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Post by Stan on Feb 1, 2004 7:06:02 GMT -5
Hi guys. I suffer from a severe lack of self esteem. Whenever I do something that raises it for a time I have problems keeping that momentum going and it gradually falls away again. Here is a tip that I have taught myself. When I am on a high I take a few minutes at night in bed and run through just what I have achieved. Next morning I plot what I am going todo to keep that going.
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Post by Alecto on Feb 1, 2004 22:10:19 GMT -5
That's good advice. I have a problem with self esteem also. So I usually try to do something nice each day. Like let some one cut in front of me in traffic, or in a grocery line if they have less items. Those are small things, but I feel like if I make some one's day slightly easier, then I feel better about myself.
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Post by Placido on Feb 2, 2004 9:04:09 GMT -5
It can be difficult keeping on the path to improvement - it's a constant effort to try and feel 'the new you', and sometimes it just feels easier to slip back into old ways of thinking.
Having targets is a good idea.
What I'm trying out at the moment is this: every night I list three things I did in the day that were redolent of 'the old me', and then in my mind rescript those events into things that I would have liked to have happened. Eg I might have just mumbled 'hello' to someone during the day, so later I imagine myself being more outgoing, asking them how their day was etc. And next time I might try and put it into action.
Then I think of three things I did that suggest 'the new me', things I wouldn't have done a few months ago that I can feel proud of.
I'm hoping this will be a good mix of self-encouragement and self-criticism - I need to push myself, because I find it so easy to slip back into that comfortable feeling of worthlessness that I'd gotten so use to...
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