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Post by HybridMoment on Sept 26, 2005 23:28:46 GMT -5
If I knew you offline you sound like the kind of person I would want to hang out with. Before you came I was even thinking of putting a Sonic avatar on my profile, but I didn't for a weird reason (it's a long story).
Sometimes it's disappointing that online people you meet have so many things in common with you, but they live far away. Then everyone else you meet in your daily life, aren’t compatible with you at all. But maybe you could try to find a group or hobby that interests you where you live so you could meet friends locally. Although that may be difficult too; I've tried to take my own advice and I've never found any groups or hobbies that interest me.
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Post by saphron on Sept 27, 2005 21:19:54 GMT -5
Sometimes it's disappointing that online people you meet have so many things in common with you, but they live far away. Then everyone else you meet in your daily life, aren’t compatible with you at all. But maybe you could try to find a group or hobby that interests you where you live so you could meet friends locally. Although that may be difficult too; I've tried to take my own advice and I've never found any groups or hobbies that interest me. Thats the way I feel too. In my town, there seems to be no one thats feels the same way I feel or has similar tastes as I do. I'm the only person,a where I work, that isn't married and/or has kids. I definitely feel out of place. Edit: I'm from Texas too. Probably don't live too far from each other. We could meet up somewhere.lol
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Post by k151 on Sept 28, 2005 2:19:33 GMT -5
If I knew you offline you sound like the kind of person I would want to hang out with. Before you came I was even thinking of putting a Sonic avatar on my profile, but I didn't for a weird reason (it's a long story). Sometimes it's disappointing that online people you meet have so many things in common with you, but they live far away. Then everyone else you meet in your daily life, aren’t compatible with you at all. But maybe you could try to find a group or hobby that interests you where you live so you could meet friends locally. Although that may be difficult too; I've tried to take my own advice and I've never found any groups or hobbies that interest me. The thing about online is it's so misleading. I mean, online I can seem witty, intelligent and thoughtful. In real life, i'm either quiet, awkward and boring, or i'm an asshole. I've met people online that want to talk on the phone or something, but I avoid it. I know how awkward it will go.
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Post by Paulinus on Sept 28, 2005 3:31:14 GMT -5
The thing about online is it's so misleading. I mean, online I can seem witty, intelligent and thoughtful. In real life, i'm either quiet, awkward and boring, or i'm an asshole. I've met people online that want to talk on the phone or something, but I avoid it. I know how awkward it will go. But maybe you are witty, intelligent and thoughtful in real life but are too shy to express it. If you can do it online that suggests to me you could be capable of the same in real life if you just had the confidence in yourself to do it. This is something I think about myself because I feel in a way that what I am like online is closer to the real me then what I often project in public. My online self is simply me with less shyness holding me back.
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Post by aforgottenmemory on Sept 30, 2005 16:13:56 GMT -5
I agree with Paulthequiet, k151. If you are intelligent, witty and thoughtful online, chances are you are all the time! The trouble with talking to people face to face or over the phone is that you know that you'll hear/see their reaction. That's when it becomes a little awkward. I can relate to this since i too have the exact problem.
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Post by Shan-Chan on Sept 30, 2005 17:49:06 GMT -5
I absolutely no friends whatsoever. I wish I could have a buddy to hang out with. I'm getting to the point where I hate being by myself all the time. I have no idea how I can find someone to hangout with. All I do is go to work and then when I'm not working,I stay home. I'm just a really sad person right now. im so sorry to here that. you know things are the same for me so you are not alone, but then again in a sense you are it seems. i used to have ppl my age to hang out with now all there is is my mom yup.
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Post by wagnerr on Oct 1, 2005 0:04:04 GMT -5
Sometimes it's disappointing that online people you meet have so many things in common with you, but they live far away. Then everyone else you meet in your daily life, aren’t compatible with you at all. But maybe you could try to find a group or hobby that interests you where you live so you could meet friends locally. Although that may be difficult too; I've tried to take my own advice and I've never found any groups or hobbies that interest me. Thats the way I feel too. In my town, there seems to be no one thats feels the same way I feel or has similar tastes as I do. I'm the only person,a where I work, that isn't married and/or has kids. I definitely feel out of place. Edit: I'm from Texas too. Probably don't live too far from each other. We could meet up somewhere.lol Texas is bigger than many countries, lol. I live just SE of Houston, and cities like Amarillo are nearly seven hundred miles away. BTW, i don't know if you would be able to keep up with Sonic. He prefers fast women, lol. ;D
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Post by k151 on Oct 4, 2005 0:15:29 GMT -5
I agree with Paulthequiet, k151. If you are intelligent, witty and thoughtful online, chances are you are all the time! The trouble with talking to people face to face or over the phone is that you know that you'll hear/see their reaction. That's when it becomes a little awkward. I can relate to this since i too have the exact problem. You guys are right, after I think about it. The only times I seem to have a crappy personality is when i'm really nervous, which is when i'm around new people. That really sucks because I don't really need the people I know to know me MORE. I mean it's nice, but I need to give strangers a good first impression, which I can't do because my tone of voice, the things I say, the way I look...it's all wrong. Hell I got a hair cut today and I was nervous, red and sweaty the WHOLE time. I walk out the door and relief just washes over me, WHY does that happen! As HARD as I try to ACT talkative and interesting, it doesn't work. And as if I can get rid of that hot feeling. I feel it once a day at least. Almost like i'm in a sauna.
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Post by nameless on Oct 5, 2005 16:19:13 GMT -5
i wish i had friends right now, its driving me mad having nothing to do/nobody to talk to in the evenings and at weekends, then i have to face all the people at work with their "what did you do at the weekend" etc.
i feel comfortable talkign to people online but to be honest, meeting them is something completely different. ive ben asked to meet up but it always with their friends at clubs and stuff, i would feel more comfortable meeting them alone!
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Post by lonelyheart on Oct 7, 2005 4:46:17 GMT -5
in my case, my 'friends' are more like acquiantences, so even when i am out with them i still feel lonely. they also don't make me feel like we have a close connection.
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Post by aforgottenmemory on Oct 7, 2005 10:03:00 GMT -5
in my case, my 'friends' are more like acquiantences, so even when i am out with them i still feel lonely. they also don't make me feel like we have a close connection. I think a lot of people are in this situation, shy or not. Some people don't view their friends as people to be close to, more like people to go out with and have a laugh. One example i can think of is a close friend of mine that i lost touch with back at school. We were great friends until he started hanging around with a different, slightly immature crowd. Anyway, he used to be a little shy (no where near the point i was though) until he went off with this new crowd, going out drinking, meeting new people etc. For a while i was really envious of how popular he had become and how out spoken he suddenly seemed to be. But then he hit some problems in his life, which i won't go into. Now these new "friends" of his didn't do anything in the slightest to help him. In fact because they found him funny they encouraged his behaviour that led him to these problems, totally disregarding the kind of affect it would have on his life in the future. It even led to him having problems at home with his parents, that's how dramatic the change in him was. I know this story doesn't really help in terms of wanting to make some friends, but i hope it sheds some light on the fact that even those who have hundreds of people around them, maybe far more alone than you think.
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Post by saphron on Oct 17, 2005 23:23:11 GMT -5
I think I have found a friend. There this person whom I have been working that is the coolest person. We talk alot with each other and even like similar things. She's 31 which is like 11 years older than me but we definitely get along. I'm happy.
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