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Post by Annita on Apr 21, 2003 11:31:04 GMT -5
Hi guys and galls! This board is really buzzing. I need a bit of advice fromm all you experienced hands out there. I am a shy, soccially isolated girl of 17, I have met a guy through a net chatroom. He sounds lovely and caring. I've never had a bf before and I'm falling for him.
At the back of my mind is all this talk of paedopiles and people just telling me what I want to hear so that they can use me. I want to know if you think this boy is genuine? He wants us to meet up so I need advice on what to tell him/
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 21, 2003 11:35:30 GMT -5
Hello Anita. My advice about all of this would be to be very cautious first and foremost. This lad may be genuine you can't find this out over a chat in a chat room. If you are going to meet him, make sure you arrange to meet in a public place like a cinema. Never give him you phone number or address until you know he's genuine.
There are many great people out there just waiting to be met. We have are on dating section on our SHY United site. Meeting somebody knew is very exciting but be very carefful.
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 22, 2003 3:03:43 GMT -5
I agree with Shane, if you meet, meet in public in the daytime and also let at least one person know were you are going and who you are going to meet.
For finding out if he's genuine, you could try talking to him on the phone before you meet him to check whether or not his voice sounds the age he's made out to be, don't give him your home phone number though, do it from a payphone.
If he's really anxious to meet up with you and gets stressed if you don't, also if he asked you very early on after meeting you what you look like or your bra size e.t.c. (i'm talking not longer after a/s/l) then I would be suspicious.
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Post by spitzig on Apr 22, 2003 13:04:33 GMT -5
I tend to think talking on the phone for a bit is safer. It's easier to catch someone lying through things their voice does and does not, than the way they type. But, I've never been very concerned about safety. Which may be connected to being not female.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Apr 24, 2003 0:29:36 GMT -5
I have always been the overly cautious type when it comes to things like this. Have you seen photos of him? Even if the photo is fake you will at least know to not go anywhere with somebody who dosen't look like the person in the photo. Plan to meet him during the day and in a busy enviornment. If you have a cell phone, bring it with you.
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