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Post by robini123 on Dec 15, 2012 14:28:10 GMT -5
How many times in my life (I am in my late 40's) have I heard of a mass shooting, then see interviews with people who knew the shooter that say things like "he was such a quiet and nice young man". Columbine, Virginia Tech, the latest shooting in Connecticut... and many others... all done by men who are shy, reserved, nerds, outcasts.
I relate to in a deep way being shy, reserved, a nerd, being the outcast... but I in no way shape or forum relate with such hate and insanity that I would ever even think of hurting another person. My shyness just made me a reclusive shut-in. At the height of my shyness it was just easier to avoid people. I never had any anger towards the beautiful, successful or popular... I just wondered why I was different.
My fellow shy peeps, never blame others for your shyness... do not blame yourself either, as you did not choose to be shy. Instead fight to overcome your shyness. Life is 50% chance and 50% choice so choose to better yourself, fight your shyness, or forever remain a slave to it. But if you chose to be a slave to your shyness, do not blame others for it, as the fault will lie with you alone.
I am not saying any here will shoot up a school or movie theater, but I do see some express jealousy and anger towards the more outgoing people in our society. Accepting ourselves for who we are, while trying to better ourselves, is better than being a jealous angry reclusive person.
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Post by Knox on Jan 7, 2013 13:15:31 GMT -5
I have since changed,.. but in high school i did have a tendency to be jealous, angry, and bitter toward the 'normal' kids..... and even then it never reached a point of having violent thoughts. That never crossed my mind as a reasonable solution. I remember a few times in High School when kids would be really nice to me and then follow their up niceness by saying something like, "So, when you shoot up the school... I'm safe right?" I mean, really? Why would you even joke about that? I know this is bad, but whenever I heard about another school shooting i used to cross my fingers and hope that the shooter was a popular outgoing extrovert. I guess that just goes to show how much of a self-centered teenager I really was. I was more concerned with how an event like this would affect my reputation than the event itself. It makes me sick to my stomach to think about it now..
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Post by Sexy Spork #37 on Jan 7, 2013 15:18:40 GMT -5
It's a clichéd argument, but anyone is capable of anything. Who you are does not determin what you are. Okay, I'm shy, ergo, I'm going to go on a mass shooting spree. No, not really. It's how your interactions with the world and how the world interacts with you that determine your actions.
People are always trying to blame a group. Oh, it's shy people, they're the people we should be watching out for. It's not fair. What matters in these types of situations is what happened. Yes, the man should be punished, but that's where his story should end. Why not focus on the families and how they're feeling rather than trying to blame people. They lost their children. Children. Sometimes, there are just too many problems in the world.
Being shy isn't a series of predetermined character traits. Everyone is different. Treat people like that.
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Post by Astroruss on Mar 5, 2013 19:17:13 GMT -5
I think there is a big bias against the isolated loner type in the media with gunmen. A shooter that's the lone wolf, antisocial type is hyped up and played on more in the media because they are odd and socially dysfunctional. And of course, the media is filled with outgoing, loud, extroverted attention whores who think their kind is normal. Besides, how many mass shooter killings have there been in NA for the last ten years? Fifty? Sixty? Big deal. The antisocial ones? Fewere still. Armed robberies and killings and knife fights happen every day all over the continent but they never get nationally publicized like the 'loner antisocial' types do. I think sexual frustration has much more to do with these mass killings than social anxiety does.
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