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Post by Virgil on Jul 6, 2003 11:40:59 GMT -5
This is my first post so go easy on me. I am 16 years, shy and I have just left school for good last week. Boy am I glad! For the last 2 years I have been unmercifully bullied - not physically but mentally. My nickname that my tormentors gave me was Virgil the Virgin. They all boasted about sleeping with loads of girls and mocked me because I was stuill a virgin. Everytime they called out the name it destroyed me. I really hated myself because I was a virgin and so I wasn't a man. Outside of school I'm proud of still having my virginity. I want to keep myself pure until martriage. Try telling this to those guys.
Anybody go through something like this?
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Post by moogle on Jul 8, 2003 17:25:21 GMT -5
i think that i was too young when i lost mine. it's not a huge regret in my life, but sometimes i wish i'd waited. i personally wouldn't want to marry anyone that i hadn't had sex with.. i guess you could just say i don't like surprises. but i also feel that your sex life (or a lack of one) no one's business but your own and your partner's.
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Post by spitzig on Jul 9, 2003 0:22:20 GMT -5
For me, being a virgin just meant I was a geek, because I couldn't get laid. The first time I got laid, it was because I asked a guy to find a girl who'd have sex with me. Not exactly romantic, I had fun and my confidence went up because of it, so I don't think it was a bad thing. Sex is fun. Sex with love is more fun, but that doesn't mean that sex without love is bad. I don't have any religious attachment to sex or marriage, though.
I'd say that guys don't go on about sex like that as much after high school. In high school, I think it's a bigger deal because so many of the people there ARE virgins--or were until recently. So, the guys have to be macho, and PROVE they aren't virgins(whether they are or not).
Oh, I was an older virgin than you. Even though I WANTED to get laid I was still a virgin until I was 17 and late in my senior year.
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Post by angelka on Jul 9, 2003 16:26:31 GMT -5
Take it from me, I'd be willing to bet that probably at least half (or more) of those guys making fun of you ARE virgins themselves!! They're so full of crap and probably scared to death that someone else will figure out that they're virgins so they find someone to pick on...you. And your name may have something to do with it too.
My husband was 20 when he first lost his virginity, and my last serious boyfriend before him was also 20 when he lost his. My best guy friends were 18 and 21 when they lost theirs and I could go on and on.
I can think of guys I went to high school with, who would brag about "doing it" with one of my friends or even me and it was complete crap...all a load of bull.
So, don't worry about those morons. You have much less to worry about than they do, like getting the girl pregnant, and STDs. Plus, trust me, there's a girl out there who will be very thankful some day that you waited, and will pass by all those idiots.
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Post by RollingStone on Jul 16, 2003 16:33:13 GMT -5
I think it's really cruel how people are judged as "losers"
if they don't lose their virginity by a certain age. (No pun intended!) I once heard a guy scornfully talk about "30-year-old virgins who still live with their parents." I'm not 30 yet, and I'm a college student, so I don't live with my parents all the time, but that still hurt. Maybe because being one of those people someday is my worst nightmare!
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Post by g3netix on Jul 17, 2003 17:22:23 GMT -5
this subject makes me just cry
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Post by RollingStone on Jul 18, 2003 16:29:34 GMT -5
Ha ha. Very funny. LOL.  |
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Post by g3netix on Jul 28, 2003 17:36:50 GMT -5
dont laugh rolling!  |
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Post by bitchbded on Jan 14, 2004 10:03:42 GMT -5
nothing knocks a girl sick more than over confident males. i telling you they are the ones that get the most knock backs, the only time a lad with that kind of attitude gets a girl is when she wants to waste her v on him. never put a time limit on sex. just go with what feels right.
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Post by Agravein on Jan 18, 2004 4:32:35 GMT -5
I'm 21 and still a virgin, I don't care so much about it realy, I just don't get the point with many sexual partners, call me crazy, but it actualy sounds rather lame to me.
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Post by Mexico Traveler on Jan 18, 2004 18:43:26 GMT -5
Most guys who push and bully others, haven't experienced sex themselves. Sex is usually an enjoyable experience and there are exceptions to anything. I know of people who didn't lose their virginity until their late 20's. Many people just wait for a variety of reasons..saving for a "special someone", wait until they marry, etc. When you have sex it is your own personal decision and don't allow yourself to be bullied into something you don't feel you are ready for. Having sex is not the end of the world.....!  |
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Post by greedy_goddess on Jan 19, 2004 16:58:10 GMT -5
Well at least you can still say you're a Virgin, and you should be proud that you are. I don't beleive in Pre- marital sex. I'm not a virgin,but I was also sexually abused and therefore that's why I'm not a Virgin.
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Post by EdgedInBlue on Jan 21, 2004 1:42:40 GMT -5
Well at least you can still say you're a Virgin, and you should be proud that you are. I don't beleive in Pre- marital sex. I'm not a virgin,but I was also sexually abused and therefore that's why I'm not a Virgin. I have to disagree with your last statement. Technically, no you're not but any reasonable person can conclude that you have never consented to sex and therefore, you are still a virgin |
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Post by bitchbded on Jan 21, 2004 12:11:31 GMT -5
does anyone here know what virginity means? it means the physical side... the act of penetration! why u think mary was still one? why you think joseph thought she'd had her way with someone else. sadly greedy goddess ur not physically a virgin. you have knowledge of what its like losing your virginity. you not a virgin anymore because you have this knowledge.
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Post by Naptaq on Jan 21, 2004 18:38:50 GMT -5
so how is a girl suposed to know that her's guy is still a virgin.. how does the act of penetration show on him(it)?
it dosent, i gues you just have to belive the one who say's so..
hmm i dunno why am i sayin things y'all already know..4 all of ya that care to know im 18 and still a virgin.. i think im gonna be a virgin for some time to come. well im not exactly pround per se but sayin "im waiting for someone special" sounds good yah.. but i think it's not that important
and there is this other thing.. what about if a girl gives a blow job.. cus some would say that that's sex, but u don't get the physcal aspect of it the penetration
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