wraith
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Post by wraith on Apr 21, 2007 4:56:36 GMT -5
For anybody who has problems with opposite sex I recommend to acquire his e book "Double Your Dating", or at least to subscribe to his newsletter. I've done this and although it didn't do wonders, it has definitely set me on a right path. He describes in detail what should be avoided in interacting with women if you want more than friendship, and based on my experience, most shy guys do just that.
The reason it didn't do wonders at first is because my shyness was too deep to have any conversation with a woman without wanting to be somewhere else, but the more I read and learned what works and what doesn't, the more comfortable I became.
Just for clarification, the point of this is not to become robot and spout out pick-up lines, but to learn to relax and to be yourself (not your shy self, but your true self).
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Post by succeedsocially on Apr 23, 2007 18:01:12 GMT -5
Yeah, I like David DeAngelo's advice as a fair amount of it focuses on 'Inner Game' (confidence, being cool, etc) and not on little tricks.
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Post by airburst on Apr 23, 2007 23:46:57 GMT -5
If you don't feel like paying for his eBook, you could try to downloading it off of Limewire, emule, or some other file sharing network. And yeah, I'd recomend signing up for his newsletter, after all it's free.
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Post by lennythegiant on Jul 15, 2007 10:02:21 GMT -5
The way he writes annoys the hell out me.
I can NEVER get into his WRITING because it is ALWAYS typed like THIS.
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Post by Astroruss on Jul 15, 2007 19:48:31 GMT -5
The way he writes annoys the hell out me. I can NEVER get into his WRITING because it is ALWAYS typed like THIS. Yes, I ABSOLUTELY know what you mean by THIS. He IS incredibly ANNOYING. I used to get his newsletter all the time, but i got tired of reading it. He writes the same shit, day in and day out. And even he himself admits that he's writing to the men who want to attract the hottest hotties of a society. Nope, sorry. I couldn't stand being that COOL and POPULAR and that COCKY/FUNNY all the time. Hell, what's wrong with just being average and ordinary?
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Post by lennythegiant on Aug 16, 2007 1:03:07 GMT -5
I agree. I've tried reading his stuff, and it just isn't helpful. IMO all he does is mention the problems, but he doesn't really provide much in the way of solutions. Or at least any solution other than acting like a douche.
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Post by ynicky on Sept 4, 2007 15:39:26 GMT -5
I'll be honest if you used half them techniques of the bat you'd look pretty stupid and predictable. But he says is true. Basically if it gives you the confidence to talk to women then it's done it's job whenever your use it or not.
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Post by griffins on Sept 15, 2007 23:16:33 GMT -5
well I wouldn't use all his lines...especially some cross over the line- overly cocky. But his premise is correct- when you are "cocky and funny", you can make yourself out to seem like a fun and confident guy.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Sept 15, 2007 23:49:44 GMT -5
well I wouldn't use all his lines...especially some cross over the line- overly cocky. But his premise is correct- when you are "cocky and funny", you can make yourself out to seem like a fun and confident guy. you can make yourself seem like an idiot too. while i was out running errands in my car today, i was sitting and waiting to turn out of a parking lot. some guy drove close by me, rolled his window down and shouted, "hey, baby! how ya doin'?" in this cheesy exaggerated fake-sexy voice. never seen him before in my life. yeah...i did laugh...while i was shaking my head and driving away. i can't believe that kinda thing works for anyone.
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Post by MrNice on Sept 16, 2007 0:13:26 GMT -5
making yourself seem like an idiot is why shy guys never open their mouth cocky funny is better then what a shy guy usually comes up with, its a step in the right direction.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Sept 16, 2007 7:22:40 GMT -5
making yourself seem like an idiot is why shy guys never open their mouth cocky funny is better then what a shy guy usually comes up with, its a step in the right direction. wouldn't a friendly smile be better than 'cocky & funny'? and easier to do too?
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Post by griffins on Sept 16, 2007 22:24:26 GMT -5
well I wouldn't use all his lines...especially some cross over the line- overly cocky. But his premise is correct- when you are "cocky and funny", you can make yourself out to seem like a fun and confident guy. you can make yourself seem like an idiot too. while i was out running errands in my car today, i was sitting and waiting to turn out of a parking lot. some guy drove close by me, rolled his window down and shouted, "hey, baby! how ya doin'?" in this cheesy exaggerated fake-sexy voice. never seen him before in my life. yeah...i did laugh...while i was shaking my head and driving away. i can't believe that kinda thing works for anyone. He was merely using a cheesy picky up line. I can't explain it but "cocky" is not a good word to explain it. It is more "confidence with a sense of humor"
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Post by Sweet Pea on Sept 16, 2007 23:33:54 GMT -5
you can make yourself seem like an idiot too. while i was out running errands in my car today, i was sitting and waiting to turn out of a parking lot. some guy drove close by me, rolled his window down and shouted, "hey, baby! how ya doin'?" in this cheesy exaggerated fake-sexy voice. never seen him before in my life. yeah...i did laugh...while i was shaking my head and driving away. i can't believe that kinda thing works for anyone. He was merely using a cheesy picky up line. I can't explain it but "cocky" is not a good word to explain it. It is more "confidence with a sense of humor" confidence with humor sounds okay. but the word cocky implies arrogance and overblown ego, which does not sound good.
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Post by Astroruss on Sept 17, 2007 22:34:22 GMT -5
He was merely using a cheesy picky up line. I can't explain it but "cocky" is not a good word to explain it. It is more "confidence with a sense of humor" confidence with humor sounds okay. but the word cocky implies arrogance and overblown ego, which does not sound good. I'm not speaking from experience, but i imagine that the cocky/funny techniques work well on the tough-hard-to-get-women at first. I see young men do it a lot, particularly the black guys i work with. And the young women seem to respond to it; they go on dates, have sex, spend loads of money that they don't have on each other, and i get to hear about it at work the next week or soon after. But i think it would be hard to keep a woman relying on that routine only. Hell, women and men smarten up and start demanding more well rounded types to be with. I intend to be one of the those well rounded types some day.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Sept 17, 2007 23:05:21 GMT -5
I think the really young, naive, insecure girls may respond well to that nonsense.
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