Anybody tried speed dating as a way to meet members of the opposite sex and/or overcome shyness?
I'm signed up for Dec. 3rd, will meet ~20 women for 5 minutes each, plus mingling pre, post, and during a midway break. I thought it would be a great way to get lots of practice at small talk and, maybe, flirting or being mildly forward.
Any thoughts or experience?
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You know, I think I'm tempted by the idea - I don't meet single women in my day-to-day life at all, and joining lots of clubs, societies seems a roundabout, artificial way of doing it, when, in the end, I'm only after one thing, a relationship.
I know from conversations with work colleagues that talking to a woman for 3 minutes isn't exactly an impossible task for me.
Plus, you don't have to worry about this 'reading the signals' crap - you know they're looking, because they turned up, and if they tick the box with your name on it, then you know they're interested! That's a whole level of uncertainty removed.
My only concern is that if nobody at all shows an interest in me, then it could knock back my self-esteem a long way. And that's not being negative, it's evaluating a risk - I don't think it would come to that, because I do know that, shyness apart, I'm OK-looking and nice and can be funny if I click with someone. But I want to build my self-esteem up to the point where it could survive a knock like that, if it happened.
Plus I'm worried at never having had a relationship before - at what point do I confess that I don't know what the hell I'm doing???
Last Edit: Jan 30, 2004 20:35:59 GMT -5 by Placido