help i am shy of online boyfriend of 9 months

[shyofmyboyfriend22]

hey i,m shy of my online boyfriend we have been togather for nine months already and i,m still so very shy of him i want to let him touch me in roleplay but i get butterflies in my stomach when he says can i touch you where do want to touched? i didint answer his question becouse i felt i was going to be reduced to puddle i was so shy and nervous and this just me & him on the internet how will be when we really meet in person how will survive the ordeal? cross that bridge when i come to it i guess but for now i cant stop being so shy of him i am a virgin so i never had sex never been around a guy in person in a loving way or in a relationship i am overweight hes seen my pics and except me the way i am his a very loving boyfriend and dont care that i,m overweight he loves for me and stuck by me even tho i said very bad things to him hes very forgiving and were still togather how do not stop being shy completly but be little less nervous and shy of him like i,m in a chat room n he on cam and wanna move my chatroom cube towards him but i cant i always move away him any help or advice to a 22 year old girl so very shy of her online boyfriend i just cant seem relax around him you know let my guard down even for a minute thanks for any help or step by step advice

[Karen]

Hey Shyofmy, welcome to su!

I think it can be hard to open up if its your first time in any sort of relationship. Particularly if your shy. I would say, try to relax, and take your time, you will eventually feel more comfortable around your online boyfriend. The longer you know one another the easier all that stuff will become. As far as the role play stuff, when he asks you 'where do you want me to touch you' just tell him, it will probably be really hard the first time and you might cringe and feel awkward, but then the next time it will be a lot easier.

I hope some of that was helpful. :)Good luck!

[shyofmyboyfriend22]

ty karen it is helpful i cant wait for more help and karen i guess i,m so nervous also becouse when he says touch me and asks me where if i say where i,ll feeling like hes tickling me lol i am ticklish so thats another thing that makes have butterflies knowing it feels like hes tickling me if i say my face or my stomach it feels hes tickling me lol i d k i know its online but it still feels like hes tickling me not i that i dont like it lol i,m peice of work

[shyofmyboyfriend22]

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[Scotty]

Basically what Karen said, the longer you know him the easier things will be. Either wait till you are comfortable, or if you are too nervous but want to do something just try to push yourself.

I'm curious, do you have plans to meet? Does he live far away? And have you have spoken to him on the phone or in a voice chat?

[shyofmyboyfriend22]

yep.. he lives in another country but yes i spoke to him on voice chat meny a times and seen him on cam i do hope we meet someday since we.ve been togather for 9 months off and back on still going strong i know he has to get a visa to come here to ny state and costs quite a bit out of pocket he said for a visa. to go there from here its a 100$ spot for the visa but i aint going there hopefully one day he,ll come here and visit me i would love if he did ;D

[shyofmyboyfriend22]

thanks too everyone who replied and gave advice i would like more then 5 ppl giving advice tho?? and no 1 else is repleying y?? i would like some diffrernt advices or is that all i get?

[Karen]

This is a pretty slow forum Shyofmy, there isn't a lot of traffic. Some people need time to marshal their responses, and sometimes people have nothing to add, or to say on certain subjects. I would say, try to be patient. I hope you get all the advice you need.

[lostmyself]

Sept 18, 2011 20:31:41 GMT -5 shyofmyboyfriend22 said:

i was so shy and nervous and this just me & him on the internet how will be when we really meet in person how will survive the ordeal?

Sometimes it can be easier to be face to face with someone. I hate talking to people on the phone and find it easier face to face with someone. I've met a few people that I'd been friends with online and our friendships got stronger when we'd met so don't worry yourself so much.

As Karen said, try to relax. He obviously likes you a lot and I'm sure he'll be patient. The more you know someone, the easier it will become.