For the dating shy guys especially pls.

[user1mame]

For the dating shy guys. How did u get ur girlfriend?, did she ask u out or u ask her. Did she ask u to be her boyfriend or u askd hes to b ur girlfriend. A little explanation is desirable too. Am a shy guy and i want to see if i can learn anything cos i ve nvr had a girlfriend

[shyguy2012]

User1mame,

I met my girlfriend at a party where I didn't know anybody except my roommate. I was very nervous about going to the party, but went anyways. I've worked alot on pushing through my shyness to meet people and was able to introduced myself to some party attendees and was given an introduction to my future girlfriend by them.

Just out of curiosity, where are you coming from? As in relative age and level of shyness?

Best,
Shyguy2012

[robini123]

My first wife hit on me. I am here to tell you that it is a bad reason to marry a woman just because you are lonely, desperate and she hit on you. There are some important points of compatibility that should be looked at too. I failed to do this and wasted 16 years of my life in a marriage where we were more like roommates than husband and wife.

My 2nd marriage is way different. I married a woman that I have much in common with. She is shy, is disabled with the same illness that I have, we think alike on many issues... we are a good match.

When seeking a relationship, be picky. Have a list of deal breakers, for example, I would not date a smoker. Have a list of must haves, for example, I needed a woman who was laid back like me. This may make it take a long time to find the right one... but better to find the right one than to get yourself into a situation that you later regret.

[exshyguy]

Hey well i used to be soooo shy in school I would always see a girl in class and I would start to have a crush but I would never let that girl know sometimes they would become my friends ( I say they because it happend over all my years in school) and I would never ask them out because of my shyness and every single time I would be heartbroken when the girl I liked would get asked out buy some other guy :-( and I went all of my school years without a girlfriend even when I knew. This one girl realy liked me I didn't ask her out because of my shyness so she ended moving on without me and being hurt over and over by my shyness I knew I had to get over it and one day my sister had a birthday party at a club and I went with her and saw this beautiful girl that I liked I had never seen her before or talked to her and wanted to tallk to her and I just started thinking of all those years of shyness and that helped me grow courage to go and talked to ber basicaly I didn't want to get hurt again and even if she wouldt talk to me I didn't know her and I wouldn't see her again but that didn't happen she talked to me I got her number and now we have been goin out for 4yrs my edvice to you is just don't waste ur time being shy I wasted all those years and I got tired of always being the shy guy so try to talk to girls even if they turn u down just remember u did it u talked to them be yourself and be a gentalman not a jerk

[jwn57030]

Congratulations on your 4 years. I hope you have continued happiness.

For me my longest relationship was someone I met online. It didn't work out though. What I considerd my best relationship was someone I met at work. She was at a person's cubicle that I needed to talk you. The person I went to talk too had to leave for a second to get a copy. While she was gone she started flirting with me by asking if I was doing anything that weekend. I picked up signals that it was not just a casual conversation to fill some time while waiting. She was actually interested in me. Before I could actually get the nerve to ask her out in person the other person returned. So I got her name and found her on our works messenger program. I then started im'ing her a little and that friday I asked her if she wanted to get together that weekend. It ended up being one of the most amazing weekends in my entire life(No Sex was involved). We spent almost all day saturday together and some of sunday. I completely fell for her. Then her family came to town and I couldn't see her for like a week, then she had a planned vacation, and after she came back she had gotten fired from her job. After that she found a job in a different city across the country.

I hope you have some luck finding your first girlfriend. It definitely is great and exciting when it finally happens.

[exshyguy]

Hey thanx for the good wishes but what happend with your friend she just left and y'all never tallked?

[jwn57030]

Dec 17, 2012 17:47:29 GMT -5 exshyguy said:

Hey thanx for the good wishes but what happend with your friend she just left and y'all never tallked?

Unfortunately after she left we did not stay in touch for long. We exchange a couple text messages asking how each other was doing, but not much more than that. Also, after that I was a little depressed and was trying to get over her. Staying in contact with her wouldn't help that. Also I have a bad habit of not staying in contact with people with friends when I or they have moved away. I have always been more of a loner, or a private person. So when people leave me I don't make enough effort to stay in touch with them. There's definitely several people including her that I wished I had made more of an effort to stay in touch with. That's something I will be trying to do more in the future.

[firelfy]

I met my girlfriend on like a find friends thingy, it was on my mobile, called mobi friends or something like that. On a day where i wasn't up to much i entered a profile, sent a few messages stuff like
that. then one day I hit it off with a women (who then became my girlfriend) we started to get to know each other, swapped numbers then finally met up. getting to know someone this way made me less nervous
about meeting up because I knew her already. we've been together for 5 happy years.
I highly recommend using friendship websites as it can build your confidence up and no pressure of dating. it says about making friends but who knows where it can go.

I've waffled on a bit there hope this makes sense