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Post by guest on Mar 3, 2004 2:50:52 GMT -5
I hate people and I hate that we have to be social creatures in order to survive. I'm tired of their smart ass comments and their rudeness and their thinking they're better than me because I never had any friends and I can't talk to people. I can't stand them and I can't stomach being around them. I'm tired of trying to force myself to pretend to like people when I can't wait to get away from them before they say something ignorant and hateful. I hate that I'm so messed up because of their maliciousness and their need to point out how quiet I am and the sick pleasure they get at seeing how uncomfortable I am when I'm around them. I wish they would keep their mouths shut and stop breaking me down more than I already am. Why do they get so much pleasure at making me feel like nothing? Then they have the nerve to wonder why I have no friends, no job, nothing.
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Post by Ghost on Mar 3, 2004 18:40:39 GMT -5
I hate people and I hate that we have to be social creatures in order to survive. I don't hate people. I never allowed myself to hate. Hating is a deep negative feeling and I don't want to get so far that I allow myself to get to that bottomless pit of bitterness and torture. I do dislike people and prefer animal company above human. Bad, I know. Am working on that. You do not have to be a social creature to survive, if you know how you can surbive on your own. Yes, people can be very hard and cold. People are not always very empathic, because they think "I don't get her/him and I don't feel like trying to understand". Worthless those people, who think we are the ones who are neglectible. They can't see further then their nose. I am trying to learn myself to shrug it off, when people hurt me. I would advise to get penpals or post on a forum, like you did. It's a good way to voice your feelings, have support and don't feel that isolated (it is not the same as friends living in the same town, but it is still a good option). How I manage to socialize well is by measuring in small talk at what they want, what they accept of me, my boundaries. Then I will just put the act up they will like. It's not all fake and masks: I still am myself, I just show only one facet of myself, not all the others that make up my whole me (unless I play "picture perfect", all shiny and bright, to make sure I don't do anything to embarrass). And that kinds sucks. Because if I am myself I will frequent not be accepted, people almost always step away, because I did not fulfill their expectations. Is that at school? Anywhere special? If possible, you can take distant from that schooling (other school), to get rid of them. But I guess others may have better advise and tips. It's like a wolf pack..or a lions. The ones considered "lower in rank" are those who they can pick on and "play" with if they wish too. Others play along, so that they won't get picked on. As I wrote, they don't want to think how it feels to others, because they are self absorbed in their own little world, in which they have to keep up their own image to survive. To maintain that, they also pick on others, so they look "tough" and make a good impression to their friends. They don't even try to imagine how it must be for someone else. I perceive these people as empathic-numbheads. They're the losers. It wouldn't suprise me of they would go home and play perfect litlle angels to their family.
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Post by HAZE on Mar 3, 2004 18:58:26 GMT -5
your the man/laidy ghost
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Post by Alecto on Mar 3, 2004 19:40:48 GMT -5
I pretty much agree with Ghost. I've had the same feelings. I don't really hate people, I just dislike them. I do prefer the company of animals over humans. Some people just don't understand the reason some people are quiet, just like I don't understand why some people blabber on and on about nothing
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Post by Ghost on Mar 3, 2004 19:48:49 GMT -5
People who are quiet are usual thinkers. At least we think, unlike those groupies who have a sort of Legally Blonde meets Freddy Kruger group mindset your the man/laidy ghost *Attemps to look modest...and fails miserable* Yeah..I know...I rock! ;D *Tries to hide ego which has grown to the size of a 4 year old behind back... *
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Post by Alecto on Mar 3, 2004 20:29:50 GMT -5
Haha. I have to agree with Haze though. You give pretty good advice, and seem to know what to say
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Post by Ghost on Mar 4, 2004 13:02:14 GMT -5
Yes I seem to know what I say... I thought I didn't gave very enlighting advise..more observations, what I think. Thanks for the compliments though
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Post by Jarous on Mar 4, 2004 15:52:58 GMT -5
Why do they get so much pleasure at making me feel like nothing? I believe that's because everything's relative. Think of it: we live basicly happy lives until we notice all that we're missing. Then it's all depression, blues and sadness. Well, contrary to us the people you describe try to prevent that from happening. They make others feel bad so that they can feel (relatively) good, they rejoice when others fail because that makes their (meagre) successes relatively great etc. No need to add such acting is absolutely disgusting but perhaps a little subconscious (you don't really think every other person is a cold b***h, do you?). That's why they're themselves surprised at your situation. Don't give it to much thought. Why should you care about the opinion of such individuals? Just DON'T BE like them. Forgive and move on. And accomplish something you can be proud of (like education, sports, arts) and show them. That should stop their nasty remarks.
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Post by Alecto on Mar 4, 2004 16:22:13 GMT -5
I agree accomplish something you can be proud of, and to prove them wrong.
It gives me such a good feeling to know that I've made accomplishments in my life, while those who made fun of me in school for being nothing, have jobs flipping burgers.
Okay, maybe I shouldnt get pleasure out of that, but strangley, I do.
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Post by glenn miller on Mar 4, 2004 19:26:16 GMT -5
yeah that is true.
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Post by max on Mar 6, 2004 13:08:10 GMT -5
Can you read minds? Do you know that these people get a sick pleasure from your discomfort? Do you know that they think they are better than you?
Maybe they aren't trying to pick on you. Maybe their comments about how quiet you are are just their way of trying to include you in their discussions. Maybe you are just misreading their actions in a different way from how they were intended.
Some food for thought.
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Post by Ghost on Mar 7, 2004 18:28:20 GMT -5
You have some points there max. But some people do get pleasure like that. Those people you know off how they think because they voice it, show it in expression, backstab, gossip, etc. According to the guest, those people are not very subtle in any kind message they might want to bring over. However, it could be that guest wrote that just out of anger and pain. I guess we know too little to say much more about the situation then guest wrote. It gives me such a good feeling to know that I've made accomplishments in my life, while those who made fun of me in school for being nothing, have jobs flipping burgers. I wish that was true in my case...so far most of them must be doing pretty well. But I don't care about that too much, because I never checked up on them. But I do have a strong drive to make something of myself and indeed go "HA! See? I'm not such a loser or hopeless case after all!", even if it's just for myself . Sadistic kick perhaps?
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Post by Alecto on Mar 7, 2004 21:53:38 GMT -5
Oh, in my case, definately ;D
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Post by ShygirlOz on Mar 25, 2004 6:28:19 GMT -5
hey i totally relate GUEST!
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Post by Shypuppy17 on Mar 30, 2004 19:25:15 GMT -5
People can say stuff that is hurtful. I don't hate people but I wished they would think before they speak.
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