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Post by CaryGrant on Jul 5, 2004 11:22:00 GMT -5
I'm trying to break this habit myself! Looking down signals that I am submissive - and this message not only gets sent to the other person, but to myself, too! Not good programming! I'm working now on looking away, to the side, when I do look away.
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Post by chick4christ on Jul 5, 2004 15:43:22 GMT -5
You don't know how much I can identify with what you're going thru!! I thought I was paranoid or something. I thought whenever someone looked at me in the eyes, that they had something against me. That was too extreme. I don't know if you have that part too. but after I was put on my meds it just vanished. Within a month or two, the eye contact fear was gone. i am so deliriously happy now becasue I can now live without almost a "phobia" of eye contact.
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Post by losergeek1138 on Jul 12, 2004 2:15:38 GMT -5
I find making eye contact very difficult. Tell me if this is odd, but when I make eye contact with a person, I feel as if I'm being intrusive or that this person thinks I'm looking at them in a sexual way. It feels almost shameful. Does anybody else feel this way or am I truly an wack job? hear hear! that's EXACTLY how i feel...
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Post by Alecto on Jul 12, 2004 19:42:10 GMT -5
I have the opposite problem I've always been told " Make sure you keep good eye contact' Which I tend to over do. Then get the response " Why are you staring at me!? " Its very frustrating
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Post by ponykitty on Aug 3, 2004 20:38:25 GMT -5
I make an effort to TRY to look at the person I'm talking to a few times, but most of the time my eyes focus on the floor... it's so much more comfortable there
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Post by Kali on Aug 4, 2004 9:43:25 GMT -5
I’ve had this problem forever; I get so intimidated by people that I end up looking at the floor. I try so hard to maintain eye contact now that sometimes I don’t even end up paying attention to what is being said, then I don’t know how to respond. No matter what I do I just never seem to get this conversation thing right.
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Post by glenn miller on Aug 5, 2004 14:02:46 GMT -5
the same with me. i always look at the floor. it is hard.
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Post by victor on Aug 6, 2004 2:56:50 GMT -5
Ya, I'm always looking down. I'm gonna get a hunchback and the villagers will chase me away.
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Post by disneychick on Aug 6, 2004 9:48:55 GMT -5
i have this prob 2...i always look down and people dont respect me i think bc of this. i hate doing it but i cant stop plus its worse if its a guy i cant look him in the eye and if i l ike him i either freeze up or stutter plus look down.
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