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Post by canisay182 on Jan 19, 2004 23:56:21 GMT -5
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Post by Placido on Jan 20, 2004 6:24:53 GMT -5
I'm 30 and never had a girlfriend - if that doesn't make you feel better, nothing will!
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Post by shushyou on Jan 20, 2004 18:41:35 GMT -5
You're only 13, there should be no pressure to get a boyfriend yet. There are probably a lot more girls in your grade who haven't had a date than you think, don't feel like you need to, and don't feel horrible about it. And having experience of being a 13 year old boy myself once upon a time, you aren't really missing out on that much. They're very immature. Don't worry about the 'joke', the boy probably didn't realise how much it upset you, he was probably just trying to act cool in front of his friends. (see what I mean about boys that age) Don't presume when someone asks you out from now its going to be a joke, there will be guys who want to go out with you.
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Post by spitzig on Jan 20, 2004 19:05:47 GMT -5
Sounds like me, too. When I was in the 8th grade, this kid who used to pick on me asked every girl in the grade if she'd go out with me. Obviously, to embarrass or insult me. I didn't have a date until my senior year in high school. How do you know who has not gone on dates? Most people don't advertise when they DON'T go on dates. Unless you go to a small school, 5 girls sounds like a pretty small number. Just because you'd guess that a girl has been on a date doesn't mean she has. Actually, 13 doesn't seem that late to be starting to date, anyway. I didn't really start getting interested in girls until around then. Before then, my interest was basically just an occasional "ooh, she's pretty". By some coincidence, interest in the opposite sex often starts at puberty.  |
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Post by Alecto on Jan 20, 2004 20:09:47 GMT -5
You remind me of how I was at age 13. I was the only one of my friends that didn't have a boyfriend. Anyway, that kid that asked you out sounds like a jerk that was just trying to be "cool" with his friends. Don't worry about it. 13 is an age where you should be having fun and not stressing over guys, but if you do find a good guy thats great!
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Post by mere phantom on Jan 20, 2004 20:29:44 GMT -5
at 13 you shouldnt worry about it
if you do you will continue to worry about it for much longer
just live life now, you got plenty of years left
sure others maybe already dating or hanging out but who cares, they will be divorced at 19
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Post by EdgedInBlue on Jan 21, 2004 1:34:10 GMT -5
It seems like you're looking for love and affection in all the wrong places. First off, a 13 year old boy doesn't know the first thing about women or relationships. They're immature, idiotic and when it comes down to it, they aren't going to make you feel any more socially secure than you do now. Now, when you're an item, theres going to be a lot of gossip circulating campus and that will certainly be a burden. Stupid people talking much too much about trivial issues can become a huge problem. Perhaps the biggest issue here is the fact that you are searching high and low for a guy who's willing to go out with you. I was there at your age and I'll tell you now, from the way you've explained your dilemma, you're going to land yourself in a world of trouble one of these days. The "any jerk will work" policy is never a good one and what usually happens is you'll commit to a relationship and everything else he asks for because you don't want him to break up with you. please, wait and be a little picky about who you date. |
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Post by Sandy on Feb 12, 2004 23:23:52 GMT -5
13? Do you realize how young you are? Kids that age don't even have a clue how to be in a 'relationship.' I'm not putting you down, I'm just concerned that there is so much pressure to start so YOUNG! You are still developing both physically and mentally, and you really don't want to make any mistakes that you cannot undue. Just be careful. That's all.  |
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Post by Ghost on Feb 27, 2004 14:07:52 GMT -5
I agree with Sandy. When I was 13 I was not even thinking of dating. Neither were my friends. I am rather puzzled why there is so much pressure on the dating thing. You just start with puberty. The dating people I have known, didn't had a boy or girlfriend until they were at least 16. Another person hasn't ever dated and he is about 20. I can't add more, because all I wanted to write is already written by the other posters . |
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Post by canisay182 on Mar 6, 2004 0:20:51 GMT -5
sorry guys but people are dating at younger ages now. people were dating in the fith grade! its not like the days where not having dates until college was normal.  people expect more to happen sooner now and i dont want a boyfriend just cause of that. its kinda pathetic but im one of those super romantic people that cries at the end of every romantic movie in existence no matter how stupid it is. yeah i know its dumb but its true.  P.S. im not trying to be mean but its true. sorry if it was rude though. |
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Post by spitzig on Mar 6, 2004 1:57:33 GMT -5
sorry guys but people are dating at younger ages now. people were dating in the fith grade! its not like the days where not having dates until college was normal. people expect more to happen sooner now and i dont want a boyfriend just cause of that. I remember people dating earlier than that when I was a kid. They might not have labelled it dating, though. Just because people are dating in the fifth grade doesn't mean that is "standard" or anything. And, it's not something you can ask around about to find out how many people do this. People have reason to lie--impressing people. BUT, more relevant, since what others are doing is not important: How long have you been wanting to date guys? Since you haven't been in puberty long, I'm guessing not long. |
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Post by Ghost on Mar 7, 2004 18:13:27 GMT -5
sorry guys but people are dating at younger ages now. people were dating in the fith grade! its not like the days where not having dates until college was normal. But..but...! I am not that old! *sputter sputter*  Then don't . I think that some kids date way too soon. I don't mean innocent dating, who just kiss and call the other their girlfriend or boyfriend, but the "serious stuff". Barely any relationship lasts from teenage years. And those who last for a longer period, are relationships which have started when the youngest of the couple was abou 16. I guess that at that age some have had some maturity. And that is the main problem. Teenage guys are hormone driven. Not all, but most are. Or act like it to fit in. The girls who are honest and still have that idea of the knight in shiny armor in their head, can fall easy victim for guys who only go for pretty girls for status and/or flings and sex. Girls are in general more emotional. They become attached and think that if they give their all, their realtionshipo with dream dude will improve and make him stay. But most of the time, such a guy doe not share those feelings at all and doesn't have any empathy or share the love and respect. They will dump their girls and move on to the next, maybe someone easier, less "demanding". That is something extremely painful. I don't say that will happen to you, but just to point out that teen guys are not such gentleman. Wiith other words: teens, with emphasis at those in their begin teens, are to immature to even understand the concept of commitment or relationship. Do I sound old now? Nah Blu, it's not stupid that you cry at the ends of movies I have had times that I read a book and when my vision became blurry, I would peptalk myself not to cry, because I wouldn't be able to read the book any further . Also, many people cry at films. Men will not be likely to admit if they do and some women like "cry movies". And don't worry, you were not rude I know you're right And this is a board to speak up your mind what bothers you and to discuss after all, so if you want to say something, spit it out . |
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Post by laura on Jun 17, 2004 20:43:18 GMT -5
i've had jerks ask me out on a date just to get a laugfh out of their friends. it's really horrible. Because i am shy and hardly talk people do not get to know me or see the funny side of me. i'm 16 and never had a boyfirend but i really really want one. i go to a small school and live in a small town and everyone has clicks with people with the town's big names. i have alwyas considered myslef decent looking but recently 2 popular guys were walking down the hall and i was walking the other way. we were the only ones in the hall and as i walked by they kinda looked at me then when they got to the end of the hall they siad "wow what a nice ass, i bet her boyfriend is really lucky." but they siad it sarcastcally. what hurts me the most is that i don't think they said it to ghet a reaction out of me but thats thats what they actually thought. i got really depressed after that and thats what made me finally go to the dr.s for medicine. i had social anxeity for almost all of my life and it kept getting worse. now i'm even more slef conscious about my apperance. this is not the first time thev'e said things either. one of the same popular guys and his friends called me a whore in the hall (which i am definatly not). i've given up on finding a boyfriend before college and even then i'm afriad i will never get one.  |
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Post by Boblouie58 on Jun 18, 2004 0:55:49 GMT -5
Blu & Laura- wow! what the two of you worry about and basically from different perspectives.  At both of your ages, you should be going out with friends and having a good times, as messing around with boys at any age will get you into a heap of trouble faster than you can shout..."what happened"? Blu your time will come and I really can't believe your parents will let you date, no matter what everyone else does. Most of "us" do what's right and in a certain time-frame and not b/c someone esle does it!!! Laura, just be yourself and your time will come when a guy asks you to go out. Remember, its not impossible for you to ask a guy to do something if they don't ask you? Whatever, you have plenty of time for your dating life to take on new meaning. Blu...what's the rush? You have no idea what you are about to get yourself into by dating too soon. Get some smarts and maturity under your belt before messing up your life, big time. Boys at this age really don't care for girls as you think they will. Dating is just a game! Wait until it means more, like when you are 18 or 20.  |
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Post by Victor on Jun 18, 2004 6:36:16 GMT -5
When I was in high school there was a girl who would make fun of me by pretending she wanted to go out with me then there were the guys who would go up to various girls and ask them if they wanted to go out with me (which would usually result in them saying something like "ewwwww.")
Well, I'm 23 now and have still not been on my first date (and am not expecting it to happen).
Boo-freakin'-hoo.
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people expect more to happen sooner now and i dont want a boyfriend just cause of that. its kinda pathetic but im one of those super romantic people that cries at the end of every romantic movie in existence no matter how stupid it is. yeah i know its dumb but its true. 
At both of your ages, you should be going out with friends and having a good times, as messing around with boys at any age will get you into a heap of trouble faster than you can shout..."what happened"? Blu your time will come and I really can't believe your parents will let you date, no matter what everyone else does. Most of "us" do what's right and in a certain time-frame and not b/c someone esle does it!!!