This is hard for me to say, but I hate myself right now. I am 19 years old and a shy university student. I am painfully shy and have no self esteem. I stay in halls of residence and I go out with some of the others just to fit it. My lack of self esteem has led me time after time to let people walk on over me. I have had so many one night stands that I have been given the nickname of slut. I even gave a boy I met whilst dancing oral sex on the danvefloor. I can't go on like this. My life is ruined. What can I do to rais emy self-esteem?
Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 24, 2003 16:19:56 GMT -5
I don't understand how shyness could make you do them things, I would have thought it would give the opposite effect but anyway, to the point: To raise your self esteem you need to accept your past, accept the things you've done and start again. Its in the past, it can never be changed, so there's no point in moping about it, instead take a positive from a negative, and learn from your experience. Your reputation will probably stay with you for a while but as long as you stop doing it now and maintain that willingness to stop, people will probably see that you've changed.
I agree with NewOrleans. It sounds like its your lack of selfesteem and not your shyness that has caused you to do the things you do. Getting shot of a label is going to take a lot of hard work. You'l have to be tough mentally and keep saying to yourself that you will never get into that situation again.
Positive website for people who are shy and/or are interested in self-help.
Post by NewOrleansLady on Apr 25, 2003 23:57:55 GMT -5
First of all, stop with the casual sex! It's not helping your situation. Second of all, your life is not ruined. Your lucky that you are still young because most adults either forget or just ignore past reputations. Just start doing things for yourself instead of for others. I know that it's easier said than done but, if your not happy with your life right now than change it. Whatever you are not happy with, either stop doing it or try to figure out a way that you will be happy with it if it is something that you can't stop doing.
"There are two things I hate, people who are intolerant of other peoples cultures and the dutch!" Nigel Powers