Post by Angelas Ashes on Jul 10, 2003 10:00:17 GMT -5
I am 24 and shy. I seperated from my boyfriend a year ago. We lived together for 6 years. I still feel as bad now as I did the day we split. I don't think I will ever stop loving him. Well, I got a phone call from him yesterday telling me that he had found a few old things of mine. Books and stuff from school. He wanted to know what he wanted me to do with them. I managed to blurt out that he should put them in the bin. I also told him never to contact me again. I was in tears all night. I know our relationship is over but why does silly things like this hurt somuch?
6 years is a long time. I've always hoped I'll always love the girls I've loved, and I wasn't with them a tenth of that time. And, I cried about one for several hours a couple years later. I think love is never a bad thing. What comes out of the love(actions or thoughts) might be, but not love.
I DO think the pain will go, eventually. though. Talking about it would probably help you get over it faster. Help you actually SEE where all the problems are instead of letting them fester in the back of your mind. Or fester in the front of your mind with overanalyzing.
I know eaxctly what you are going through, Angela. I've been there; done that. Time will never remove the pain completely, but it does let you come to terms with your seperation. Spitzig has given some good advice. Talking about it with somebody does work.
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Dear Angela, i feel sorry for you. I feel heart broken too for the second time with the same boyfriend. And i was the one breaking up with him in the first place. It depends maybe why you two broke up. Was it maybe over things you didnt talk about over the 6 yrs ? Do you feel maybe that there is still a chance of getting back together ? do you feel like there wasnt closure? It may take more time to heal but it will..you have to believe that. if you dont, you will not be able to open up for something new and beautifull that is destined to come your way...Give yourself time..and i think it s natural that you will think about it from time to time even maybe in 5 years from now.. Good luck & hugs
Sometimes pain that doesnt go away and a lingering over things like this is a sign of something else that needs dealing with. six years is a long time its almost a lifestyle, virtually having to live your life differently. but any length of time when your in love and commited seems years, i been with my bf for 2 and a half years when i lost him life wasnt worth living. i know how it feels to lose your purpose. i would wake up in the morning and couldnt eat my toast because it was a day without mike being there... i cant give u any advice cos i react the same as u, i really hope you find some comfort. nik x