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Post by MrNice on Jun 1, 2006 7:39:26 GMT -5
well when you tell a guy that is desperate to appear enthusiastic guess what is going to happen. Everythingis in the details. For example there is a huge difference between making eye contact and staring at the girl. Not taking things too seriously and acting like everything she says is the most important thing you ever heard.
Also it matters alot how much the girl likes you. That is where the line is drawn. Things work best when peoples interests in each other are approxmately the same. If one person is alot more interested in the other, then they should make effort to cool off about that particular person and put the enthusiasm into being upbeat in general.
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Post by zaab on Jun 1, 2006 21:40:58 GMT -5
well when you tell a guy that is desperate to appear enthusiastic guess what is going to happen. Everythingis in the details. For example there is a huge difference between making eye contact and staring at the girl. Not taking things too seriously and acting like everything she says is the most important thing you ever heard. Also it matters alot how much the girl likes you. That is where the line is drawn. Things work best when peoples interests in each other are approxmately the same. If one person is alot more interested in the other, then they should make effort to cool off about that particular person and put the enthusiasm into being upbeat in general. I'd tell that guy just to talk to as many women as possible. Knowing how to act only comes through lots of experiences. There's just no way around it. It doesn't matter what advice about enthusiasm I would give him. There's a good chance he would stumble anyway.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 22:49:05 GMT -5
Yeah, I'd guess he's either he's a plagiarist or a salesman--if not in fact, then in spirit. Greenferret, let me tell you something. Everyone ...... and I mean "everyone" is an agent for some idea or other. There is no such thing as a person who is not selling something. Everytime you open up your mouth to voice an opinion, you are a salesperson. And in that sense, of course, I am a salesperson, too Agree with you immensely, shy is cool. I myself sell but no one is buying lol.
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 9, 2022 23:07:42 GMT -5
Reddragon, I think the females of the species you are referring to are actually aliens from another planet. On their home planet they are not screwed up or crazy. But seriously, maybe you should interact with different women, or else learn about women from different sources than the ones you are using. Your views might change with your experiences. Personally I like being treated kindly and with respect. My boyfriend is generally considered to be very nice. You may be right. However its not just the one source that I refer to. The fact is that everyone says the worse thing a guy can do in a relationship is to be too nice. Even the female friends I know are very open about it, If a guy wont stand up to them they will either take advantage of him or leave him. I see it every day, nice guys struggle for dates while jerks have to fight the women off. I know you said you like being treated kindly but did you ever consider that maybe you are just different? As I have said before people tend to say one thing and then do another, I try to judge by actions not words. Gonna throw in my 2 cents or two nickles as no more pennies in Canada lol - ok there is this guy in my building here about 6 years older than myself. He wanted to get together with me since last year. I sai I would play him some tunes on the guitar. Well you know how sometimes things get put off (I can procrastinate with the best - or worse - of them lol). Finally lately within the last week or so, I am bringing something to someone on the same floor. He is coming back to his apartment from Tim Horton<s (coffee shop). We say Hi. He says are you going to visit me or words to that effect. I say yes I will be there in a few mins I just want to drop off this power bar in another person's apartment box. Well we have a nice visit. I go get the guitar and bring it to his place and play some tunes. He likes that. Well as much as can be expected for ol me, he is almost as some would say all over me (not really but for me it is sort of like that). He says I could hold your hand all day! Last evening he invited me for supper which was kind of him. Now mind you we are just friends but he acted like he was interested in more than friendship. But yesterday (later on after I went home after supper at his place) he completely change like cold and hot water and he says over the phone in a very brusque manner: We will never be lovers. When he was the one who the day before this wanted a romantic relationship in the first place (while I was the reticent one!)!!! Shy is cool, if you revisit, please tell me what I did wrong. As one person said on here nice girls also finish last. I know you probably require more info. I am just a little tired at the moment as it is very late here in Canada and I need to get sum sleep. Thanks for reading.
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