor, a good sign, especially if it wasn't that funny. If she strokes herself this means you may be getting somewhere. If she lowers her voice to a more intimate tone, good things may be happening. If you're out to dinner and she offers to share food or drink, watch out.

Moving closer to you, entering your personal space, both good things. Playful teasing is never a bad thing. Whispering in your ear, even better. If a wily creature finds excuses to wander near you, take this as a hint. If her friend seems to know you already, then there could be something going on. If she does something that hits you straight in the gut and your whole body starts to tingle, then this could be the best sign of all.

[cyclopse]

What if you experienced almost all those signs and yet nothing happened becuase that happened to me this past semester it was frustrating.

[zaab]

cyclopse said:

What if you experienced almost all those signs and yet nothing happened becuase that happened to me this past semester it was frustrating.

But did you do anything in response? Were all these signs coming from the same person? Was she acting like this to you alone, or does she flirt with all the guys? Did she act different around you? Did you flirt back and show your own interest? These are the things that count.

[{T}meister]

SweetPea said:

there's an awful lot of variety to try to list them all, did something happen and you're trying to decide if someone was coming on to you?

i'm not sure well she's always looking at me & dances near my every time i'm out at a niteclub hmmm maybe she's watching me dance funny lol

[{T}meister]

Maxine said:

Trev it would be fair to assume she likes you , i only act like that when i'm really coming on to someone.

She's flirting, act on it.

hmmmm thats the next problem how to act on something

[wagnerr]

I always thought the hair toss was a sure sign of affection.

I never get this, though.

[urbanspaceman]

I too am an imbecile in these situations.

I once had a girl come up to me, take a swig of my drink (this was in a club), dance provocatively around me most of the night, and constantly stroke my head (I shave my hair down to the bone). We chatted (or rather she said something, and I responded in a monosyllabic fashion, as is my frustrating habit ) and she even asked if I had my own place.

And I still managed to completely mess the whole thing up. To this day, I don't know how. I'm sure it was more difficult to make a f**k up than to actually get it on with this girl!

I laugh about this memory now. Really, what else can I do with it? I really don't think I could've been more moronic if I tried. What did I want, a post-it note on her forehead saying 'I fancy you'?

Er, my point is silentTrev...... just go for it. And that applies to myself also and all the other guys here. Easier said than done, but the thing I learnt from the above experience is not to over-analyse and, well, just to get in there! From what you say, you really can't go wrong. Unless you do what I did...NOTHING!

[{T}meister]

Maxine said:

I take it you like this girl?

I would suggest next time you see her giving you eye contact and blantently flirting with you as you had described just walk over to her and dance with her you'll soon find things progress from there.

Oh and for goodness sake dont come out with cheesy chat up lines we hate them!

yes i quite like the girl i'm not to good on the ole eye contact thingy i'll try just to get near her & start chatting to her

[{T}meister]

SweetPea said:

right...i always dance near guys so i can watch them dance funny.

unless the dance floor's the size of a postage stamp and she can't get away from you, if she's watching you and appears to be trying to be near you - what are you waiting for??

well i don't know lol its just hard i guess to say the right things

[{T}meister]

urbanspaceman said:

I too am an imbecile in these situations.

I once had a girl come up to me, take a swig of my drink (this was in a club), dance provocatively around me most of the night, and constantly stroke my head (I shave my hair down to the bone). We chatted (or rather she said something, and I responded in a monosyllabic fashion, as is my frustrating habit ) and she even asked if I had my own place.

And I still managed to completely mess the whole thing up. To this day, I don't know how. I'm sure it was more difficult to make a f**k up than to actually get it on with this girl!

I laugh about this memory now. Really, what else can I do with it? I really don't think I could've been more moronic if I tried. What did I want, a post-it note on her forehead saying 'I fancy you'?

Er, my point is silentTrev...... just go for it. And that applies to myself also and all the other guys here. Easier said than done, but the thing I learnt from the above experience is not to over-analyse and, well, just to get in there! From what you say, you really can't go wrong. Unless you do what I did...NOTHING!

i'll try & go for it thanxs for your story though

[mac]

urbanspaceman said:

and she even asked if I had my own place.

Wow! And you didn't even think about inviting her up for a "cup of coffee"? ;D

[CaryGrant]

80% reliable sign that a woman is interested in you: you get the feeling she might be.

Opening "line" most preferred by women: "Hi, I'm so-and-so. What's your name?" Less risque but apparently equally effective is "Hi, how are you?"

Best way to approach women: with no expectations:
1. You're just going to talk to this person to get to know her a bit better.
2. If you do like her and she seems to like you (not love, not even REALLY, REALLY like - just that she seems like someone you'd like to get to know better), then ask if she'd like to meet for coffee/go for a walk/go grocery shopping with you/etc. This is not a date - you're still getting to know her.
3. If, at some point in the getting-to-know-her process, you want to make some moves, either do so or come back here and we'll help you through it. ;D

[CaryGrant]

From the April 2005 issue of Men's Health:

Q: When a women says, "We should hang out sometime," does she mean hang out or go out? And how do I know the difference?

A: Whether she suggests that you "hang out," get together," or do something," it almost always means going out on a date, so I wouldn't worry about telling the difference. You may think it's vague, but a lot of women consider asking a man to "hang out" to be a pretty bold come-on. We usually prefer to drop a hint that we want you to do the asking. For example, we'll say something like, "I'd really love to see the new Jet Li movie, but none of my friends are into kung fu." Or, "I hear that new restaurant downtown is amazing. Have you gone yet? I'm dying to try it." Or, if we're on a bus, in a bar, or at a party, we'll act fascinated by by a man's relatively unremarkable cellphone, watch, drink, accent, or clothes, assuming he'll understand that it's him we find fascinating. Why be so coy? Mainly because we want to avoid rejection, but it's also fun to play cat-and-mouse, just for the heck of it.

I would add that I think women expect men to initiate for a lot of other reasons, including societal programming that says a woman who asks a man out is too forward or slutty. And, often, I think the woman wants to see what the man is made of: does he have the courage to ask her out, how perceptive is he, and is he fun (will he play along)?

From a different issue of MH: only 75% of women will not do ANYTHING if interested in a man. So - if you ever think or feel that she's interested - and you like her - then go talk.

[Spartan]

CaryGrant said:

From a different issue of MH: only 75% of women will not do ANYTHING if interested in a man. So - if you ever think or feel that she's interested - and you like her - then go talk.

So men pretty much have to make it happen and create the opportunities? This doesn't make me feel much better but I guess it's true. Not a lot of girls talk to me at school, even in a friendly way (probably just because I seem quiet around them). It's hard to tell which ones are interested in me, if any. Then when I try talking to the girls I like it's hard because I think most of them have already judged me as shy and they seem uninterested. Seems hopeless sometimes...