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Post by YouNeedLove on Dec 5, 2009 15:33:09 GMT -5
been thinking about losing virginity might be a way to gain confidence and a sense of normality and masculinity, what do you think of that, i suspect some of you are not virgins so did it boost your ego or not. havent bothered to try to get laid since masturbation is so easy now with quality porn available at no cost, but could be worth it if there are mental benefits from it.
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Post by superlative introversion on Dec 5, 2009 19:42:11 GMT -5
Doing it once probably won't boost your confidence much. Being able to experience it on a regular basis, I'd imagine, would have a positive effect on confidence.
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Post by Astroruss on Dec 21, 2009 15:55:21 GMT -5
Sex brings confidence, the more frequent the better. However, there are a few limiting factors here: - your performance must be good, or at least, satisfying to the woman. If not, she'll tell all her gfs that you're 'bad in bed' which is a worse label than being shy. - take care that you don't develop an expectant, easy attitude towards sex. This is the main argument of women against the usermen; women get dehumanized into easy 'one night stands' and become only sex units that are not treated as persons by the men they sleep with. If this occurs, she'll tell all her gfs and you'll be demoted to the status of an 'insensitive, user male bastard' or worse. - for the love of God, don't brag about it either. I know it's unfair, but bragging about 'the bitch i bagged last night' won't buy you any respect in other mens' eyes. They'll simply crank up the old verbal contest to prove how many women they've been with. And inevitably, the women'll find out and tell all her gfs what a pig you are. Instead, try to drag out the sex experience and make it personal. If you can make her feel good physically and talk to her about yall's feelings in bed afterwards, she'll like you and come back for more. This will make you feel more confident.
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Post by MrNice on Dec 21, 2009 18:28:38 GMT -5
yes - it will take a big load of your back
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Dec 21, 2009 19:10:13 GMT -5
Too bad you edited your post, MrNice....I found the analogy quite interesting, lol.
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Post by airburst on Dec 22, 2009 0:42:15 GMT -5
Yes it'll boost confidence, but it's not a cure for anything. I'm not a virgin, however I'm still socially awkward and shy.
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Post by gaia on Dec 24, 2009 17:26:24 GMT -5
Not at all. Maybe it's because i'm female. But no, brought me no confidence at all. If anything, it's given me a huge sense of inadequacy! lolol.
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Post by YouNeedLove on Dec 31, 2009 18:39:49 GMT -5
good points everyone
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Post by YouNeedLove on Dec 31, 2009 18:40:48 GMT -5
Not at all. Maybe it's because i'm female. But no, brought me no confidence at all. If anything, it's given me a huge sense of inadequacy! lolol. how come?
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Post by arizona on Jan 7, 2010 19:56:40 GMT -5
I suspect there are more adult where-gins than people realize.
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Post by gaia on Jan 9, 2010 13:08:45 GMT -5
Not at all. Maybe it's because i'm female. But no, brought me no confidence at all. If anything, it's given me a huge sense of inadequacy! lolol. how come? It's all about intentions. There was a misunderstanding betwen us (he just wanted sex, I wanted more) which left me feeling rejected on the basis of my personality. I've never had that experience before... i've always felt rejected because of my appearance.
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Post by Tal on Jan 10, 2010 3:52:10 GMT -5
I honestly think it would boost my confidence. I can't even get to sleep properly anymore because I've consantly got these thoughts whirling around in my head that I'm 25 and still a virgin, that I can't find women who are willing to talk to me let alone sleep with me. I think every women I've spoken to for the first time in the last few years has given up on me within the space of 10 private messages or not even replied to begin with.
It's depressing to feel so alone, so unwanted and so behind, not to mention the thought that time is just slipping away from me. So yeah sex would be a huge boost. Probably only a short term boost but it might be enough to make as difference.
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Post by YouNeedLove on Jan 13, 2010 9:23:43 GMT -5
It's all about intentions. There was a misunderstanding betwen us (he just wanted sex, I wanted more) which left me feeling rejected on the basis of my personality. I've never had that experience before... i've always felt rejected because of my appearance. ok yes that makes sense
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Post by Richard Cunningham on Jan 26, 2010 10:07:50 GMT -5
Sex will not bring confidence. Why would it?
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Post by YouNeedLove on Dec 19, 2015 0:38:00 GMT -5
Yeah it didn't help much. There is social stigma about being virgin which is unfortunate.
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