how do get over boyfriend phone call shyness? :/

[msshylove24]

well whenever i call my boyfriend hang up on him cant even say hello or talk he was going call me one night and as closer to the time he supposed to call me i was all i cant do this cant pick up for him i,m like no i cant yeah i can argggggness how just pick up the phone or call him without hanging up on him how to tame shyness and relax in a phone call with him or even relax at all with him we been dating 5 months hes an internet boyfriend and i am still shy with him has anyone been to shy for a phone call with their boyfriend or is anyone shy of their boyfriend like this ? if so i need advice from people who are having this same boyfriend shyness issue as well as i am

[Astroruss]

Speaking as a man, if you are a shybiegal it may be easier to let him direct the conversation. Assuming he also is not shy.

I remember it being easier for my ex girlfriend to write down her feelings and thoughts to me in notes. She'd pass them on to me in paper or email form, letting me know what was on her mind that was important or worrying her. She worried constantly about keeping me interested in her. This was not necessary, of course, but it was often something she fretted over constantly.

I would get her note from the previous day and read her thoughts to me. Often it was over how lonely she was and how much she wanted to express her feelings more but was afraid to out loud. She was particularly worried about feeling down or crying in front of me. Her parents had recently divorced and her Mom suffered severe depression issues which in turn affected her children. My gf felt she was partly to blame for this.

Anyway, it was easier for her to have me read about this than for her to tell me out loud. This way, on our dates I could bring up the issues when we were together, often at her house or in my car alone. I could reassure her that the crying or feeling down or being quiet on our dates was okay and didn't turn me off at all. Rather, I enjoyed the chance to absorb her feelings and reassure her.

After a few weeks of this she gradually overcome her fear of taling to me out loud and she sould tell me things over the phone or around other people.

[msshylove24]

[glow=red,2,300][/glow]the only problem with the note thing is that hes an internet boyfriend and he lives far away if you any other advice you could give Russ otherwise i will keep calling just to hang up on him lol also have trouble saying whats on my mind to him its mostly just uhh uhh well uhh lol

[Astroruss]

Apr 22, 2013 15:24:13 GMT -5 msshylove24 said:

[glow=red,2,300][/glow]the only problem with the note thing is that hes an internet boyfriend and he lives far away if you any other advice you could give Russ otherwise i will keep calling just to hang up on him lol also have trouble saying whats on my mind to him its mostly just uhh uhh well uhh lol

Why don't you try starting with emails, then go up to voice chatting with him?

If you can't talk about yourself, shift the conversations towards him and his interests.

[msshylove24]

well Russ i told him why i was hanging up on him i told it wasn't disconnecting and that was too shy and nervous to speak so i hung up on him i told him he said lol bb u should talk to me i know u shy lol but you can talk. i really want to but i am so shy and i get so nervous and words wont come out and i don't want sit on the phone and waste his balance saying nothing and don't want stutter or say uhh uhh umm and sound stupid when i do speak and don't him to get tired of my shyness and i don't lose him what should i do i really need help n advice bad!

[cilantro]

Would sending voice recordings back and forth help? You could get used to each other's speech without it being live.

[msshylove24]

what do u mean voice recordings if your talking about voicemail I have it but in his country there's no voicemail it don't exist lol weird I know ;D