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Post by billd1 on Sept 16, 2016 14:48:10 GMT -5
Well, it looks like the Seventh Grade thread got off to a good start.
I would say that, the Seventh Grade, is the beginning of what is called, "Establishing The Pecking Order," of the kids' peer group.
And another description of this process is called Puberty Rites.
While Establishing the Pecking Order and the Puberty Rites are a necessary part of the socializing of Seventh Graders, these processes are extremely cruel to those losers who are on the Bottom of the Pecking Order, and fail the Puberty Rites.
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Post by billd1 on Oct 1, 2016 9:37:04 GMT -5
I don't remember having what I today would call SA prior to the Seventh Grade, maybe because the social structure of a grammar school kid's peer group is not all that complexly developed during those years.
But, in the Seventh Grade, the social structure becomes more complicated, planting the seeds of how the kids will "turn out" and what their place in adult society will be.
I vividly remember one teacher reading us some statistics of what would "become of" our seventh grade class 20 years in the future.
First, a certain percentage of us would be dead. Another percentage of us would be in prison or mental institutions.
Other percentages of us would have this disease or that disease and/or addiction.
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Post by billd1 on Oct 4, 2016 15:13:16 GMT -5
Before the Seventh Grade, it seemed like most of the kids liked me.
But, in the Seventh Grade, it seems like a lot of the kids started to dislike me, and become bullyish to me, both verbally and physically.
I was told by one of the few friends I had left, that I had gotten too uh, egotistical? about myself, and that was what was turning the other kids against me.
I thought that was possible, since I was so scared of going to the Seventh Grade, and thought that I was mastering this fearsome experience so well, that I was a bit too uh, "full of " myself?
The other kids were so mean to me, and it was so hurtful to me, both mentally and physically, that I repented of my sin of acting egotistically, and stopped doing it. (Dr Billy Graham had told me via TV that to Get Saved, and avoid going to hell, that you had to repent of your sins).
So, I repented of my sin of being egotistical, if indeed that was a sin, and, if it even really had anything to do with the way the other kids were treating me.
But, it must have been too late, because it didn't change the way the other kids treated me. Again, maybe my egotism had nothing to do with it, and I suspect I am right about that.
Sad to say that the Seventh Grade was a Hell that no amount of Repentence could save me from going to.
To briefly recap: the Seventh Grade is the time when youngsters Establish the Pecking Order, with Puberty Rites.
It is a necessary part of life, but it is extremely cruel to those who fail their puberty rites, and are established as the lowest in the pecking order.
And, that was me. I failed my puberty rites with flying colors, and I was at the lowest of the pecking order.
I don't think that most of the kids who were so mean to me, were really mean, cruel, and sadistic, and I'm sure that as adults they are decent people who today, would treat me respectfully and decently.
But, before they became the way they are today, they had to go thru that mean, cruel and sadistic part of their social development, and it has left scars on me.
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