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Post by angelka on Jul 9, 2003 17:20:53 GMT -5
What do I dread most? I'm a nurse and at work my coworkers will say things like, "Oh my GOD!! Can you believe that "Suzie" asked me how to do such and such? I mean, didn't she learn that in orientation? I'm really thinking about going to our supervisor because she is totally incompetent." Then "Suzie" walks up...and the same nurse is like, "Suzie", Oh my gosh you look so great today! You handled that last patient so well! You go girl, you are doing so well here and we are all so proud of you!" "Suzie" leaves..and it's... "I don't know why that witch (with a "B") still even talks to us! Why doesn't she take a hint and quit?"
This is what I listen to constantly, day in and day out. So, naturally, when I walk up to the nurse's desk, and all the conversation stops, stoney silence for a couple of seconds and then, "Hey GIRL!! What's up!! Oh my gosh you look so great today!" I begin to feel a little self conscious. I start to wonder who I can trust and I feel paranoid.
My husband has this to say about it, "Are they still nice to your face?" "Yes," I say. "Then who cares what they say behind your back? Just pretend you're really stupid, and that they couldn't possibly be talking about you." Then he adds, "Women are all witches anyway, you all bad mouth eachother...men don't do that. If one man doesn't like the other, we usually just knock the nuts out of them. Then, afterwards, we go for a drink and it's all behind us."
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Post by serenity on Jul 10, 2003 10:29:04 GMT -5
"I'd rather people not know me than to know me and not like me."
I can relate to being uncomfortable with letting people get to know me. I feel uneasy about having someone know me. Tend to be guarded in expressing my thoughts, feeling, and interest; rarely doing so at all. I prefer the anonymity. I guess because it feels safer like a safeguard from the risks of others thinking negatively of me, criticism, unacceptance that accompanies exposing thoughts, feelings, and interests. Shy people don't usually have the attitude... "This is who I am. Like me or not, I don't care." Shy people tend to be vulnerable to criticism, rejection, and being percieved negatively.
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Post by Michael1973 on Jul 10, 2003 17:34:24 GMT -5
Angelka, I have a co-worker who acts that way. He talks nasty about everyone in the office behind their backs, but is all smiley and friendly with them face-to-face (unless he's ticked off about something!). I don't even pretend to wonder what he says about me when I'm not around!
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Post by M1chael on Jul 21, 2003 18:46:55 GMT -5
Dread.. - I dread when the phone rings, Its rarely for me, but the sound still makes my heart hurt. - Im developing a neurosis about saying "hello" when i come into work... Saying "goodbye" is only a little easier. - I think "routine" is what i really dread.... If i do something often it becomes very uncomfortable. Such as saying "Thanks/Thank you/Thanks alot" to the gas station attendant.... I have started to rotate gas stations so it dosnt become too much of a routine with that person. - I also dread wasting time... years are starting to fly by... I dread blinking my eyes and being 30 years old.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Jul 22, 2003 14:14:01 GMT -5
I 'rotate' a lot as well. I pick up an evening paper for my father and I use a different shop most times. I don't like people getting too close. Answeing phone calls in work used to be a nightmare. I can remember many a time I put my head down and pretended to be busy when it rang. I had a 'two-faced friend' who was a bit like that. he wold be great when we were by ourselves but he would always gang up with my other friend against me.
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Post by inkysoftwhispers on Jul 29, 2003 10:45:29 GMT -5
yup. it sucks
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Post by glenn miller on Aug 10, 2003 18:49:11 GMT -5
i dread going to speak in front of a group of people.
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Post by nightowl14 on Sept 12, 2003 16:08:27 GMT -5
skool ;D
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Post by MrSultry on Oct 14, 2003 15:29:19 GMT -5
"Like people I used to work with but didn't really speak that much to (basically everyone). I feel my face burning up, should I say hello? Or just walk on past them? There's the really awkward moment when you go past them. Well, awkward for me anyway."
haha, I know how that feels....sometimes I try to look like I haven't seen them....sometimes I say hello or just nod, but it is rather hellish
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