advice for a broken heart

[cleopatra]

Hello, my name is Cleoptra. I have tiny birthmark on my right cheek. It is brown in colour and is visible. As a result I am absulutely sensitive about it and very shy. I am writing this is tears at the minute. I have had a crush on a boy from my class at school. He has only ever been lovely to me. He never joined in with the mockery of our clasmates about my mark. My feeling for him got stronger and stronger. Yesterday I was walking home from school and he was walking ahead of me with a couple of his friends. They were all laughing and joking and I heard this boy I have a crush on say something about 'Big Bertha' - which is my nickname at school. Its meant to stand for 'Big Birth a'. I broke into tears and I haven't stopped since.

What can I do?

[unionjackattack86]

Hello, i'm sorry to hear about your ordeal, just because you have a birthmark, doesn't mean your any less attractive, one of my ex girlfriends friends had quite a big one and she was still a pretty girl, i'm sure birthmarks are said to be a sign of beauty as well.
I can understand you being sensitive about it but the best thing you can do is accept that you have it because its there forever.
As for the boy who never participated in making fun of you, but you overheard him use one of your nicknames, he might have just been reffering to you via the nickname as he was talking with his friends and they would immediately know who he was on about.
The best thing to do really is, take it in your stride, i'm sure they will find someone else to make fun of sooner or later and if you show you aren't bothered, they will most probably get bored of making fun of you.

[Twice-Shy]

Hi Cleopatra, I would agree with every word of the last post. Beauty is deeper more than skin deep. I'm sure your heart has been hurt badly by this but you will undoubdtly become stronger for it. Keep looking and keep smiling.

[NewOrleansLady]

Cleo, I'm sorry that people can be so mean sometimes. I would love to teel you to confront him about it but, I know that I wouldn't be able to do such a thing. Although, if you did, it would most likely make him feel more like shit than you do. I used to have two birthmarks on my neck that looked as if I had been bitten by a vampire . You can imagine how I was teased growing up. When I was in about the 7th or 8th grade my mom took me to a dermatologist to have them removed. Is that an option for you? If not, it's nothing to worry about. When you get older you will find that stuff like that isn't as big a deal. Don't let it effect how you live your life.

[spitzig]

Things like that can be very attractive. I remember hearing back when Cindy Crawford was really popular that she was advised to get the mole on her cheek removed early in her career. It seems to generally be thought to have helped her career a lot, though. It makes her unique, and that is attractive.

I'd say it would be a bad idea to confront him, unless you actually consider him a friend. You had just said he was nice to you, and you had a crush on him, which doesn't mean friend. IF he does consider you a friend, he might apologize for it, and avoid repeating it. On the other hand, if he's just nice to people, he might think you are obsessing over him a little, unless you mention your crush at the same time. In that case, I'd think the worst case would be that he would reject your advance, but still be nice to you and maybe gain a friend.

But, then again I barely went out with anyone until I graduated college(and not many since). So, it's not like I've got much experience to base this on.

[Tiff]

Hello,

Cleo - I can relate to the comment your crush made and I am sorry about that

I wish I had some advice. I would tell him that what he said hurt you.