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Post by pluralzalpha2 on Feb 8, 2010 20:54:03 GMT -5
I think there is a bit of difference between being shy and being introverted. Many people are both, but there are many introverts who are not shy--they actually happen to LIKE being alone. That's a bit different than being shy. and there are some introverts who like being alone and who are also ;)shy. I think the outgoing people think shy is bad because they want people to be like them; and they can't understand or appreciate what we're going through, whether we are non-shy introverts or shy introverts. The point is it is the outtties that are a lot of the time unaccepting of the innies; and some seem to (like the teacher) feel the need to point it out when one is quiet. I can understand how that would be quite difficult to take.
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Post by pluralzalpha2 on Feb 8, 2010 21:02:33 GMT -5
Yes it was rude of him to say that. Especially in front of the whole class. I have had people say rude things about me being shy in front of others. It makes me want to slap them! Of course you can't do that. Or they just state the obvious like " Wow you are really quiet!" I think that just make them sound dumb. I don't think being shy is all that bad. Although most do view it as negative and a lot of people mistake it for someone being a snob. I see plenty of outgoing people say the dumbest things sometimes. Or things that don't need to be said they just say it to hear themselves talk. In a way I am glad I am not like that. When I say something at least I know it has some thought behind it. yes becuz the outgoing people are so quick with their words that sometimes they don't think before they speak. it has gotten some of them into trouble unfortunately. i can imagine that some quick tongued extrovert has sassed back a teacher in h s
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Post by dinag on Feb 26, 2010 18:43:07 GMT -5
I'm actually glad to be both. I want to get out there and show people my energetic, easily exciteable and conversational side. I also love my shy, introverted thinking side too. They are part of the whole that makes me up, and it's quite balanced. It's just hard sometimes to let people see both sides, and they don't realize just how hard it is. Even if you explain it they might not grasp it completely....
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Post by ghost1990 on Jul 5, 2011 12:23:50 GMT -5
some people see shyness in many ways as weakness. It keeps you from doing things and holds you back. Which can turn you more and more into a defensive or passive personality.
And most people see it as better when you have a more active personality. When you are active, out-going, talkative, social and extroverted.
However, even if teacher shall "form" their students to the best they can be... shyness is something you are mostly born with, so they rather should help shy people, not to punish them. For example, instead of punishing the students who don't answer much questions inside of class, they could leave them an option to make homework, so that they can prepare it at home, without any kind of social pressure. (my opinion)
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Post by lostmyself on Jul 7, 2011 8:34:08 GMT -5
I agree with what a lot of people have said, most people just don't understand shyness so they deal with it in totally the wrong way.
I think there is a difference between being quiet and being shy. I never will be and wouldn't want to be a really loud person that just talks and shouts for the sake of it but I find shyness stops you from forming relationships that other people seem to find so easy.
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