Post by Slim Shady P on Oct 31, 2003 18:41:13 GMT -5
Allright. I've been working on this young woman at work for several months now. We don't see each other most days, and if we do it's for maybe 5 to 20 min. only. Anyhow, we're on a pretty friendly level. She does, however, have a live in boyfriend. In a year or so I've only heard her talk about him 3 times... 1) yeah he's just kind of like a friend I live with, he doesn't feel like a boyfriend (it's her house). 2) Sorry I didn't make it out to meet you all, my boyfriend and I got into such a big fight I just knew I couldn't have a good time. 3) oh crap I brought my stupid boyfriends phone to work and now all his friends keep calling me. I'll have to kick his a$$ when I get home.
Now, I'm pretty sure that these days it's a financial thing more than anything why she doesn't throw him out. This girl NEVER goes out. Granted she's pretty busy with work and school. But she never goes out with anyone, not just us from work. So it's hard enough to get her to go out in a group thing. I also think she might have a little bit low esteem (don't we all?) that might have something to do with why she doesn't lose him.
Normally, when you have a friend who has a boyfriend/girlfriend, in the course of a year or so you hear about them a lot. It just comes up in conversation.. I know it did when I ws involved. So she never really talks about this dude, and when she does it's not really good.
ok my ? . So how do you know, once you've taken time to build up a friendship (I'm pretty sure she's the kinda girl every guy hits on. . . at my work that's true...) so I've tried to be cool and be her friend -- its working. At the same time, I'm pretty darn sure she knows my intentions. I pay her compliments when appropriate (and try to build up her esteem enough to take them and not just blush) and I keep good eye contact. I smile alot etc... so how do I know when's a good time to say look, why don't you dump that bum and come over with #1? hehe. or when should I ask her out?
Thanks all
Now, I'm pretty sure that these days it's a financial thing more than anything why she doesn't throw him out. This girl NEVER goes out. Granted she's pretty busy with work and school. But she never goes out with anyone, not just us from work. So it's hard enough to get her to go out in a group thing. I also think she might have a little bit low esteem (don't we all?) that might have something to do with why she doesn't lose him.
Normally, when you have a friend who has a boyfriend/girlfriend, in the course of a year or so you hear about them a lot. It just comes up in conversation.. I know it did when I ws involved. So she never really talks about this dude, and when she does it's not really good.
ok my ? . So how do you know, once you've taken time to build up a friendship (I'm pretty sure she's the kinda girl every guy hits on. . . at my work that's true...) so I've tried to be cool and be her friend -- its working. At the same time, I'm pretty darn sure she knows my intentions. I pay her compliments when appropriate (and try to build up her esteem enough to take them and not just blush) and I keep good eye contact. I smile alot etc... so how do I know when's a good time to say look, why don't you dump that bum and come over with #1? hehe. or when should I ask her out?
Thanks all