And if you recall... I listened to his and others suggestions to remove the karma thing, as I was trying to just do something different... not hurt anyone. So... I made it right.... so I thought.
I'm sorry if you think I was criticising you for the karma thing. I was purely trying to point of that Richie can be interested in looking out for other peoples' feelings because I thought you might be questioning the intent of his post on this thread. Seriously it was a reference about Richie, not you Mary.
It certainly wasn't a dig at you for trying out the karma thingy on the board. I don't think for one minute you ever tried to hurt anyone, I don't believe you even did anything bad. I think you tried out something new to enhance the board in the same way you have made many good changes to the board. I think the adult and the personal talent sections have been great additions and made SU a better place for which I am very grateful. Maybe it's my fault for only speaking to you when I think there has been a mistake or something is wrong but I am very grateful for this site and to you for keeping it going.
I'm sorry if it seems like I am being critical on a personal level. As I said on another post I think you are a good person. I have no doubt that everything you do here is with the best interests of everyone here. I'm not trying to play favourites or make you out to be a bad guy/girl, I just think maybe you are making Richie out to be worse than he is. I don't think this is because you are evil or anything, just that to me you might of misunderstood him. Again that isn't meant as a slight at you, misunderstandings happen all the time.
I wasn't sure if your comment to Richie was sarcastic or not. I tried to point out in my post that I wasn't sure and my reply was purely in case it was. It wasn't meant as an attack but purely to clear up what I thought might be a misunderstanding.
Maybe if I explain where I'm coming from might help to clear up my intentions. I hope you understand that this is my perception of what is going on.
To me I think you see Richie as a bad influence, some one who is trying to undermine this board. I understand you are only trying to help the board. I admit I could be wrong but I don't think he is as bad as you feel he is. I also realise he doesn't always help himself, I don't think he is perfect or without error. I just don't feel his 'errors' come from malicious intent or a bad heart. I certainly don't believe he is trying to undermine the board and cause problems. To me, you and others are seeing a threat where there is none. That to me is the saddest part (if I'm right, again I could well be wrong), I think some people are upset when they don't need to be. This seems to be very common when people are very sensitive. I am not trying to make anyone out to be bad, far from it. I am simply trying to make someone out to be better than some people think.
To me, in my own mind I am trying to be positive but unfortunately it involves me trying to point out what I feel are peoples' mistakes or errors of judgement which can come across as being negative. Maybe this is my fault for the way I express myself but my criticisms are meant to be constructive and not merely personal attacks.
Maybe I am not in full knowledge of what is happening as you say Mary. Perhaps if I had the full facts I would feel differently. I apologise if I have seemed unfairly critical or have upset you in anyway Mary. I won't however apologise for trying to support someone I feel has been unfairly treated. To me just ignoring things and pretending they never happened for an easy life only helps in the short term. In my experience it just produces grudges and resentment that are held and never lost. Grudges and resentment that in time will continually reappear and cloud peoples' judgements and perception. I guess in my own clumsy, fumbling way I am just trying to clear the air.
