Restless Mind and Loneliness

[Shan-Chan]

Hi everybody, how are you doing? Please excuse me if I tend to ramble....It's 5:53 a.m. here and I am still up. -_- I just got a lot on my mind. I started feeling bad after I saw something online...Actually it is something that has been bothering me for awhile:

The fact that some people get so much love, while others get so little

I was on Deviantart.com and I saw how some people who really don't do anything that anyone else couldn't do, but because they look a certain way or do exceptional fanart they get so many compliments and people that really slober over them. It's just that I know that I am a good person and that other people are too, but sometimes we go without a shoulder to lean on when we need someone. And then you have these people that can just ask and they have a hundred people to socialize with. I guess I want that myself. That type of security.

Cause I've been alone so long.

Oh and don't get me started on celebrities and Twitter folks (I have a Twitter account too). -Inhales- What I am trying to get at is~ some people that are just as equal as us get special treatment and seem to have barrels of love spewed at them. I just get hurt by it. I've been getting really hurt by it lately. I think that if I didn't have to run after people to make friends I would feel better. =S

[huoriel]

I actually was just pondering over this today. I think that's why I enjoy staying home sometimes, because seeing people like that makes me feel worse about myself. That's why I stopped logging into facebook; people's vast popularity would cause me to start to put me in a funk (or just down-right annoy me). It really has helped me to cut that out of my life, so maybe it would help if you took a break from twitter? I guess one way to look at it is: those people with all those friends probably don't value each one of them. The relationship they have with their friends isn't as strong as it could or should be. I don't have many friends, but I treasure each friendship dearly, and I would trust each and every one of them with my life. So, another way of looking at it could be there are perks to not being one of those people. Who knows, maybe you will be one of those people someday (but a better person than those people tend to be ! Just hang in there!

[anticrank]

I can relate to this. When you're feeling lonely and in that low state, it can seem as if everyone is in someway better-off than you. One thing that loneliness sure as hell does is that it makes you feel like you're the only one, especially if you feel that no-one understands what it's like. In reality, a lot of those friendships aren't as deep and sincere as the appear to be on the surface.

[robini123]

I would rather have one good friend than 1000 mediocre friends. Life is not a popularity contest. It is more about quality than quantity. To measure yourself against another is a recipe for disappointment... in many cases anyway. If you feel you must measure yourself against somebody, pick someone like Mother Teresa not Miley Cyrus... or Martin Luther King Jr. not Justin Bieber. Better yet, just be yourself.

I understand the loneliness, but our time is better spent on working on ourselves, overcoming our short comings, rather than focusing on how well others have it. Shyness is a devastating thing, and our isolation is debilitating. But rather than being a slave to it, we must fight it, overcome it, forge our own path, not follow others.

My philosophy, be the best person that you can be... and if people don't like you for it... oh well... and those who do see the good in you and appreciate it... then keep them close and cultivate the relationship. Friends are hard to come by, wayward friend are a dime a dozen and of little value.

[ura]

Robini you seem to be full of good advice.

[robini123]

Dec 11, 2012 22:34:48 GMT -5 ura said:

Robini you seem to be full of good advice.

I appreciate that. Sometimes I get it right, other times I don't. I am just happy if I am able to help.

[Shan-Chan]

Thank you for responding . I honestly have been getting better with this topic since when i posted this. I was so =( down then.

I can now turn the other cheek and kinda be "hmm" when I see people getting attention thrown at them for literally doing nothing. I know that I do not want to be one in the mob. I want someone to see I'm special for what I can~ do and who I am. Without having to break my neck to simply get noticed. We all have individuality (I believe 0.0 ), and we all have something to offer. And love is something that should be big enough to go around for all. I hope it can some day. I really do.

Dec 11, 2012 17:11:06 GMT -5 robini123 said:

But rather than being a slave to it, we must fight it, overcome it, forge our own path, not follow others.

And this sentence really sticks with me. I like it.