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Post by Outcast on Sept 19, 2018 23:58:58 GMT -5
I feel weird. Because when i am chatting online with another person, i can act and say things that i don't normally say or do in person. I guess in my effort to gain friends through chatting with them online, i act way friendlier and talk more.
Am i just fooling myself and others when i do this? Sometimes i can't help myself. I'm not as conscious of the things i say when i am chatting with other people online. And of course, if you want to chat with them, normally you have to be the one to start and keep the conversation going.
Should i try to imagine i am talking to that person IN person instead? That way i think i can be my usual shy quiet self. Or should i think, ok, normally i wouldn't or don't say those things to other people i physically meet. So why should i say those things online to other people right?
I am such a fool ain't i? It seems more easier to type the things i want to express and say. Rather than say them out loud in person.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 20, 2018 3:08:22 GMT -5
Ok. Searching online for help i came across these. link1
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Post by Outcast on Sept 20, 2018 3:12:42 GMT -5
linkOk. I think it would be better for me to limit or stop my online chatting. EDIT: I am not sure i can stop my online chatting for now. I've met some new people online. And i think we are somewhat getting along well. So i don't think it would be nice if i would cut off communication with any of them.
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Post by ShyBorg on Sept 24, 2018 0:30:53 GMT -5
I feel weird. Because when i am chatting online with another person, i can act and say things that i don't normally say or do in person. I guess in my effort to gain friends through chatting with them online, i act way friendlier and talk more. Am i just fooling myself and others when i do this? Sometimes i can't help myself. I'm not as conscious of the things i say when i am chatting with other people online. And of course, if you want to chat with them, normally you have to be the one to start and keep the conversation going. Should i try to imagine i am talking to that person IN person instead? That way i think i can be my usual shy quiet self. Or should i think, ok, normally i wouldn't or don't say those things to other people i physically meet. So why should i say those things online to other people right? Maybe it’s that you feel more comfortable talking to someone online rather than in person, because you are shy? I think that’s fine, as long as you are friendly because you want to talk to them, rather than doing it because you feel like you have to. edit: ^ Okay, that’s also kind of what the article above said. Well, I don’t know you that well - but I’m willing to bet that’s not true. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
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Post by Outcast on Sept 25, 2018 21:45:58 GMT -5
Maybe it’s that you feel more comfortable talking to someone online rather than in person, because you are shy? I think that’s fine, as long as you are friendly because you want to talk to them, rather than doing it because you feel like you have to. edit: ^ Okay, that’s also kind of what the article above said. Well, I don’t know you that well - but I’m willing to bet that’s not true. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Thanks for the kind words Shyborg. Yes, i'm trying not to be too hard on myself. But sometimes the feelings just rushes in or is it they come pouring out.
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