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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 23, 2003 4:03:12 GMT -5
This isn't a relationship problem but I thought it would be better suited to the Relationship section.
I was just wondering how many boyfriends/girlfriends you have all had? considering were all shy, it isn't as easy for us to get partners, well I find difficulty at least.
I'm 16 and I've had one girlfriend to date who I met last year, we've finished now though and i'm not expecting to get another anytime soon.
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Post by moogle on Apr 23, 2003 12:01:21 GMT -5
my first relationship started when i was 14. it lasted four years. now i'm on my fifth relationship. i'm pretty bad at them. it seems like whenever i'm in a relationship, there is someone else that's in love with me or wants to be with me. i never handle it well  |
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 23, 2003 12:21:25 GMT -5
My first one lasted nearly thirteen weeks. I guess you will find someone one day who you will love so much that it wouldn't matter who fell in love with you because you would never dream of leaving them.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Apr 24, 2003 0:19:20 GMT -5
I haven't really had a "relationship" before I met my husband, 6 years ago (I'm 27 now). I have been on several dates and had a few guys that I could consider a boyfriend but, I was/am never good at having to keep in touch with somebody. I don't have very many friends because of that either. I guess I'm not very personable, and people either are turned off by that or think that I am ignoring them on purpose. Which is why the friends I do have, as well as my husband, are all very outgoing, take charge types of people and have no problem letting me know what the plans are or checking in just to say hello.
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Post by Tiff on Apr 24, 2003 7:29:35 GMT -5
Hello, Good topic! I haven't had any boyfriends. I have been on one actual date...I have a few guy friends that I hang out with, but haven't had any any any boyfriends..heck I haven't even had a second date with a guy... I'll be 25 in June  |
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Post by moogle on Apr 24, 2003 10:23:57 GMT -5
dating...now, i don't think i have ever actually been on a date. i mean, i've gone out to dinner and all that, but i'm always far into the relationship by then, and it's hard to consider that a date. all of my boyfriends started out as friends.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 24, 2003 10:54:33 GMT -5
I've had a few girlfriends in my time. I went out with my last one for 6 years, engaged for two of those and married for another 2. I've had a few minor ones in between. I have been single since I seperated from my wife about 18 months ago. I find that I may not have had that many but once I met the right person I knew it would be for life. You often feel jealous of some of your more outgoing friends who have dates after dates but I bet, deep down, they would love to be me.
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Post by cellardoor on Apr 24, 2003 16:17:18 GMT -5
none.
never been on a date either.
nor will any of this reality ever change.
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 24, 2003 16:22:23 GMT -5
Would you like it to change or are you happy being single?
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Post by Tiff on Apr 24, 2003 20:34:48 GMT -5
Would you like it to change or are you happy being single? I know this question wasn't directed at me, but it's a good one and I'd like to answer from my end..hope that is okay I don't know any different than single, never had a boyfriend. I am content or perhaps "used" to being independent, doing what I want and when. I don't let being single change me, my life goes on and I'm happy. I would like to have a boyfriend someday, but I'm not in a huge rush and that's why I haven't done anything "constructive" in that area to change it (dating services, blind dates..etc), I just continue on, take some classes and go forward. Well that's it |
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 25, 2003 3:54:36 GMT -5
Its okay. I know what you mean about not knowing any different, I use to be like that but I started longing for a girlfriend, then when I got one, it was great and I found out what I was missing out on.
Being single has its good points too though, like total freedom, less expense, more time to yourself, one less thing to worry about e.t.c.
I'm single at the minute and when I first split up with my girlfriend, I was glad to be but now Id like a girlfriend again.
This time, I'm not as desperate as I was before to have a girlfriend because its no longer a mystery to me to what its like to have one and i'm not in a good position to get one at the minute; as i'm doing voluntary work in a shop untill I return to college in September so i'm not really getting to know any girls.
There's some that come in the shop but I don't think anything will ever come of it because I'm not going to chat them up and they probably won't do it to me.
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 25, 2003 4:04:19 GMT -5
I guess I'm not very personable, and people either are turned off by that or think that I am ignoring them on purpose. Which is why the friends I do have, as well as my husband, are all very outgoing, take charge types of people and have no problem letting me know what the plans are or checking in just to say hello. My ex girlfriends family were like that, they use to make 99% of the arrangements for me and my ex g/f which was great for me because it was my first girlfriend and I didn't realise I was expected to do some of the arranging although that caused one of our problems so the next girlfriend I get, i'm going to to get more involved in the arranging. |
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 25, 2003 5:55:06 GMT -5
I have to say I'm enjoying being single. I didn't think I would after being in a relationship for 6 years. At the start I didn't know what to do with myself but after a few months I started to settle down.
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Post by spitzig on Apr 25, 2003 12:02:47 GMT -5
I've dated a couple women. One for about 6 weeks, 3 weeks of which really sucked. One for several months. That one ended when I moved, but she came and visited me about a year later for her Spring Break. A third girl would probably not be considered "dating" because we mostly just had sex. I did go to her family's for Thanksgiving, and I comforted her when her mother died. I had myself convinced it was more than sex. Even for me, it wasn't though.
I'm 27. Not dating for 99% of my life is definitely not my choice. It just means that I'm lonely all the time.
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Post by Tiff on Apr 25, 2003 12:36:53 GMT -5
I'm 27. Not dating for 99% of my life is definitely not my choice. It just means that I'm lonely all the time. I myself get lonely at times. I know that I'm single half by choice and half not. That probably doesn't make much sense. I sometimes wonder if it's a good thing if I can take dating as a "take it or leave it" attitude. Is that healthy? Actually I was walking on my lunch hour today..I work in Boston and there is what is called The Boston Public Gardens and the Boston Commons, they are parks basically with a bond..and there tons of families with their kids...taking them on these duck rides..etc, it was really nice seeing the kids laughing and part of me felt a little lonely. Not for marriage and kids yet, but maybe a boyfriend someday. It happens during family get togethers and holidays, (you know where your family grills you oh so unsubtly about your lacking love life and what's wrong with you! Oh that would be my family..aunts, uncles..you name it!). Hmm..just a passing thought for me. |
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