I got some feedback from my boss recently from my team (3 person team so 2 against 1) predominantly and it was all super negative and people have been saying really terrible things about me and I feel like the whole department hates me now
How do I deal with this? Sitting with them is torture. Spent today fighting off tears and panic attacks. They're two faced so it doesn't seem to anyone else that they're not nice to me
Maybe I should just quit
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Hi Sigh. Sorry to hear you're having problems with people in your workplace right now.
I can only imagine what your going through as i don't know the whole story. It must really be tough on you having to deal with that situation. I think most if not all of us experience those kinds of things at work at some point in our lives.
I do remember a time when i didn't get along with a co-worker, and really wanted to quit my job because of that person. He has that kind of personality that makes him very critical of even the smallest of things. He has that know-it-all attitude and can also be two-faced. It's hard to ignore someone like that. Especially if your working together in the same department (let alone the same team in your case.). Let's see, i think many people advised me to ignore the guy and just concentrate on my work. I usually find it hard to think straight and end up doing the wrong thing when i let my emotions get the better of me. I don't really know how i managed to stick around after that. Eventually, that guy treated me better later on. But knowing his ability to be two-faced, i don't think i was really convinced or really opened up to him as much as he wanted to. He'd treat me like a friend and very friendly whenever a relative of mine visits the work place. So you can only imagine if i had a very expressive face, i'd be looking like "the Rock", who was a popular WWE wrestler famous also for his ability to raise one of his eyebrows all the way up.
But from my experience, there will always be situations like that where ever or whatever job i'd go to. So it's hard to avoid, and i guess running away won't really solve the problem. Well, that's one thing i told my little sister. Yes, she too was having problems with the people she works with. All i can only say or advice her was to try to concentrate on her work and try to ignore those other people.
Nowadays, when i think about criticism whether they be at work or outside of work. I can only to try to see if i can make it work for me in a positive and constructive way. I'll probably try to think how it can help me become a better person or something like that. Like with a mirror, those criticism can help me see what i might need to correct or change to improve myself. It's not easy trying to change or correct them of course. But i think it would help me feel better.
Again i don't know the whole story or situation your experiencing, so i might be misinterpreting things or i might also be offending you. If so, i'm sorry. Well, here are some sites that offers some tips too. Maybe they can help better than i can.
How others judge you says more about them than you. Do not take on their negative judgment as doing so is a brick in the path to a miserable life. At work do your best, adapt, learn and progress as an employee. If your boss needs you to make some improvements then objectively examine options for improvement. If your boss is a bit of a butthead then remember that how your boss judges you personally says more about him/her than it says about you. Do not take on the negative judgments of others or you will continue to be unhappy.