Post by Evarie Fayore on Dec 19, 2004 1:37:51 GMT -5
I have a "stupid extrovert" story to share.
Now many of my friends and aquaintances are extroverts and I don't mind at all since they are great people. One of these aquanitances however seems to be really uncomfortable/annoyed/frustrated with my shy and introverted manner. I suppose in her eyes I must seem really dull and boring. Many times she has said to me "Say something!". I don't feel very comfortable around her at all.
The other night I went to a bar for my friend's birthday party and she was there. I received many compliments from people about my choice of clothes for that night. My aqaintance -I think- was trying to compliment me but instead the compliment turned into more of an insult. These were her exact words: "You're not wearing something plain for once!". Now I don't recall seeing her in many instances outside of school (where we were required to wear uniforms) so I don't know how she had gathered that opinion. All I can think of is that on the occasions that I did see her out of school I obviously hadn't felt the need to get dressed up (although I don't really remember what I was wearing when I did see her).
Sorry to rant so much on what seems like such a minor issue, but I mean really! I thought her comment was out of line and rather rude. She's obviously adopted a "say before you think (if you think at all)" policy.
I have nothing against extroverts, but the one I discribed above is a classic example of the type of person I don't like.
Typical extrovert, as soon as you don't conform to their standards they insult you. They believe every1 has to behave like them or you are some lesser being. The only way to get back at them is to ignore them. As they crave so much attention from people they get fed up easily when someone is quiet and start hurling insults like "say something!"
Extroverts never understand the shy introverts point of view and never make an effort to understand the reason(s) why they are shy. For me personally as a guy, my women friends can't seem to recognise that guys can be shy too! It is very frustrating.
A proper friend would never be that rude and hurt your feelings like that. You're better off without her.
Post by lennythegiant on Dec 26, 2004 23:17:45 GMT -5
Well we certainly shouldn't be judging all extroverts this way. Being introverted or extroverted has nothing to do with being nice or mean. There are plenty of extroverts with good personalities and plenty who are jerks as well. Same goes for introverts. For every shy person who wants to get better there is one who is a jerk and feels sorry for himself and takes his bad feelings out on others (I used to be one of those guys in high school, and definitely regret it).
I'd say a majority of my friends at school are extroverts, and they are all nice people.
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