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Post by Naomi on Feb 1, 2004 7:10:02 GMT -5
I have never really gotten over the breakup with my fiance two years ago. We had been together for 7 years. Sine the breakup I cannot on emotionally. I seem to have put him on a pedastal. Has anybody else done the same? Any advice for moving on?
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Post by CaryGrant on Feb 1, 2004 20:34:05 GMT -5
How to move on: always a very painful experience for me, because I tended to think I would NEVER find anyone to match the woman I lost/left.
Advice from a shrink I saw: create a mental break from the ex. Put away any old photos and other reminders Every time you think about how wonderful he was, allow yourself to remember a way in which he was not so perfect.
Tell yourself there is someone else out there for you, in fact probably several. Eventually, you will believe it. It helps if you start focusing on others - you'll begin to see other men who are attractive to you in some way, perhaps not as perfect as your ex, but not all bad, either. Eventually you'll be able to see him with some objectivity, and realise that he was not perfect, and apparently not even perfect for you, or you'd still be together.
How long this takes depends upon how much pain you let yourself endure to be objective and your ability to have faith that there could be someone else someday. Or, preferably, to accept yourself.
Best wishes to you...but I bet you've already done more work than you realise. Once you decide to let him go, it will go quickly.
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