mrsindependent
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Voice For Animals - I'm a vegetarian and involved with spreading the word about animal cruelty.
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Post by mrsindependent on Jul 10, 2004 14:07:54 GMT -5
I have noticed that the severity of my shyness depends on who I am around at that time. If I'm out with close friends I am completely normal. If I'm out with strangers I just totally clam up. If I'm with people I know but not that well my shynessm is somewhere in between. Is this normal for others? You took the words right out of my mouth! That's exactly how I am....it depends on who I feel comfortable around....like with new people...I'm quiet at first until I get to know them.
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Rosiemoore
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In quietness & confidence lies our strength
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Post by Rosiemoore on Jul 10, 2004 18:14:03 GMT -5
It seems pretty 'normal' to be shy with strangers, but for me I'm usually fine with strangers (coz I don't know them well enough to care how they think of me!!) - and then later on I might get shy if they seem more confident than me in certain ways that I want to be confident, or something. When I first got my really severe Social Phobia (10 yrs ago aged 16) - I was much more nervous with my close friends than anyone else - bcoz I realised that my shyness often looked like unfriendliness and the last people I wanted to hurt were my closest friends!! Yet I could quite easily get on a bus and ask for my fare, or buy something in a shop with no anxiety at all!
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Post by 2_Shy_4_My_Own_Good on Jul 11, 2004 2:34:56 GMT -5
not me!!! i don't even look people in the eye! i look at the birds, the graffiti anything! when i buy something i just smile look down wait fot the total and shove them the money!! how do you do that?
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Post by Reflection on Jul 11, 2004 22:07:58 GMT -5
I always try to disguise my shyness as much as possible. I always looks people in the eye, but sometimes I wonder if I do that too much and end up freaking them out.
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milly
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Post by milly on Jul 14, 2004 5:28:12 GMT -5
I'm commenting on what carygrant has to say. I totally agree with your statement. My shyness level depends on who I'm around at that time. I feel extremely uncomfortable around most people who are louder, more boisterous, outgoing and who seem to know everyone in the place. If they try and talk to me I get all nervous and tongue tied and become even more conscious that I must say something interesting or funny so they'll think I'm alright, but in the end conversation ends bluntly and me knowing I never want to talk to that person again because I left such a bad first impression.
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Post by matalizari on Jul 17, 2004 5:53:54 GMT -5
I'm shy when "it counts," when I think something is on the line. I'm sure I have confused many a boy in this way: if I didn't like him, I could speak freely with him. But if I suddenly became infatuated with him, then I could barely utter a word. You see, back when nothing was at stake, I was cool as a cucumber (or as much as a shy person could be), but when I thought "I better not blow it or else he won't marry me!" then I was suddenly paralyzed with shyness. But for some odd reason I interview very well. And that's when my goals are really "on the line." When I'm meeting a stranger who could potentially give me a job, I can muster up all this bubbliness that comes out of nowhere. It usually serves me well... unless I start stammering Auditions, well, those are just hopeless
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