Post by robini123 on Apr 15, 2014 15:22:58 GMT -5
1) The best dating advice there is... is to be yourself and realize that you cannot be all things to all women/men. Rejection is not a reflection of you, its the other person expressing that you are not their preference... and there is nothing wrong with that!
2) Dating is a marathon, not a sprint... so take your time.
3) Confidence is attractive but cannot be faked... so don't even try to fake it or you will just come off as even more awkward. Confidence is something that with time and effort can be developed. Confidence is about standing upon your own principles and being comfortable with yourself.
4) Everyone is insecure to one degree or another. Those who appear confident are just really good at limiting, managing, and masking their insecurity.
5) Make a list of "relationship musts", such as "must be tolerant of others"... etc. Keep the list short as if it is too long the bar will be set so high that no one could measure up to it... but do not have it so low that you end up settling for a mate who is not a good match for you.
6) Make a list of "deal breakers", such as "will not date a judgmental person"... etc. Again keep the list short as if it is too long the bar will be set so high that no one could measure up to it... but do not have it so low that you end up settling for a mate who is not a good match for you.
7) Lighten up... its only dating... have fun with it!
Best of luck!
P.S. Why should anyone listen to me? Well as an old man (49 y/o) who has overcome his shyness to a large degree and who has successfully dated... I have learned some things, made some observations and am happy to share my knowledge with any who may be helped by it.
2) Dating is a marathon, not a sprint... so take your time.
3) Confidence is attractive but cannot be faked... so don't even try to fake it or you will just come off as even more awkward. Confidence is something that with time and effort can be developed. Confidence is about standing upon your own principles and being comfortable with yourself.
4) Everyone is insecure to one degree or another. Those who appear confident are just really good at limiting, managing, and masking their insecurity.
5) Make a list of "relationship musts", such as "must be tolerant of others"... etc. Keep the list short as if it is too long the bar will be set so high that no one could measure up to it... but do not have it so low that you end up settling for a mate who is not a good match for you.
6) Make a list of "deal breakers", such as "will not date a judgmental person"... etc. Again keep the list short as if it is too long the bar will be set so high that no one could measure up to it... but do not have it so low that you end up settling for a mate who is not a good match for you.
7) Lighten up... its only dating... have fun with it!
Best of luck!
P.S. Why should anyone listen to me? Well as an old man (49 y/o) who has overcome his shyness to a large degree and who has successfully dated... I have learned some things, made some observations and am happy to share my knowledge with any who may be helped by it.