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Post by CaryGrant on May 7, 2004 10:38:55 GMT -5
dc - it sounds like she is testing you a bit, which is not a bad thing - it means she's interested. Signs that I interpreted as testing are the question about whether you've ever had a girlfriend, possibly the part about checking her shift, and the vibe you're getting.
Testing can also equal being played in a positive sense. I would guess that she likes you but is trying to see what you're made of. Eg: are you desperate to be with her, can she manipulate you, do you have your own values that you adhere to?
It's ok to be shy, but be firm in what you think is important - don't be saying or doing things just to please her, or she'll see you as weak. If she asks you questions that you don't want to answer, make a fun joke out of them. Eg: Q: "Have you ever had a g/f?" A: "Well, I used to be a male escort - do those women count?" She's just testing you, and you're under no obligation to answer anything. You should be asking her questions, to see if SHE qualifies.
Whether you never get together or end up married with twelve kids, this will be a great learning experience!
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Post by Boblouie58 on May 7, 2004 13:00:23 GMT -5
DC- sounds good so far. Dating is about experiences none of which you need to tell the girl about..your past. Its actually none of her business. You ask her questions, as women like to know a man is interested in her. This is not to say, not to talk about yourself, but if I were you, I wouldn't talk about past relationships..good or bad. Who wants to hear about a beau from someone's past? You want to become her present beau and have her dote on you. Keep up the good work and if she doesn't pan out, you will be much better with experience for the next girl. Practice, practice, practice..makes for better and better dating relationships. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Post by dcguy18 on May 8, 2004 1:48:39 GMT -5
dc - it sounds like she is testing you a bit, which is not a bad thing - it means she's interested. Signs that I interpreted as testing are the question about whether you've ever had a girlfriend, possibly the part about checking her shift, and the vibe you're getting. Testing can also equal being played in a positive sense. I would guess that she likes you but is trying to see what you're made of. Eg: are you desperate to be with her, can she manipulate you, do you have your own values that you adhere to? It's ok to be shy, but be firm in what you think is important - don't be saying or doing things just to please her, or she'll see you as weak. If she asks you questions that you don't want to answer, make a fun joke out of them. Eg: Q: "Have you ever had a g/f?" A: "Well, I used to be a male escort - do those women count?" She's just testing you, and you're under no obligation to answer anything. You should be asking her questions, to see if SHE qualifies. Whether you never get together or end up married with twelve kids, this will be a great learning experience! It's kinda hare to flip the game around since we minly talk on the phone two times. Though I told her I may not do many social things (my club at the moment no longer having meeting due to needing a new location I have my job search and my friends to keep me busy. SHE liked me first and from there I started liking her only like a year ago I went to an computer school to try to enroll in there was a girl there asking me why i wanted to go there, me to relax and smile, etc when the teacher was in the bathroom. Though something could've happened in the long run, I wasnt able to go there then before a girl I couldve gotten with her rubbing on my personal area in front of other people but like you said about the female test was too nice ad stayed a "friend" left the school shorty after. This was two years ago; I do have more stories then those two but I moving off point.... I wanted to call her on wed I wanted to call her, but my two friends were both off on the same night so we went to the movies (that was a big misadventure altogether) and also asking them for advice on my problem though one of them didnt think it was true at first they told me to pursue her. All in all I have a good life could be better, but I'm working on that. I just need a job pay for school, go to school, and self worth fulfilled. Female or not...
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Post by dcguy18 on May 9, 2004 22:34:01 GMT -5
Why i feel like I am? A few days ago someone callled my house both me and my mother picked it up at the same time. Both of us was saying hello telling the other to put it down in the end she did but the caller the who time didnt say anything hung up on me. I checked my caller ID it was a private number. like the girl I know if it was her because if it was for my mother they wouldve said something from the start.
Now tonight after thinking it over to myself if I dont get a date this week excuses or not I won't at all. I called her not very friendly to me making some small talk about what's going on at my house (sisters and nephew and niece visiting my mother) told her I can meet her tomorrow at the time and place after asking if she's still free on monday (also letting it seems like I had to make sure of my plan after friday and saturday and she's telling me to call her tomorrow.
I told her ok. At this point If I feel I lost the inital battles then my morale for the war is over. Im now faced with the fact I willl get stood up on monday but I will eat at the JR there anyway get my ice cream and with the free ticket I have, go see Van Helsing.
In the end my first draw.
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Post by l0ner on May 10, 2004 15:43:43 GMT -5
If you get stood up, why make it worse by seeing Van Helsing?
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Post by dcguy18 on May 10, 2004 16:18:07 GMT -5
If VH is that bad then I'll just see a bootleg of it and keep the free ticket. ;D
I went there at 4 waited around for 15 mins (while playing tetris on my phone to pass the time) and came back home. Im keeping my money in hopes of a job interview I have tomorrow works out I will then be working by this week. T
Then Ill have a good time because I got a job not eating over getting stood up. With the job I can go back to college and meet many more girls.
I won't call her anymore nor mention the date if she does call me but will be pretty blunt with her about this whole situation. If I have to curse her out a little just to get a date then she's not worth my time (tests are fine and all but not with girls I havent met caually yet and playing phine tag with)also my calls to her give me the impression that she kinda imature, (she 18 btw) With her rap music on her answering machine, caually cursing in a conversation we had on the phone, and now being a flake.
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Post by Green Dog on May 10, 2004 17:19:42 GMT -5
DC- you know life sucks! Dating girls sucks when it doesn't go like you want it too, but seriously, dating isn't an easy thing to do..be it from a male point of view or a female. Trying to find anyone to date who likes what you like is difficult. You hope to find such a girl as we all do, but dates in the 16-25 range have difficulty knowing what each other really wants and how to explain it to the other person. Being blunt and to the point may make you feel good, but its not necessarily what is the best thing to do. I can't tell you what the best thing to do, you have to learn this from trial and error. Good luck and stay focused on what you want out of life and if a girlfriend is in the offing then deal with this the best you can.
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Post by dcguy18 on May 10, 2004 20:05:02 GMT -5
Thank Green
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Post by dcguy18 on May 12, 2004 22:21:05 GMT -5
dcguy- if this doesn't pan out will you still be able to shop at that market? I'm with Sushiboat, give it a few days and see if she calls. Say by Sunday you haven't heard from her.....you can do the face to face or call her again. Probably makes no difference other than face to face..you WILL GET an answer where on the phone so never has to answer if she has caller ID. Well relating to that problem it's not one tomorrow i need to buy some food for the household and I dont care if she's there. It a big supermarket with othe checkout lines and I wont give her the satifaction of being arkward around her just head smile hello if she see's me I dont have time to have her think Im stalking her. Today was great for me because I got a job ;D I will be working in a CVS photolab after I do the training class 7.50 an hour whichs mean money for school in the fall,.(with lots of ladies to be around with ) Now I can get my computer certification this summer go to a anime convention(though alone since my club had to disband but there one at the college I'm going to tranfer to) and other casaully things I can do with spending money now. I'll keep busy and when I'm not excepting it there will be a cutie for me. Until that time I going to handle my business and become a better me GN
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Post by l0ner on May 13, 2004 0:23:29 GMT -5
I commend your attitude.
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Post by iroseiroared2 on Jul 26, 2004 4:20:17 GMT -5
Hey DC, I skimmed through the whole thread, pretty interesting story. I am also going through a situation where I'm waiting to see if a certain guy is interested in me still.. he supposedly was and now I like him a lot too but I don't know if we'll ever go on a date or whatever. But anyway, yeah that girl mighta just been a tease or something. Girls can be evil too. I'm glad that you're feeling positive about yourself.. the positive thing about these kinda things not working out is that you it makes you a lot stronger.. I know people say that a lot but it's true. Always stand up for yourself and what you believe in. You WILL meet the right girl someday!
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Post by Naptaq on Jul 27, 2004 15:40:36 GMT -5
yea i read all this thread also and it's like.. a good beggining with a sad ending. but hey that's life. and yea someday when u'll least expect it u'll find HER damn i love the sound of that
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