Post by christine220 on Aug 30, 2010 13:15:53 GMT -5
I don't know where to begin and I don't know what I ever did to deserve this. My fiance and I have been together for several years. recently we had to move because the house that we were renting went into foreclosure. So currently he is living with his mother and I'm living with my aunt until we can find another place. Since he had been living with his mom, I've been meeting him at her house for the last two months. I have never had a problem with his mother. I can't say that I am really close to her but we talk a lot when I am there. Even before he moved in with her I did nice things for his mom. ON her birthday I talked my fiance into taking her out to dinner. She likes to read so I brought her some books of mine that are from her favorite authors recently. Also about a month ago she was really sick (flu) and couldn't eat anything. I brought her 7-up and crackers when I came over.
I've also sat and talked to her for hours at times because she seems lonely and likes to talk. This past weekend my fiance and I went camping with his mom and his older sister and her boyfriend. This is the 2nd time we've all gone camping together recently. Everything was going great and we ate lunch. I had asked what I should bring (because I didn't know what everyone else was bringing) and his mom told me to bring buns and chips and whatever I wanted to drink. I also got smores and some cookies and extra snacks. His mom made potato salad and brought hot dogs. We each made our own hot dogs. Some were still eating when I finished so I threw my plate away and sat there for awhile.
Earlier that day his mom and I were joking around about how cold it had been the night before. When my fiance's sister and her boyfriend went for a walk his mom started complaining about his sister's boyfriend. Just that she didn't know what she saw in him. We just listened to her talk and didn't really add anything.
Anyway, we were sitting there and maybe two people were still eating and my head hurt so I got up and went into the tent to find some tylenol. My fiance got up and went to his truck to get something. I was in the tent (about ten feet away from his mom, sister and boyfriend) for about five minutes and I heard them get up and start moving things around. I thought they were just getting seconds and I heard his mom say "yeah, last time all she did was sit on her a** and read a book". Now, the last time we went camping, my fiance's sister's boyfriend did not go with us. However, his mom and his sister spent most of their time sitting in front of the tent in chairs reading books while my fiance and I went bike riding and took walks. At one point I did read about four pages out of a book I had (at the same time his mom was reading too!) so I honestly thought that his mom was talking abou his sister or was joking). Then the next thing I heard was her boyfriend laughing and saying "I think I'll go take a nap!" and his sister laughed. His mom then said "Christine is the most worthless person I've ever met in my entire life!"
I felt like someone had punched me in the stomach. I have no idea what I did to deserve such venom. I wouldn't come out of the tent (his sister's boyfriend continued to laugh and joke about he was going to take a nap) and my fiance came in and found me in tears and asked what was wrong. his mom and sister went for a walk and my fiance convinced me to come outside. He had not heard what was said. I confronted (yes, I'm proud!) his sister's boyfriend and asked what I did that made everyone talk sh*t about me. He looked kind of sheepish (but didn't appologize) and said it was because I didn't help clean up. That they thought I'd gone in to take a nap.
now first of all I DIDN'T KNOW they were cleaning up. When I walked into the tent his mom and the boyfriend were still eating. At NO time did they ask or say "hey christine, can you give us a hand? I was in a tent and could not see outside. And any other time I've always helped out. At his mom's house I took out the garbage once (for no reason, it was just full) and did the dishes once even though I didn't eat dinner.
My fiance confronted his mom and asked her why she said what she did and she told him because I didn't help clean up and that I NEVER do and he pointed out that I didn't know they were cleaning up (note that he didn't either and did NOT help) and she screamed at him that I was old enough that someone shouldn't have to tell me or ask me to do anything. He told his mom that she owed me an appolgy and she yelled "then tell her I'm sorry!" and hung up the phone on him.
I now REFUSE to go to see him at her house. I have no idea how to act around her and I am very upset by the way she treated me. I have NEVER done anything to her! What the hell happened?
I've also sat and talked to her for hours at times because she seems lonely and likes to talk. This past weekend my fiance and I went camping with his mom and his older sister and her boyfriend. This is the 2nd time we've all gone camping together recently. Everything was going great and we ate lunch. I had asked what I should bring (because I didn't know what everyone else was bringing) and his mom told me to bring buns and chips and whatever I wanted to drink. I also got smores and some cookies and extra snacks. His mom made potato salad and brought hot dogs. We each made our own hot dogs. Some were still eating when I finished so I threw my plate away and sat there for awhile.
Earlier that day his mom and I were joking around about how cold it had been the night before. When my fiance's sister and her boyfriend went for a walk his mom started complaining about his sister's boyfriend. Just that she didn't know what she saw in him. We just listened to her talk and didn't really add anything.
Anyway, we were sitting there and maybe two people were still eating and my head hurt so I got up and went into the tent to find some tylenol. My fiance got up and went to his truck to get something. I was in the tent (about ten feet away from his mom, sister and boyfriend) for about five minutes and I heard them get up and start moving things around. I thought they were just getting seconds and I heard his mom say "yeah, last time all she did was sit on her a** and read a book". Now, the last time we went camping, my fiance's sister's boyfriend did not go with us. However, his mom and his sister spent most of their time sitting in front of the tent in chairs reading books while my fiance and I went bike riding and took walks. At one point I did read about four pages out of a book I had (at the same time his mom was reading too!) so I honestly thought that his mom was talking abou his sister or was joking). Then the next thing I heard was her boyfriend laughing and saying "I think I'll go take a nap!" and his sister laughed. His mom then said "Christine is the most worthless person I've ever met in my entire life!"
I felt like someone had punched me in the stomach. I have no idea what I did to deserve such venom. I wouldn't come out of the tent (his sister's boyfriend continued to laugh and joke about he was going to take a nap) and my fiance came in and found me in tears and asked what was wrong. his mom and sister went for a walk and my fiance convinced me to come outside. He had not heard what was said. I confronted (yes, I'm proud!) his sister's boyfriend and asked what I did that made everyone talk sh*t about me. He looked kind of sheepish (but didn't appologize) and said it was because I didn't help clean up. That they thought I'd gone in to take a nap.
now first of all I DIDN'T KNOW they were cleaning up. When I walked into the tent his mom and the boyfriend were still eating. At NO time did they ask or say "hey christine, can you give us a hand? I was in a tent and could not see outside. And any other time I've always helped out. At his mom's house I took out the garbage once (for no reason, it was just full) and did the dishes once even though I didn't eat dinner.
My fiance confronted his mom and asked her why she said what she did and she told him because I didn't help clean up and that I NEVER do and he pointed out that I didn't know they were cleaning up (note that he didn't either and did NOT help) and she screamed at him that I was old enough that someone shouldn't have to tell me or ask me to do anything. He told his mom that she owed me an appolgy and she yelled "then tell her I'm sorry!" and hung up the phone on him.
I now REFUSE to go to see him at her house. I have no idea how to act around her and I am very upset by the way she treated me. I have NEVER done anything to her! What the hell happened?