So I'm extremely shy. I have been for pretty much my whole life and I'm turning 21 soon. I've recently started to become quite fed up of certain people and their attitudes towards me just because I am so quiet and it's really getting me down. This happens at work.
I work in a kitchen and usually with just one other person and because I am so shy I am pretty much mute for the whole shift except when I need to ask something or respond to a question. I cannot start conversations. That is the most difficult thing ever! I wish I could. Well anyway this person I normally work with just makes me feel so rubbish and probably not even intentionally. He just sighs all the time like he's really fed up and never looks at me when he talks to me. I just KNOW he doesn't like working with me and it sucks. It makes me feel so bad for being shy- but I'm just being myself! I shouldn't feel bad for being myself should I?! I will try so hard to prolong a conversation with him when he talks to me but a lot of the time I just can't think of what to say which makes me sound disinterested and appear rude. Today it was worse though, as I was leaving I said 'see you tomorrow' and he said 'you will. Fun.' Like 'fun' really sarcastically, I wanted to burst into tears just then! I just want to feel ok about being so shy and not feel bad about myself but I constantly do at work because I am so quiet! Anyone else have this problem?!
I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Talking to people and carrying conversations is something that takes time and practice, the more you work on it, the easier it'll be. I used to be extremely quiet at work, and although I sometimes still have trouble knowing what to say it's been a lot easier for me. It basically comes down to asking questions about stuff and seeming interested. It'll feel forced for a while but it becomes natural with time.
I hope tomorrow will be better for you! Try to not let today get to you or bring you down, because there is certainly nothing wrong with being yourself!
Society sure isn't going to adapt to you. Speaking as a 32 year old male who has been through this reality more times than he can count..
Restaurants and grocery stores are the worse. Unless they are the small scale type with low traffic.. Like diners and dollar stores.. But even sometimes still.. Plant-production work and constructions sites are also bad for shy types.. People just get pissed off unless you have wealth or looks working over-time for you.. Getting hired is actually a major tasks in itself because everyone wants personality for sales and compatibility..
I never became one of them.. I just learned how to make a living and prosper without society.. Probably harder since it basically mean spending 10 years building some skill while grining it out doing other stuff then investing wisely in some escape..