avach
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Nov 12, 2010 17:03:24 GMT -5
Post by avach on Nov 12, 2010 17:03:24 GMT -5
i had to spread my word and theres no other thread i saw that it could fit in so heres my new thread. to all the guys: theres nothing wrong with being a virgin! why would anybody want a slut thats fucked everything that walks. so many think that every girl preferes someone who has had some experience but i dont understand that at all! there are no words how discusting those tramps are...it makes me sick to my stomach. it doesnt matter if your a virgin due to your shyness. i used to think it was horrible to be a virgin and everybody would judge you for it and say that your prude, boring or theyd thing something was wrong with you. i wish someone woulda smaked me in the head and told me the truth. everyone should stop worrying about virginity. its only a big deal to yourself. people thatd laugh at you for it dont deserve to be with you.
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Nov 12, 2010 18:10:04 GMT -5
Post by Scotty on Nov 12, 2010 18:10:04 GMT -5
Scotty likes this.
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Nov 13, 2010 12:39:26 GMT -5
Post by Tal on Nov 13, 2010 12:39:26 GMT -5
its only a big deal to yourself. people thatd laugh at you for it dont deserve to be with you. Well in my case (26 years of virginity and counting) that's the big problem. I'm not that bothered about what others say, what bothers and upsets me is how being a virgin makes me feel. It makes me feel inexperienced and childish. It makes me feel like I've missed out on so much in life. It makes me feel that somehow I need to make up the last 8 or so years of lost time and that I can't really enter into a relationship until I've done that. I've found that other people I've told have been quite understanding and usually not that critical of me being a virgin. Most of the criticism comes from me and aimed at myself. I've not managed to meet my own expectations. So although I do agree that you shouldn't let others makes you feel bad, imo that's only half the problem, especially if you're someone who in normal circumstances might be quite adventurous in the bedroom. That whole 'waiting for the right person' thing doesn't appeal to me. lol
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avach
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Nov 14, 2010 12:13:19 GMT -5
Post by avach on Nov 14, 2010 12:13:19 GMT -5
well at least you dont feel judged by others! thats good. i understand you wanting to change your life in that way for yourself of course. i just wanted to say that no one needs to get all bumbed about it bc they fear that others judge them for their lack of experience. i was so concerned with virginity bc everyone around me was just humping each other all over the place lol personally i have never and still dont find experienced guys desireable. unless you wanna date a bit of a freak, who would want a playboy. im pretty sure im not the only one with this opinion. and i wasnt saying you should "wait for the right person" ^^ thats a little conservative in my opinion. just dont stress over it
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Paper
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Nov 14, 2010 17:14:47 GMT -5
Post by Paper on Nov 14, 2010 17:14:47 GMT -5
I completely disagree with the original post. From my perspective I hated being a virgin, it was a constant monkey on my back, and made me feel bad every day. I'm not a virgin anymore, when I lost it (in my mid 20s) it was absolutely crap, my performance was woeful, and it meant nothing, but I didn't care in the slightest because it was such a relief.
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Nov 14, 2010 20:30:21 GMT -5
Post by strawberrysweetie on Nov 14, 2010 20:30:21 GMT -5
i had to spread my word and theres no other thread i saw that it could fit in so heres my new thread. to all the guys: theres nothing wrong with being a virgin! why would anybody want a slut thats messed everything that walks. so many think that every girl preferes someone who has had some experience but i dont understand that at all! there are no words how discusting those tramps are...it makes me sick to my stomach. it doesnt matter if your a virgin due to your shyness. i used to think it was horrible to be a virgin and everybody would judge you for it and say that your prude, boring or theyd thing something was wrong with you. i wish someone woulda smaked me in the head and told me the truth.everyone should stop worrying about virginity. its only a big deal to yourself. people thatd laugh at you for it dont deserve to be with you. I definitely completely agree with you, avach. The less partners a person has been with, the better, imo. I can understand your need to post this, too. So yeah, you're not the only one with this opinion. I can see where Tal and paper are coming from, in their own way. But I think it just depends on how the individual views sex/relationships. I think this post may be more aimed at the commitment-minded. Those looking for a relationship. If you're into just casual sex, I suppose this post may have no worth to you. But if you're wanting a serious relationship, the other person shouldn't have a problem with your 'lack of experience' and in that sense, it really should be no big deal. Virginity alone has never bothered me, personally (though I can see why it might be more difficult on guys in this society). It's just lacking relationships in general that has. Lacking relationship experience does make you feel more like a child in a way, sort of as Tal mentioned.
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Nov 15, 2010 9:57:02 GMT -5
Post by geekguy on Nov 15, 2010 9:57:02 GMT -5
I lost my virginity to a girl I didn't care about at all. If I could go back and relive the events of those days leading up to it, I would choose to remain a virgin.
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Nov 16, 2010 19:21:22 GMT -5
Post by madiocre on Nov 16, 2010 19:21:22 GMT -5
i think the act if losing your virginity dosn't actually mean much. honestly if you give it up to someone you don't care about it won't make much difference at all . all the issues and hang ups that come with being shy will still be there.
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splattice
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Nov 19, 2010 16:46:40 GMT -5
Post by splattice on Nov 19, 2010 16:46:40 GMT -5
It's just lacking relationships in general that has. Lacking relationship experience does make you feel more like a child in a way, sort of as Tal mentioned. But one loving, lasting relationship would be plenty, right? What use then is there for many [failed] relationships? The way I see it is that when starting a new relationship, the significant other would be treated as independent individual and every effort would be made for things work out. That is, no assumptions or inferences are made based on previous partners; that no experience can be gained from past relationships which can be applied in future relationships to make them better.
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Nov 21, 2010 21:16:08 GMT -5
Post by strawberrysweetie on Nov 21, 2010 21:16:08 GMT -5
It's just lacking relationships in general that has. Lacking relationship experience does make you feel more like a child in a way, sort of as Tal mentioned. But one loving, lasting relationship would be plenty, right? For me, yes. That is most ideal to me anyway. I'm just lacking in the entire social department, though. Never had a relationship...and have also had very, very few friendships. In terms of social experiences, I really may as well be just 13 years old! :S Which is a sickening thought really. . . . What use then is there for many [failed] relationships? The way I see it is that when starting a new relationship, the significant other would be treated as independent individual and every effort would be made for things work out. That is, no assumptions or inferences are made based on previous partners; that no experience can be gained from past relationships which can be applied in future relationships to make them better. That is an interesting perspective. I think you make a great point that the new person needs to be considered as an individual. Yet, while I don't think tons of previous relationships are essential to 'knowing how it works' and being successful in a relationship, I do think that if one has had previous relationships, things can still be learned from them. I think you can learn a lot about yourself and how you deal with others, for example. And potentially learn how to improve in communicating and compromising. But you're right that you can't make generalizations and that the individual is quite different.
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gals
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Dec 17, 2010 2:31:02 GMT -5
Post by gals on Dec 17, 2010 2:31:02 GMT -5
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin.
What you decide to do with your body shouldn't be dictated, judged or ridiculed by society or your peers. You have the right to your personal choice.
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Dec 19, 2010 23:27:33 GMT -5
Post by timarends on Dec 19, 2010 23:27:33 GMT -5
Why you have to tell anybody that you're a virgin? Does anybody pin you down and twist your arm and force you to tell? It's nobody's business but your own.
I don't understand this business of being embarrassed about it. It's not like you have to wear a red mark on your forehead or something. Nobody needs to know about it but you.
Besides all that, it is only modern society's brainwashing that have told us that being a virgin before marriage is a bad thing. It used to be considered a good thing. It is only the whims of modern-day society that have told us otherwise.
Anybody who thinks it is a terrible thing has bought into the brainwashing. Just like society used to tell us that masturbation is wrong. Now that, too, has changed 180°. It's only what you think it is. If it doesn't harm anybody, it's not "wrong" or "bad".
In fact, historically speaking, the word "virgin" didn't even apply to males. It was only a word that was ever applied to females. The word "virgin" was never used to describe a male, because it was considered nonsensical. That, too, is just a silly whim of society. Even on a medical doctors examining table, no one can tell if a man was a "virgin" or not. Even with females it's iffy.
So I would say, get rid of this false sense of shame for being a "virgin." It's all part of society's brainwashing.
Some people are even so terrified at the thought of remaining a "virgin" that they engage in risky sexual activities and end up getting nasty sexually transmitted diseases for which there are no cures... ever.
At least the Virgin is free of such diseases. In fact, this is the reason why it was once seen as a good thing, and a pretty good reason, I must admit. A lot of women are still pleased and flattered if a male can honestly say he's a "virgin" at marriage, and vice versa.
If you feel your shyness is going to keep you from ever getting married and you want to, yes, that can be a problem! But let's get rid of this false bogeyman of "virginity." It is just a distraction from the real issues.
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Jul 5, 2011 11:53:03 GMT -5
Post by ghost1990 on Jul 5, 2011 11:53:03 GMT -5
theres nothing wrong with being a virgin!
only wanted to write it again, because nothing is even more true. Gender doesn't matter, age as well: it is your decision and it does no harm to anybody, so it is good.
Still some people say it is bad and well, some even believe it. My favorite example was a study I once read, where women got questioned if they don't mind male virgins or not. The sad ending was: 3 of 4 women were thinking that it was very bad and that these guys maybe would bad in some way (ugly, perverted, dumb, or mean)
Sad it is, indeed =(
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Sept 1, 2011 19:34:17 GMT -5
Post by anticrank on Sept 1, 2011 19:34:17 GMT -5
What I really don't understand is the pressure people face to lose their virginity early. I don't understand why people feel that there is something wrong with them if they're a late bloomer. I think that it's not a big deal among decent people, only amongst immature little shits that are probably not worth your time anyway. Any half-decent woman that likes you for you shouldn't be put off by things like this. They would be willing and accepting of this if they're genuine. To be honest, some girls out there would love to meet guys with little experience, however, there are a lot of shallow, mattress-backed slags.
Look at all the rates of STI's and teenage pregnancy, and illigitamate kids. Think of the health, think of the welfare bill! I'm from the UK and I can tell you that this problem is rife, and it's all down to this stupid pressure. Sod extra sex education, TAKE OF THE PEER PRESSURE!
Let me tell a secret, a lot of the people I went to college with said they were drunk when they lost they're virginity, both directly and from conversations I overheard. Many young people do unfortunately lose their virginity to drunken one-night stands, or to peer pressure, or to someone who doesn't fully accept them warts and all.
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Sept 18, 2011 20:42:13 GMT -5
Post by shyofmyboyfriend22 on Sept 18, 2011 20:42:13 GMT -5
i,m a virgin and just admitted it to my boyfriend today hehe ;D
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