Post by SADdaydreamer on Dec 2, 2003 1:38:15 GMT -5
Just curious, when imagining your "soul mate" or just simply what you look for in the opposite sex, do you picture them as a shy person or extrovert? Someone said to me in a previous post: "you're looking for a shy girl? Who would talk? u need someone to maintain the conversation" This is true, but at the same time I imagine a shy girl would understand/accept me and love me the most equalling more compatible. But then again they say opposites attract. I'm not sure what to think now...
Shy is not the opposite of extrovert. Introvert is. An introvert tends to prefer smaller social scenes and having more, better friends. There is not the social anxiety with introversion that shyness has. Obviously, it's possible to be both shy and introverted. I tend to think a shy extrovert would have a more difficult time, preferring larger social scenes, but being anxious at them.
As for shyness, I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I think of anxiety as something to get over.
As for introversion/extroversion, an extroverted girl might push me more, in helping me get over being shy. Going out, doing social things, whatever. I might be more comfortable not being pushed by an introverted girl. Just doing things with the two of us. Once I'm comfortable with someone, and know things that we have in common, I can usually hold a conversation.