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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 4, 2004 12:25:21 GMT -5
I'm also tall and i hate that. I wish I was shorter I like my height; I think my height is perfect. It is the fact that I was born with a brain that leads to acting shy is what I dislike. Therefore, this leads to limited friendships and more importantly no dates yet and maybe never if I can't learn to force myself open my mouth and say something to women I am attracted to.
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Post by Tall guy on Sept 5, 2004 1:07:25 GMT -5
how tall are you? I'm about 1,9 metres. Because of my height I've got some back problems. Every time when I pass supermarket I look at the window and see how terrible (in my mind) my back is. However at home it's ok. I know that in the reality my back isn't so bad, but...
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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 5, 2004 15:28:37 GMT -5
how tall are you? I'm about 1,9 metres. Because of my height I've got some back problems. Every time when I pass supermarket I look at the window and see how terrible (in my mind) my back is. However at home it's ok. I know that in the reality my back isn't so bad, but... My morning height is about 196.4 cm but I shrink to about 193.7 cm at night. So my back does curve quite a bit through the gravitational pull during the day but I think that is normal for everyone. I am still young so I don't have any major problems yet; I lift with my legs to avoid that. You probably need to strengthen your abs that support your back and use your legs to lift not your back. When you do bend over, ensure that you are using your abdominal muscles for support. For example, when you first start doing sit-ups, your back will hurt. (As mine did) However, after you have done them for a while, your abs will be strong enough not to have to use your back as a hinge of support. This obviously relieves the pressure of your back. Taller people need stronger muscles for support like that. It’s obvious because the longer, heavier limbs cause taller men to have a greater rotational resistance. In other words, a 5-foot guy can lift 100 pounds (doing any weightlifting exercise) easier than a 6-foot guy because he has shorter limbs. It takes the shorter guy less work and therefore less energy needed to be exerted to accomplish the task because of the smaller distance in which he has to move the weights. Also, the shorter limbs cause less moment of inertia resisting the strength expelled. No Pain, No Gain!
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Post by Cactus on Sept 7, 2004 18:47:45 GMT -5
This should also apply to asking girls out. Maybe a little revamping is in order though: No "risk of" Pain, No Gain!
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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 7, 2004 19:29:41 GMT -5
This should also apply to asking girls out. Maybe a little revamping is in order though: No "risk of" Pain, No Gain! LOL thanks I was thinking of that; I will try to use it as motivation.
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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 9, 2004 20:25:51 GMT -5
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Post by Cactus on Sept 9, 2004 22:04:19 GMT -5
Wow. It sounds tough to be a short guy. 5', 5'5" with the afro? Man, that's a desperate short person. I'm short, 5'4", but I'm also female. It still sucks to be short though. My friend is beautiful and 5'6" and just those two measly little inches make a huge difference in the amount of attention she gets from guys (o.k. I'm sure her looks don't hurt either ). From the sounds of that link you posted, you haven't got much to worry about. I guess that might be why you call yourself "What Me Worry".
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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 10, 2004 14:12:23 GMT -5
Wow. It sounds tough to be a short guy. 5', 5'5" with the afro? Man, that's a desperate short person. I'm short, 5'4", but I'm also female. It still sucks to be short though. My friend is beautiful and 5'6" and just those two measly little inches make a huge difference in the amount of attention she gets from guys (o.k. I'm sure her looks don't hurt either ). From the sounds of that link you posted, you haven't got much to worry about. I guess that might be why you call yourself "What Me Worry". LOL, you figured it out! Thanks but my problem lies in another dimension – I still have yet to try initiating conversations with women.
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Post by Cactus on Sept 11, 2004 0:22:04 GMT -5
Well, onto another dimension then....(sounds kinda like sci-fi stuff) . So, you know that you're in a fairly good position with regards to what women want, but you what...? Don't have any confidence around them? Think they're going to reject your advances? Can't think of anything to say? Are so shy that, even if you have every intention of approaching someone, physiological reactions get in the way? You said you were born with a brain that leads to acting shy. Are you sure about that or have you just developed shyness due to outside influences while growing up. Perhaps it's due to negative "self-talk". I don't pretend to know because it sounds as if you might be pretty "normal", confident even, in other areas of your life. Ack! How confusing shyness can be! It sounds as though you would probably have a bit of trouble in talking to women that you're attracted to so, why don't you forget about what to say for now and try making eye contact with them instead (maybe you already do this?) and smiling . If they look back at you frequently, then they're probably interested. If you notice this, then you might want to try to find something that would be common ground to chat about. You could just say hi out of the blue, but that might be awkward. If you can make some kind of passing comment (even about the weather, as silly as we all know that is), it might make the transition to an actual conversation easier on both of you. Anyhow, I hope that proves at least somewhat useful.
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Post by Max Power on Sept 12, 2004 21:37:08 GMT -5
I hate to say it but I think we shy guys have it the worst in the dating world….. It seems like this for keys to NOT GETTING DATES: No Talk = No . Well duh! ;D
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Post by Max Power on Sept 12, 2004 21:45:19 GMT -5
I'm short and I wish I was taller, but there's really no point in wishing it because I can't change it. I think tall guys can be just as attractive as short guys no matter how shy or outgoing. A person isn't all about individual traits or qualities. Every person is a package deal and every package is different. I think it's different for short guys than for short women. From the circles that I hang out with, they love short ladies as much as tall ladies. No discrimination whatsoever. Same for me. But are women more picky when it comes to height because it seems more "right" for a man to be taller than his mate? I'm 5'8", wishing I was 6', and I usually balk when it comes to tall women... ok, I balk when it comes to women in general, but tall women especially because I think they would rather go out with someone taller than them, at least that's what I get when browsing the personals online.
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Post by sushiboat on Sept 12, 2004 21:56:12 GMT -5
Hey, watch your quotes! I didn't say the words you put in my mouth!
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Post by Max Power on Sept 12, 2004 22:24:16 GMT -5
Hey, watch your quotes! I didn't say the words you put in my mouth! I know sushiboat, I'm sorry, I don't know how that happened but I'll edit it. It's strange, when I posted it, I saw it had your name, and I don't remember quoting you, I think it was quoted from the person who originally started this thread. Don't know how that happened, but I'll find whoever quoted it and "duh" them. And no need to yell, I didn't purposely do it!
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Post by Max Power on Sept 12, 2004 22:37:45 GMT -5
Hey sushiboat, just to show you I'm not crazy, go to page 1 of this thread, I quoted the fourth post from What Me Worry who said that line. Now click on quote from that post and notice that it quotes what you wrote in the previous reply. There lies the error. I copied and pasted over that because I noticed the error, but didn't notice it had your name until after it was posted. See, I didn't do it on purpose, what kind of quoter do you think I am. ;D Now, what I meant to do was... I hate to say it but I think we shy guys have it the worst in the dating world….. It seems like this for keys to NOT GETTING DATES: No Talk = No Date. “Sad But True” Well duh! ;D
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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 12, 2004 23:19:46 GMT -5
Well, onto another dimension then....(sounds kinda like sci-fi stuff) . So, you know that you're in a fairly good position with regards to what women want, but you what...? Don't have any confidence around them? Think they're going to reject your advances? Can't think of anything to say? Are so shy that, even if you have every intention of approaching someone, physiological reactions get in the way? You said you were born with a brain that leads to acting shy. Are you sure about that or have you just developed shyness due to outside influences while growing up. Perhaps it's due to negative "self-talk". I don't pretend to know because it sounds as if you might be pretty "normal", confident even, in other areas of your life. Ack! How confusing shyness can be! It sounds as though you would probably have a bit of trouble in talking to women that you're attracted to so, why don't you forget about what to say for now and try making eye contact with them instead (maybe you already do this?) and smiling . If they look back at you frequently, then they're probably interested. If you notice this, then you might want to try to find something that would be common ground to chat about. You could just say hi out of the blue, but that might be awkward. If you can make some kind of passing comment (even about the weather, as silly as we all know that is), it might make the transition to an actual conversation easier on both of you. Anyhow, I hope that proves at least somewhat useful. I’m the kind of guy that everyone notices doesn’t talk. Starting as early as kindergarten, I didn’t know how to interact with others and was afraid of interacting socially them so I just played in recess by myself. (Note that I was not physically afraid since I was a tall 5 year old back then and thus bigger than everyone else) Throughout grade school I was known as the “shy/quite kid” even in many of those grades when I had one or a few good friends in which I talked to all the time – it was just that I didn’t talk enough to everyone else or speak up in class. Obviously I have figured out how to interact with people to a certain degree now I fear I have the problem of how to interact and pick up women. Even now, I have trouble looking anyone in the eye while talking to them – especially women I fancy. I remember a situation I had a couple months ago when I was “mindlessly” staring at an older woman, maybe in her mid to late 20’s thinking to myself, wow she’s tall and pretty but significantly older than me. I was kind of in my comfort zone, about 20 feet away in another line. She caught me looking and gave me this big smile while staring at me. Obviously I immediately looked away, (once I stopped being mindless which could have been about 2-3 seconds lol) thinking “what was that?” I didn’t know what to make of it then. Looking back I think she thought I was “something” if she smiled and stared like you said. I was too afraid to look back at her though.
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