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Post by matt1973 on Aug 10, 2004 6:28:18 GMT -5
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Hi all
i am new here so any help would be welcome.
the situation is i fancy a girl who ive bumped into 3 times now. She is a mate of my best mates girlfriend. We have met up at my mates house for late drinks after the bars have shut and have stayed up talking and stuff till the early hours. Me and this girl have talked a bit and made eye contact. My mate always jokes ans says why dont you two hook up together and go on a date. Me and this girl have shared a taxi home together and thats when we have got to know eachother more and she awlays ask questions and opinions from me and things she does. we make good eye contact and we sit close together and she sometimes turns and faces me. I sense there is something there so i make jokes and nudge her sometimes to flirt etc.
im still a bit confused and not totally sure if she like me or just trying to be friends. The last time i was in a cab last week i said why dont the 4 of us hook up and go out for some drinks together and she said yes definatly.
the thing is she is 21 and im 30. Her mate said she has no confidence with men and finds it hard to get one. This makes me more confused if she likes me. I still think i need a stronger signal from her to make a more postive move to date her on her own. Or im a totally reading her wrong? Thats why i need some help please guys!
Thank you.
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Post by sushiboat on Aug 10, 2004 8:22:15 GMT -5
Just ask her out. She obviously likes you, and whether she likes you as a friend or as a boyfriend may depend on what you do. If you do nothing, you'll always be just a friend.
If she says no, it's not the end of the world. Life goes on, and you can still be friends.
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Post by CaryGrant on Aug 10, 2004 11:53:12 GMT -5
What sushi said. It's obvious to me, too, that she likes you in that way. I posted the results of a Men's Health survey awhile back, in which it said that only 25% of women will somehow signal that they like a guy; the other 75% will do NOTHING.
Ask her out, make it something fun rather than an official 'dinner and movie' date. You're evaluating her, too. Trust your intuition, which is telling you she likes you - it's your fear that saying maybe not.
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Post by mat1973 on Aug 11, 2004 8:37:05 GMT -5
Thanks for all the advice. I will ask her out when i hopefully see her next. My mate said i can get her number for you if you want and then you can ring her. But i think this is a desperate looking route?. Like i said hopefully when i see her i would rather do it face to face
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Post by Kitten on Aug 11, 2004 9:13:50 GMT -5
There's nothing desperate about asking a girl out over the phone--in fact, it's probably better that way, as it reduces the level of awkwardness at both ends and shows that you're interested in her apart from hanging out with the group. It really sounds as if she likes you too and is waiting for you to make the first move. Go for it, and good luck!
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Post by CaryGrant on Aug 12, 2004 13:25:37 GMT -5
What Kitten said. Not desperate - it shows confidence, actually, getting her number from someone else and then calling.
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Post by mat1973 on Aug 14, 2004 16:50:26 GMT -5
well i suggested to my mate that we go out this weekend as a four and he declined the offer. He said that he spends too much time with his girlfriend So i told hime to get her number.This was friday and he still hasn't got back to me. I dont know what to think now. I may just forget and just see what develops in time.What do you think guys? Matt
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Post by CaryGrant on Aug 17, 2004 16:40:40 GMT -5
If you're going to see her again soon, then you could wait. On the other hand, if you don't, and your friend hasn't gotten the number by today, then ask him again.
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Post by mat1973 on Aug 19, 2004 9:10:05 GMT -5
Well.....my mate said that his girlfriend will get the number and he will give it too me in a few days and this was sunday. Its now Thursday and no answer so far. So i guess she doesn't want to give her number out.
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Post by sushiboat on Aug 19, 2004 11:31:46 GMT -5
Never assume that the answer is no until you hear it directly. There are three other people involved, so any one of them could cause the delay in ways totally unrelated to the girl's interest in you.
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Post by CaryGrant on Aug 19, 2004 14:00:49 GMT -5
What sushi said. I have a (female) friend interested in a guy going through exactly the same situation, and it took two weeks and several reminders to get email addresses.
Also, women generally admire persistent men (not stalkers!), so she may actually be impressed that you went to some trouble to get her number. It shows you as a determined, confident guy.
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Post by mat1973 on Aug 22, 2004 16:36:22 GMT -5
Well its been over a week now and my mate has still not got back to me, after he said his girlfriend will get her mate's number for me. i tried to ring me a few times but no answer! I find it weird how he has not told me the outcome.
Thnaks for the advice guys
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