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Post by marle on Dec 19, 2012 0:09:39 GMT -5
I usually feel lost in a group. If I am with two or more people, it's often hard for me to feel connected. I don't mean this in a rude way, but it almost feels like what's being said is background noise. And I see how other the other people are acting- their reactions are immediate, whereas I am on a slight time delay (might be a fraction of a second, but enough to matter). Is this a disconnect others feel?
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Post by Crashtastic on Dec 19, 2012 12:35:11 GMT -5
Yeah I feel like that. I can't really connect with people at all unless it's one on one interaction Maybe when I'm more comfortable around the people present, but I'm not comfortable like that with very many people lol When I'm around any more than one person that I don't know very well, I barely say anything and there is that delayed reaction thing. It makes me anxious so I can't really focus as much on whats going on or what people are talking about. It's like I don't feel all the way present. My mind is elsewhere. Ugh, that drives me crazy.
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Post by robini123 on Dec 19, 2012 18:54:02 GMT -5
Interesting. Ya, I can and do at times get a disconnected feeling. Not sure why, and until your post, I had not really thought about it.
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Post by marle on Dec 19, 2012 20:45:52 GMT -5
It's like I don't feel all the way present. That's a good word for it - I don't feel as present. Maybe a more extreme example is when we had Pictionary (a game where you guess drawings) day at a former workplace. We were all divided into groups of about 6 people. As we were playing, it's as though everyone was feeding off each other's energy. It seems everyone in all the groups were getting boisterous, and laughing easily. I seemed to be the only one not getting excited, and feeling a little slow on the up-take. It's as though the groups became their own kind of organisms, completely sympatico. And I like Pictionary, and don't think of myself as a humorless person.
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Post by missklew on Dec 20, 2012 9:46:18 GMT -5
I feel that way too many times. There are always the talkers who are much louder and bolder and can do all the talking for everyone.
Marie, at least you went. I would have made any excuse to avoid it.
One work place had a 20 questions day each week and I did go and it was pretty fun. A couple times I felt part of the group but mostly not.
I absolutely hate team building crap.
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Post by missklew on Dec 20, 2012 9:52:53 GMT -5
I wanted to add that I do realize most of my problem with other people are trust issues.
Friends were easier when I was younger.
I do have a few acquaintance type friends but it isn't like we do anything together. Just the occasional email.
I do wish for a girlfriend I can really share everything with, hang out with, go places with.
The funny thing is although I keep trying, I really don't think it will happen.
I guess people think I am aloof but my experiences have shown most any time I open up to someone, either they disappear on me, they blab personal things to everyone, they betray me in some way.
OTOH I know I have turned people off sometimes complaining about my problems too much. I am pretty sure I refrain from doing that too much now.
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Post by putter65 on Jan 26, 2013 15:49:32 GMT -5
i can handle 2 or 3 people. I don't like large groups, i just clam up !
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Post by firelfy on Jul 29, 2013 5:06:38 GMT -5
I'm the same. If i'm with a couple of friends then its all fine but if the group gets bigger, or even worse people I dont know, then I start feeling awkward, go quiet and
as the OP said feel disconnected.
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