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Post by canisay182 on Jan 27, 2004 0:01:36 GMT -5
im sure a lot of you guys have seen the show average joe. if you havent its about ugly guys trying to get a skinny pretty girl competing agianst cute guys. im basically an average jane. im about 10 pounds overweight and not very pretty either. my life sucks cause i wake up every morning knowing that im not good enough for anyone.  |
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Post by Annoyed at Double Standards on Jan 27, 2004 8:04:00 GMT -5
I think these show perpetuate a double standard. If girls say they like a guy 'cos they think he's "hot" or whatever people criticise them for being shallow. Yet these same "Average Joe's" who expect the good-looking girl to go out with them for their personality are the same ones who would turn up their noses at a plain but sincere Jane. This partly explains why good-looking but flawed people can keep finding boyfriends no matter how many times they screw up while others remain single and looking, spending a fortune on clothes and makeup so they won't be "left on the shelf". I am a guy by the way so this isn't some bitter rant - I just hate listening to slobs with a beer gut making critical comments about women. And that peer pressure also hurts shy guys too - they're afraid to introduce a plainer girl to their friends because of the comments they know the guys will make. Grrr!
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Post by CaryGrant on Jan 31, 2004 0:35:51 GMT -5
Confidence goes a long way toward attracting members of the opposite sex, especially men attracting women. That said, keep in mind that "reality" TV shows deliberately pick extreme people to make things more interesting (in their view). Blind Date, for example, goes to bars and selects the men and women who are the life of the party, preferably with extreme personalities. The last thing I would want is to be "normal" in that way! Or even normal in the normal way.
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Post by ASolitarySoul on Jan 31, 2004 14:25:05 GMT -5
im sure a lot of you guys have seen the show average joe. if you havent its about ugly guys trying to get a skinny pretty girl competing agianst cute guys. im basically an average jane. im about 10 pounds overweight and not very pretty either. my life sucks cause i wake up every morning knowing that im not good enough for anyone. OK - so losing 10 pounds isn’t that bad - what do you do in the way of exercise? I could stand to lose about 30 pounds myself (even though everyone tells me that I don’t look fat - I don’t have much of a gut), and I fully intend to shed some tonnage when my life isn’t so crazy. users3.ev1.net/~solitarysoul/images/ME/ME.htmHave you got any pics you can send to me? solitarysoul[at]ev1.net What makes you think that you aren’t good enough for anyone? Solitary Soul all about me -> users3.ev1.net/~solitarysoul/-------------------------------------------------------- |
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Post by Grey Goose on Jan 31, 2004 16:10:43 GMT -5
Losing weight, feeling that you aren't worth, etc. can be goals to work toward. Better is to work on your self esteem. If you don't feel good about yourself have you been making any efforts in this regard to do better?
If you have no problems with life in general and walking around, observe people. You can notice that many couples look as complete opposites; one nice looking one maybe a bit less. (Everyone sees something different in whomever they observe). You will see short people with tall people, wide people with thin, etc. etc.
What this observation shows..is that these people who are together "love or like each other". This is important for all of us who have low esteem as it shows there is someone for everyone.
We may like a certain move star but they are unreachable for obvious reasons. In life, if you keep looking and want someone to love and someone to love you, you will find love.
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