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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 8, 2013 22:22:24 GMT -5
how can you tell if a shy guy likes you or hates you?  |
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Post by YouNeedLove on Mar 9, 2013 4:00:32 GMT -5
Very general question, probably impossible to single out any cue that would be valid for the quite diffuse group of "shy men". How shy is he? I think it matters for how he will behave. Personally I'm so inhibited that I almost never display what I think about a girl, so you would have no chance to know from just visual inspection.
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Post by jwwimpy on Mar 9, 2013 17:43:54 GMT -5
how can you tell if a shy guy likes you or hates you? Speaking personally, I simply avoid interaction with a female I don't like, as much as is possible. I just physically remove myself from that person's presence ASAP. Not run away screaming, just discreetly go elsewhere. If she walks in the room I am in, I just slip out. The reason for it is because usually that person has given me a good reason to not like her; ie., being mean/rude, etc., and I would have no interest in a repeat of those occurrences. |
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Post by jwn57030 on Mar 9, 2013 17:44:05 GMT -5
Before when I was more shy if I liked a girl I would try to be around her more and hope something would magically happen. Of course it was hard for me to even talk to them so something never happened. As said before I don't know if I could say how to tell the diffrence between a shy guy that just wants to be friends or actually romantic. I would usually make a fool of myself more around someone I liked. I actually had one girl basically throw herself at me in her dorm room and i was too timid to act on it. If its a guy you like you might have to be proactive and obviously flirt with him. Good luck figuring it out.
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Post by Stranger on Mar 10, 2013 1:26:42 GMT -5
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 10, 2013 5:21:23 GMT -5
gee, thanx for clearing up the ambiguity of guy mailing a turd to me.  |
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Post by Stranger on Mar 10, 2013 13:10:40 GMT -5
Glad I could help.  In all seriousness, I'd think if he liked you but was shy of talking to you, he might still go out of his way to make himself visible to you. Like showing up somewhere where he knows you'd be. Another idea might be to try to connect via an online medium (chat, Facebook, email, ...), and see if he's any more communicative that way. If he doesn't like you, he'd probably avoid you or just be generally unresponsive. If he does like you, he'd probably at least give you some thoughtful responses, if perhaps a little awkwardly. Ideally you'd ask some open ended questions about stuff he's comfortable talking about - things that would put him in his element (hobbies, jobs, things he likes, etc.). Email in particular I think would take most of the pressure off. Even if he did like you, if he can't communicate through a written medium, without the pressure of an immediate response, then it's probably safe to say he'd be tough to be with in any sort of relationship. |
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Post by Astroruss on Mar 12, 2013 12:35:44 GMT -5
Are you hot for another shy guy up there, Pea? Myself, I try to be as decent and non-comittal as possible around most women, even the ones I hate. Which are few. I get along with most people actually.  I know it'd be just as confusing, but honestly you probably wouldn't be able to tell. Shy men don't talk much to women of any kind.  |
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Post by Knox on Mar 12, 2013 21:49:21 GMT -5
That's easy,... If we like you, we never talk to you and avoid eye contact. However,... if we don't like you we never talk to you and avoid eye contact. It's just THAT simple! |
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Post by jwn57030 on Mar 14, 2013 22:30:50 GMT -5
That's easy,... If we like you, we never talk to you and avoid eye contact. However,... if we don't like you we never talk to you and avoid eye contact. It's just THAT simple! You are very wise sir!!! I think that is the perfect answer. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 16, 2013 19:11:24 GMT -5
That's easy,... If we like you, we never talk to you and avoid eye contact. However,... if we don't like you we never talk to you and avoid eye contact. It's just THAT simple! yeah, that's what i was afraid of. |
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Post by Outcast on Mar 24, 2013 23:37:21 GMT -5
Like what the others have said.
If I don't like a girl, i try to avoid her as much as possible. I try not to make eye contact as well.
If I like a girl, i guess i would avoid her too. But if given the opportunity to be with her alone, i think i would risk talking to her once in a while, i would try to ask questions, try to get to know what she likes and doesn't like, and make a joke or too. I think i would also catch myself making eye contact and looking at her face or just try to look at her when she's not looking? And i would tend to smile when i see her.
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