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Post by casanova2 on Feb 16, 2012 2:30:15 GMT -5
Does anybody know if this is harrasement? If you send someone one text every day is that harrasement? what is classed as harrasement?
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Post by mintymint on Feb 16, 2012 5:56:35 GMT -5
If they don't want you to be sending it, then sure, it's harassment.
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Post by Karen on Feb 16, 2012 9:23:44 GMT -5
If they don't want you to be sending it, then sure, it's harassment. This. If they are not replying, or have asked you not to contact them, then it's better to leave them alone.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 16, 2012 15:54:59 GMT -5
How about if you give them some space then contact them?she is an ex and i am trying to win her back.I thought you could get away with the odd message?
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 16, 2012 15:55:31 GMT -5
In the a situation where you have just split.
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Post by Karen on Feb 16, 2012 16:25:28 GMT -5
Casanova, I think if sending her flowers didn't work, and sending her a card for valentines didn't work, and your mom messaging her on facebook didn't work, I doubt any amount of texts are going to convince her to get back with you.
It seems like its time to move on, I know its never easy to lose someone, but I think you've done all (and more) that you can reasonably do to try to get back with her. Perhaps now you should focus on doing your own thing for a while.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 17, 2012 2:17:24 GMT -5
I still think she has feelings for me.But i know she feels that my mental health is not strong enough for a relationship.
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Post by missklew on Feb 17, 2012 6:24:25 GMT -5
The best thing you can do is leave her alone. The more you contact her, you are just pushing her away and she will end up getting a restraining order against you.
Think about how you feel is someone keeps pestering you. Or a pushy salesman. You don't like it do you. You have to leave her alone and stop contacting her in any way.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 17, 2012 14:16:36 GMT -5
I have stopped contacting her.And i did leave her alone for a while.Its hard though because i am in love with the girl.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 18, 2012 3:04:00 GMT -5
If i sent her some more flowers is that harrasement as well?
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Post by Sigh on Feb 18, 2012 7:06:09 GMT -5
By this stage, yes.
Best to leave her alone now.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Feb 18, 2012 20:27:25 GMT -5
I still think she has feelings for me.But i know she feels that my mental health is not strong enough for a relationship. now that's an intriguing statement...
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 19, 2012 4:35:10 GMT -5
Why is it intriguing?thanks for the advice guys i am hurting because i blame myself for our breakup.
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Post by Karen on Feb 19, 2012 9:21:50 GMT -5
Sorry you are hurting Casanova, breakups are really painful, but its pretty clear from all you've said in various threads on this forum that one of the reasons she broke up with you is because you were smothering her. continuing to sends texts and flowers, after she's asked you not to contact her, is only going to make the situation worse, and it is harassment.
As hard as it is, try to accept the breakup, and take what you've learned from this relationship into the next one.
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Post by mintymint on Feb 19, 2012 10:56:10 GMT -5
Sorry you are hurting Casanova, breakups are really painful, but its pretty clear from all you've said in various threads on this forum that one of the reasons she broke up with you is because you were smothering her. continuing to sends texts and flowers, after she's asked you not to contact her, is only going to make the situation worse, and it is harassment. As hard as it is, try to accept the breakup, and take what you've learned from this relationship into the next one. That's some good advice. Just let it go. Smothering her more after the fact would have never amounted anything more than harassment, as Karen said. It most certainly wouldn't have won her back.
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