im so depressed. Id been going out with this shy guy for 3 months and yesterday he told me he didnt feel any love for me and could no longer carry on as my boyfriend. I was just starting to love him and this happens. i dont know why im so sad, cos i knew he was gonna dump me, before valentines day too. i just felt he wasnt comfortable around me. I thought he was gorgeous and really cute. He wants to stay friends and i said ok. i dont know if thats a good idea. I just feel really bad today, yesterday i was better believe it or not cos it was like a relief. I was always worrying about if he really liked me/ how long it was gonna last, but today its hit me. Ive got no where to go, noone to see now, nothing to do at weekends.
Hey Magika, very sorry to hear this. At least it wasn't a complete surprise. I just posted on Placido's "Weekends are Death" thread - check it out. I finally took the advice my sister, various therapists, and others gave me over the years: build a circle of close friends, and then it won't be as bad when something like this happens.
All the best...
Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days... What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has magic, power, and genius in it.
I know how ya pheel But I've been dumped because I'm socially handicapped I'm 31 (veRyCuTe)lol And I haven't had a relationship since '94. I guess I'm taking the safe route by not gettin' involved. Any I know it's hard Blieve me, but keep your head up. He's the one who lost out.
"If a man who cannot count finds a four-leaf clover, is he entitled to happiness?"
Being dumped is especially difficult for the shy. When you're dumped it announces to the world that there is something wrong with you, at least that's how it feels.-not true It also puts you in a position of needing to reach out for support, not easy for the shy who usually doubt that their friends like them for real anyway.-feels like panic And to top it all off the shy tend to be with someone who is somewhat extroverted (for balance) and who helped them meet people and make friends. Now it's like you've been dropped in a foreign place and those few people who contact you are saying go out, make friends (and then they stop calling b'cs they're sick of the heartbreak stories). Your Mom is saying go out, make friends. The world is saying 'see everyone else is doing it, move on"
I know, a little ranting but what I am trying to say is that break ups/ dumpings are especially difficult for the shy. And we can pretend to enjoy the solitude for just so long before it becomes isolation. Best wishes, hang in there. We will endure.
you have been dumped... meaning somepone dumped you which means ytou have nothing to do with his decision, else he would have explained it to you. after a few months you will forget about him, in the meantime, get out, see other people, your friends, do not stay alone, try to get busy. The busier you are the less you will think about him.
I think you feel more pain about missing the companion to fill and spend your time with, then hurt about your boyfriend self.
In a odd way, it is good that he broke off the relation now. As you wrote, you just started to feel for him. Wit other words: would this have continued longer, you would have fallen in love and you would have been way more heart broken then you are now.
Also, according to your post, neither of you seemed to feel the girl-boy love (so you both were nothing much more then friends), until you recent started to feel for him.
As I wrote, in a warped way it is a good thing, because now you have not the incredible heart soar one would have when that person is deeply in love with someone else.
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Exactly they weren't meant to be, which is an excellent reason to move on to another guy who is more compatible with her. People break up everyday, I don't want to lessen her situation but it is okay if you break up, it did happen to him certainly and maybe it will happen again to her, nothing to be ashamed of or toi point fingers at who did what... Now you must consider yourself free to meet other people, not dumped. Some labels must be erase.
For her again: Life is good, enjoy yourself and take good care of yourself. And mostly: do not look back and refuse that anybody makes you look back.