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Post by perceptron on Jan 25, 2014 21:35:21 GMT -5
I have crossed the Rubicon of 30 years of age a couple of years ago. I can't complain too much in comparison to my peers. I have dated a number of women, went to bet with a couple dozen, and I am casually dating someone now.
I can't reconcile everything I did with how easy women have it in modern society though. The number of approaches that I did, and the number of rejections I've received, is way out of synch with what any young woman has done. I can accept that men and women have different paths to achieve their goal, but it simply cannot be that one of the genders (men) is exposed to so much pointless humiliation and rejection. It cannot be acceptable that men are alone in such suffering. And yet, that is how the world turns.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 11, 2014 0:19:02 GMT -5
I have crossed the Rubicon of 30 years of age a couple of years ago. I can't complain too much in comparison to my peers. I have dated a number of women, went to bet with a couple dozen, and I am casually dating someone now. I can't reconcile everything I did with how easy women have it in modern society though. The number of approaches that I did, and the number of rejections I've received, is way out of synch with what any young woman has done. I can accept that men and women have different paths to achieve their goal, but it simply cannot be that one of the genders (men) is exposed to so much pointless humiliation and rejection. It cannot be acceptable that men are alone in such suffering. And yet, that is how the world turns. *hint* women can smell resentment on a man a mile away. just sayin.  |
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Post by Astroruss on Mar 26, 2014 18:26:35 GMT -5
I have crossed the Rubicon of 30 years of age a couple of years ago. I can't complain too much in comparison to my peers. I have dated a number of women, went to bet with a couple dozen, and I am casually dating someone now. I can't reconcile everything I did with how easy women have it in modern society though. The number of approaches that I did, and the number of rejections I've received, is way out of synch with what any young woman has done. I can accept that men and women have different paths to achieve their goal, but it simply cannot be that one of the genders (men) is exposed to so much pointless humiliation and rejection. It cannot be acceptable that men are alone in such suffering. And yet, that is how the world turns. *hint* women can smell resentment on a man a mile away. just sayin. Oh yeah, that's true. I used to have this problem when I was younger, too.  For example, when I was still in school it always used to annoy the hell out of me when women always seem to go nuts over tall guys. Doesn't matter if he was stupid, dull, boring, unathletic, lousy dresser, no personality, overweight, the bad boy or an abusive jerk. No matter what, it always seemed to me that the tall guys got the girls, and us short guys were left without dates. I'd get turned down constantly by girls that I was attracted to, and it would frustrate me to no end. They would make up excuses to spare my feelings, but later I'd see them with other guys who were known jerks or users, but were also tall. The girls would be nuts over them, and I'd hear all about through the grapevine.  It really made me resent women, a lot. My dating life was almost nonexistent when I was in my twenties. And add to that my height had always made me a target of teasing and the occasional bullying in grade school. I got into several fights as a teenager (did okay too, for the most part. Tall guys are definitely not as tough as they think they are.  ) But beating the shit out of the tall, bad boy punks did not make me more attractive to the girls I was interested in.  Like you said, Pea, women can sense the bitterness, the frustration. Thankfully, now that I'm in my thirties life has gotten better for me. I have a good job now, have more friends, and am very well respected at work. This has made me feel much better and more at peace with myself. And I've actually had a couple of dates last year. I don't feel so resentful anymore; my height doesn't matter in the professional job environment; I'm actually taller and better looking than quite a few of the men I work around. I get invited to company parties and have danced with some cute gals. And they don't seem to care if I'm a few inches below the accepted normal height for a man. Nobody does.  And I must say, it's very true that dating gets easier for men as they get older. Women mature and start to be more accepting of less perfect men. They don't expect Godlike quality in men anymore. It's enough for a man to be at ease and good at his job, be able to dance and have fun and enjoy himself and treat his date well and regard her as a person. Frustration used to be my number one problem in life, and it's what made ME shy and insecure, anyway. But not anymore. |
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) But beating the shit out of the tall, bad boy punks did not make me more attractive to the girls I was interested in. 
And I must say, it's very true that dating gets easier for men as they get older. Women mature and start to be more accepting of less perfect men. They don't expect Godlike quality in men anymore. It's enough for a man to be at ease and good at his job, be able to dance and have fun and enjoy himself and treat his date well and regard her as a person.