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Post by brendan on Feb 26, 2003 10:44:52 GMT -5
i am a very shy person and my shyness has led into severe bouts of depression. I was wondering how many people out there are also affected by depression brought on by their shyness?
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Post by Tiff on Feb 26, 2003 20:01:44 GMT -5
i am a very shy person and my shyness has led into severe bouts of depression. I was wondering how many people out there are also affected by depression brought on by their shyness? Hi, I have also experienced depression. I will feel as if I can't do anything right or I'm not going anywhere or doign anthing with my life..etc. I feel sad because sometimes I want to do something..try it and it doesn't work out and I continue to think about it long after it happened which depresses me either. I am very hard on myself if I make a mistake..to the point of perhaps not doing that thing again. I can relate and it's hard to break through.
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Post by ian on Feb 26, 2003 21:57:59 GMT -5
Hi, I have also experienced depression. I will feel as if I can't do anything right or I'm not going anywhere or doign anthing with my life..etc. I feel sad because sometimes I want to do something..try it and it doesn't work out and I continue to think about it long after it happened which depresses me either. I am very hard on myself if I make a mistake..to the point of perhaps not doing that thing again. I can relate and it's hard to break through. Yeah, I know what you mean. I often feel the same way, Tiff. When I think of how successful and happy other people seem to be and compare it to my own situation, it sometimes gets me feeling very depressed. As for making mistakes, I get very hard on myself too. When 'normal' people have a go at something and don't do well, they just say 'oh well' and laugh it off. People like us think that not being good at something is like the end of the world. There are so many things that I've never even tried, because I was so worried I would stuff up and make a total fool of myself.
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Post by Tiff on Feb 26, 2003 23:30:17 GMT -5
Yeah, I know what you mean. I often feel the same way, Tiff. When I think of how successful and happy other people seem to be and compare it to my own situation, it sometimes gets me feeling very depressed. As for making mistakes, I get very hard on myself too. When 'normal' people have a go at something and don't do well, they just say 'oh well' and laugh it off. People like us think that not being good at something is like the end of the world. There are so many things that I've never even tried, because I was so worried I would stuff up and make a total fool of myself. Exactly for people like us he can be such a tragic thing if we fail. Our confidence is already so fragile...so anything either would break it and it would take a while to get it back again, regardless of whether our friends tell us we are good at something. I am trying to do more things on my own and being happy in my right and not depend on other people for that. But it is hard.
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Post by dude on Feb 28, 2003 18:58:44 GMT -5
Yeah it gets bad. Im 25, live with my mom, have noone to talk to, (I have a friend from school, but not the kind that will keep things private) and I can hear my neighbors talking about it all the time. Very frustrating. Oh and no job either. Im almot convinced I might be schizophrenic. But hey maybe my situation might make you all feel better since youre probly not as deep in it:)
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Post by Tiff on Feb 28, 2003 19:37:57 GMT -5
Yeah it gets bad. Im 25, live with my mom, have noone to talk to, (I have a friend from school, but not the kind that will keep things private) and I can hear my neighbors talking about it all the time. Very frustrating. Oh and no job either. Im almot convinced I might be schizophrenic. But hey maybe my situation might make you all feel better since youre probly not as deep in it:) Hi there, Just curious, why aren't you working? Has your shyness made it difficult for you? I'm almost 25 and live at home I work as a secretary.
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Post by dude on Feb 28, 2003 20:47:51 GMT -5
Because my personalities is gone, I have nothing to say, and it makes people either scared, or pissed. When everyone makes fun of you and wants to kick your ass it kind of makes you not want to be in those places.
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Post by Tiff on Feb 28, 2003 22:43:58 GMT -5
Because my personalities is gone, I have nothing to say, and it makes people either scared, or pissed. When everyone makes fun of you and wants to kick your ass it kind of makes you not want to be in those places. Dude- remember not everyone is like that. There are people out there that will take a chance on you in the workplace. You will gain respect for a job well done and it'll provide confidence and fullfillment for you. And outside of work you have family and friends. Friendship comes from shared interests and experiences..just meeting people in classes or at work...or through other friends. I do know what it's like to be made fun of..it was like that for me all through elementary and high school. You can work through it because I am these days. Remember you aren't that kid in school, your older, mature and an adult and you can stand up and do anything you want and noone can tell you you can't. If I might suggest..try something bold..do something you haven't done, talk to someone y ou don't usually talk to..smile at someone. Shyness and working on self-confidence take a long time to work through, months..years..it's up to the person and it depends on the person..but it can be done. Anyways, just offering some advice to you..don't have to take it.
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Post by dude on Mar 2, 2003 4:24:13 GMT -5
That is good advice, thats all I can write for now:)
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Post by Tiff on Mar 2, 2003 10:35:12 GMT -5
That is good advice, thats all I can write for now:) No problem
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Post by ian on Mar 2, 2003 20:15:05 GMT -5
If I might suggest..try something bold..do something you haven't done, talk to someone you don't usually talk to..smile at someone. Shyness and working on self-confidence take a long time to work through, months..years..it's up to the person and it depends on the person..but it can be done. Yes Tiff, that is excellent advice you gave to 'dude' and I know that I really should follow it too! Unfortunately, I find it extremely difficult to get started!
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Post by Tiff on Mar 3, 2003 0:07:31 GMT -5
Yes Tiff, that is excellent advice you gave to 'dude' and I know that I really should follow it too! Unfortunately, I find it extremely difficult to get started! Ian - I completely agree that it is hard. The instances where I have tried this have both helped the situation and done nothing. What I mean is sometimes being bold helped me to get what I wanted and other times...I messed up with it. But I try to think of it as a success regardless because I am making progress and learning. So try it out you guys, regardless of what happens it's all growth.
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Post by Valerie on Mar 3, 2003 20:51:59 GMT -5
;DHello everyone! Being schizophrenic is not a bad thing if you get help for it and get medication. I am Bi-polar and schizophrenic and I am on medicine. I used to be shy, with nothing to say, or I said the wrong things. Negative thinking was always a problem too. The thing is is that you can change the way you think. You may have to get professional help to do that. Ask your mom if mental illness runs in your family. i never had anything to say because my brain did not function right. It's up to you to look into it so you can live a decent life.
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Post by moogle on Mar 23, 2003 21:05:42 GMT -5
uhm..i've been depressed for at least 6 years. i don't think it came about because of being shy, but i know they're related. have you seen anyone about your depression? or gotten any meds? sometimes it helps..
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Post by spitzig on Mar 30, 2003 17:47:29 GMT -5
Yeah, I get depressed a lot. I don't like to tell people about it, usually. I don't have many friends, and wouldn't feel comfortable telling them, for one of two reasons. Fear of them rejecting me because of it(that has happened) or they react too badly to it. I don't want anyone worrying about me--that's making my problem ALSO someone else's problem.
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