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Post by nigella on Jun 1, 2009 8:16:24 GMT -5
Well i think it takes the desperation feeling away.
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Post by GoldenRose82 on Jul 21, 2009 2:24:54 GMT -5
I'm not sure that's something I'd ever want to do because of all the health risks involved. Not that a person you've known for years can't lie to you, or be completely unaware they have disease and pass it on to you just as easily as a sex worker can... But I can certainly see the temptation. I'm 27, and I'm the only person I know my age that is still a virgin. All of my friends lost their virginity by the time they were 20. And that fact makes me feel...I dunno, like I'm wrong somehow.
In one way I don't think sex is really that important, and that society makes too much of a fuss about it, but in another way I can't deny that I'm curious about what all the fuss is about, and I really don't want to die a virgin. And being 27 and only having had one relationship in my life (and that lasted less than a year, ended 8 1/2 years ago, and physically never even went beyond a couple of quick kisses), it really seems like the only way I'll ever experience a physical relationship would be to pay for one. So it does seem kinda tempting. I don't think I could really blame or judge a person if they paid for sex as a last resort because they felt it was the only option they have to experience what sex is like.
It could have the opposite effect they were expecting though. It could make them feel dirty or cheap, and lower their self-esteem even more. And if they do eventually find someone down the road, they may regret not waiting and experiencing their first time with that special person, having wasted their first time on an emotionless exchange with a complete stranger.
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Post by casanova on Jul 23, 2009 3:27:48 GMT -5
Nobody would have to find out it would be your secret.
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Post by gaia on Jul 23, 2009 9:39:26 GMT -5
Ok i've looked back at the post(s) i've made and my attitude has shifted. I'm going to say that if ('disabled') people want to pay for sex, they should be able to. As messed up as it sounds, there's a certain amount of confidentiality and certainty one would get from a sex worker. And if someone has a difficult time finding a sexual partner and wants the experience, it just makes sense to pay for it from someone who'll definitely give it to you, and not try to pick up some randomer and risk getting rejected/laughed at/battered self-esteem. (I want to point out that as I wrote that, I was thinking that the person they pay for sex should be one who 'wants' to be a sex worker - or at least claims they do.. there are people working as prostitutes that should not be; they shouldn't be paid or encouraged to do that for a living. Basically, what i'm saying is, there's a difference in going to a legal brothel and going to a street corner and picking up some drug-addicted former abuse victim who feels they have no other option or a victim of human trafficking, y'know? ).
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Post by casanova on Jul 25, 2009 2:20:27 GMT -5
Yeah but ive know illegal places and they have operated for years and there well know yet the law is not bothered.
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Post by 1one1 on Aug 20, 2009 21:34:08 GMT -5
If a person wants to do it, they can do it. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just I can never see myself going that route.
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Post by madiocre on Oct 3, 2010 5:28:09 GMT -5
it's weird . I think it would possibly work for some people. I found after my first relationship (who was also my forst sexual partner) it was easier to talk to the opposite sex. I even found that for some reason i was approached more. I guess the ease makes you more approachable??? so similarly a first sexual encounter would possibly loosen one up
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2010 21:43:02 GMT -5
There's several facets to this post that I see.
First thing is I don't think that prostitution should be entirely illegal. I lived in Las Vegas for three years, where prostitution is illegal but there is no shortage of prostitutes, I don't see any problem with someone who wants to be a prostitute having a brothel to work in legally.
There is a big problem with prostitution, that's sexual slavery. There's good chances that women who are walking the streets or are in the asian massage parlors aren't doing it by choice.
The issue of disabled people going to brothels is a tough one, it depends on the individuals disability I think. I happen to have a couple personal stories about disabled people.
About 5 years ago there were some deals made and my sister ended up getting horse riding lessons from an equine assisted therapy place which worked mostly with mentally disabled, my sister isn't disabled by the way. I would often go with them and a girl there started to talk to me a lot, nobody else in my family, just me.
I got the feeling she was attracted to me, instead of dealing with that anymore I quit going to this place. I certainly understand why other people don't want to get involved with a disabled person, I completely avoided a mentally disabled girl.
For someone who is disabled it would be real hard to get into a relationship and a brothel may be a good option.
I also have some family who is mentally disabled, he doesn't have enough intelligence to ever live on his own. Thing is he met another mentally disabled girl and they got married, neither one was able to take care of themselves.
They had two kids, the older one is normal, the younger one isn't, he's severely retarded and will likely be sent to an institution in the next few years, he's violent and is getting stronger with age. There was a third kid that I had forgotten about, it was put into foster care upon birth, I don't know if it was handicapped or oven a boy or girl.
The tough thing is, should these two handicapped people ever have been allowed to have kids? Should they even be allowed to have access to a brothel, do they honestly have the maturity to have sex?
That's not a question I can answer.
As far as someone who is shy going to a brothel, that's an individual choice.
The reason I never went to a brothel and am still a virgin, is I see it as pointless and expensive. If I go to a brothel it isn't going to change the reality that there aren't any women who want to have sex with me, to have sex again I would have to go back to the brothel.
If someone thinks it will increase there confidence and will have an easier time talking to the opposite sex then I say go for it.
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Post by madiocre on Oct 13, 2010 7:51:58 GMT -5
There's several facets to this post that I see. First thing is I don't think that prostitution should be entirely illegal. I lived in Las Vegas for three years, where prostitution is illegal but there is no shortage of prostitutes, I don't see any problem with someone who wants to be a prostitute having a brothel to work in legally There is a big problem with prostitution, that's sexual slavery. There's good chances that women who are walking the streets or are in the asian massage parlors aren't doing it by choice. . Definately its an age old profession that is important to society and legalising it is important because it is a way of keeping it healthy. I do however think it is something that warrant a different outlook from people. The issue of disabled people going to brothels is a tough one, it depends on the individuals disability I think. I happen to have a couple personal stories about disabled people. About 5 years ago there were some deals made and my sister ended up getting horse riding lessons from an equine assisted therapy place which worked mostly with mentally disabled, my sister isn't disabled by the way. I would often go with them and a girl there started to talk to me a lot, nobody else in my family, just me. I got the feeling she was attracted to me, instead of dealing with that anymore I quit going to this place. I certainly understand why other people don't want to get involved with a disabled person, I completely avoided a mentally disabled girl. For someone who is disabled it would be real hard to get into a relationship and a brothel may be a good option. I also have some family who is mentally disabled, he doesn't have enough intelligence to ever live on his own. Thing is he met another mentally disabled girl and they got married, neither one was able to take care of themselves. They had two kids, the older one is normal, the younger one isn't, he's severely retarded and will likely be sent to an institution in the next few years, he's violent and is getting stronger with age. There was a third kid that I had forgotten about, it was put into foster care upon birth, I don't know if it was handicapped or oven a boy or girl. The tough thing is, should these two handicapped people ever have been allowed to have kids? Should they even be allowed to have access to a brothel, do they honestly have the maturity to have sex? That's not a question I can answer. your'e right it is a really hard question to ask. i guess we would usually say it not something we should decide but then who? the mentally handicapped making decisions for their mentally handicapped children? i mean they do have right bu then so does the possible child [quote author=rylak board=greatdebate thread=7530 post=133429 time=1286246582 As far as someone who is shy going to a brothel, that's an individual choice. The reason I never went to a brothel and am still a virgin, is I see it as pointless and expensive. If I go to a brothel it isn't going to change the reality that there aren't any women who want to have sex with me, to have sex again I would have to go back to the brothel. If someone thinks it will increase there confidence and will have an easier time talking to the opposite sex then I say go for it. [/quote] I think it would depend on that persons moral i don't think it is bad personally but i know many people who would feel empty and imoral for doing it. It would also depend on the shyness. are they the sort of person who is shy in general or do they get weirded by just girls or is it in relation to dating or is it in making a move. If you can't talk to girls because yo get freaked out by the prospect of sex then perhaps this might ease this when you get the idea that its not such a big deal.
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